The Anger Guilt Cycle In Parenting

25 Oct 2026 · 1 min

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In this bilingual (Hindi/English) excerpt, Riddhi Deorah shares a mother’s confession of shouting at her child, then retreating to the bathroom to cry. Riddhi explains that the anger expressed is not truly about the child but stems from an internalized, unresolved voice inherited from the mother’s own upbringing—a voice that never learned how to feel and was forced to hold everything inside. This suppressed voice erupts onto loved ones, followed by guilt that drives the parent to overcompensate, leaving the child confused. Riddhi emphasizes that breaking this anger‑guilt cycle requires inner healing rather than striving for parental perfection, distinguishing between being "broken" and being "unhealed." The segment ends with a gentle call‑to‑action, inviting viewers to drop a heart in the comments if the message resonated.

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क्यों मारे उसे? आपका दोस्त है ना वो? उसने पहले मारा। ये सिखाया मैंने आपको। इसलिए स्कूल भेजती हूँ मैं। हाँ।
One mother shared with me once in a call that Riddhi, I shouted at my child today and then I locked myself in the bathroom and I cried. And you know what we figured out? It's not because she was sad. It's because she recognized that voice. It wasn't her voice. It was her mother's voice coming out of her mouth. And this is what nobody talks about in parenting. That anger is rarely about our children. It's about the voice that we've not heard for years. The woman who was never taught how to feel. The girl who learned to hold everything inside until one day it explodes on the people she loves the most. And then comes the guilt. The guilt that makes her overcompensate. And that overcompensating makes the child very confused. And this cycle continues. और ये साइकिल तब तक ठीक नहीं होगी। जब तक आप अंदर नहीं जाओगे, you don't need to be a perfect mother, but you need to be a healing one. If you're in this cycle right now, you are not broken, you are unhealed, and there is a difference. Drop a heart in the comments if you needed to hear this today.