Podcast with Christina Lecuyer #educational #collegeadmissions #collegesuccess #parentingtips

6 May 2025 · 3 min

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In this podcast excerpt, the guest (Speaker B) advises parents to begin change with themselves. She emphasizes that parents, especially mothers, often neglect self‑care, and that modeling the desired behaviors—such as limiting screen time, managing stress, and practicing healthy habits—provides children with a concrete example to emulate. She also stresses the importance of allowing children to make their own decisions and experience failure, noting that chronic indecision often originates from childhood messages that the child was always wrong or overly protected. These early experiences create an internal “whisper” that undermines confidence in decision‑making, persisting into adulthood. The speaker ties these ideas to her brand, “Decide It’s Your Turn,” which focuses on empowering people to own their choices. While she acknowledges no guarantee of success, she argues that parental self‑modeling and granting autonomy dramatically increase the likelihood of positive outcomes.

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So is there— I know affirmations are a thing. Is there anything that you would recommend that these parents can do? Their child has to listen, I understand that, but if they had a willing child, something that they can do as a first step to see if what you're saying will work for their child?
Yeah, I would start with yourself. I would literally start with yourself. You really— it's a hard, like, you know, I, I don't work with a ton of parents and children, but But like spouses, business owners, employees, and it's like, do it for yourself first. If you literally want to make a change, start doing the thing. Because moms in particular, let me tell you, I work with men and women, but moms in particular, this is a really hard thing for you guys to take care of yourself. And congratulations for going to get that massage. You should. But take, do whatever it is that you want your child to do, do it for yourself and start allowing them to witness in you what you want to do for them. You know, if you want them to be less overwhelmed and stressed out and spend time on their, on their phone, start doing those things. Start being an example for what you actually want. Is it a guarantee? No. But in my personal opinion, you'll have a much better chance at it than if you don't. And let kids fail. Let kids, you know, make some decisions on their own. You know, I, I've, I've seen it like Decide It's Your Turn. It's the name of my brand, the podcast, the whole thing. And a lot of people unfortunately have a wildly hard time making a decision cuz they're so afraid to make the wrong decisions. Well, indecision is still a decision and it's unbelievably exhausting to not make a decision. But oftentimes people who have a hard time making a decision, it was because either A, they were told that they were always wrong when they were a child, teen, whatever. So they, they have this like system in their brain that says like, I don't know how to make a decision cuz I was always wrong. Or they had a parent kind of follow behind them and like always like tidy up after them, or always take care of them, or never let them make a— like make a wrong decision. Like, you know, making the wrong left, whatever it was. If you had that parent that was always following you, telling you to make that wrong, or that you were making the wrong decision, or maybe you should do this, they never learned to truly trust themselves. And so like that whisper is in their brains until they're— and I, I have clients who are in their 50s that are still dealing with this stuff because that is like the belief that they had growing up. And so they just— and maybe they carried it into their relationships, maybe, maybe they carried, carried it into their parenting. It's wild some of the stuff that we as human beings have to deal with. And so, you know, really learning how to take care of yourself, to me, would be your, your absolute biggest, you know, try this first. It's like change yourself, take care of yourself, and witness how it actually changes