Scott Adams and Akira The Don discuss why people feel uniquely unlucky when bad things happen. Adams argues everyone has problems, most of them invisible, so your struggles aren't special. The reframing is simple: stop asking why me and recognize that misfortune is universal.
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Scott Adams. All right, here's one that's more about, uh, just not— this one's very relevant to me. This one's very relevant to me. Yeah, the usual old frame is that if you're having some bad luck, you think that you're unusually unlucky because it happened to you. You think of all the things that could happen to anybody, and then you think, oh man, why are all these things happening to me? Why me? Why do I have all these problems. That's the old way of thinking. Here's the reframe. Reframe is everyone has problems. Everyone has problems. We all had problems, yes we did.
All had problems, yes we did. Yes we did.
Everyone has problems.
We all had problems, yes we did. All had problems, yes we did. Yes, we do.
Everyone has problems. Just the fact that you don't know somebody else's problem, that's pretty gutsy of you to think that your problem is bigger than theirs. You don't know their problems. You don't know anything about people's problems. The really big ones they keep to themselves. You know, sometimes you see it if it's a physical thing, like in my case, but generally speaking, generally speaking, people's battle is inside their head, then that could be quite a fierce battle. You don't know what's going on in there. So the moment you think, why me? Why me?
Why me? Why me?
The reframe is everybody's got problems. You don't have the special problems.
We all have problems. Yes, we all have problems. Yes, we do. Yes, we do. Yes, we do. Everyone has problems. We all had problems. Yes, we all had problems. Yes, we did. Yes, we did.
There's this thing, Greg Kahl. There's this thing, Greg Kahl.
There's this thing, Greg Kahl. It's called Newsbreak.
