Dr Shiny Unsal AI walks through the Neuro-Shine coaching certification, focusing on how to balance guidance with client empowerment and create safe spaces for transformation. The program emphasizes coaching techniques that let clients find their own answers rather than being told what to do.
We need balance, right? So anything too much is going to poison you. Like if you can just come from that, like, am I taking too much responsibility for my client right now? When you find yourself trying to solve your clients problems, you know what's going to happen? You're going to talk too much. If you talk more than 50%, that's not a coaching session. You're having a conversation with a friend. This is the patterns that I see the defense for that is, oh, I'm just, you know, I'm fascinated by their problem. I want to help them understand. And I was like, I, I understand. If you are a great problem solver, then you're going to understand you have a problem of trying to solve other people's problems. So if you are a great problem solver, then you're going to solve your own problem. If you find yourself Rihanna, trying too much. No, no, no, no, no. We're not doing that right. We are calm, we are confident and we are giving the space to them. We are offering the support, empathy, and deep, powerful questions. And then that's what it is. In that nourishing moment, in that moment, that space, Jason, you look at the energy shift in your clients, they're going to step into a whole new energy field. The body is going to open up, the face is going to start smiling like they're more spacious. Spaciousness is the clue. Instead of like letting go of the pain right away in one question, in the nourishing moment, you can actually measure it by looking at how spacious they become. If you have more nourishing moments like that every time, you keep that pattern of more spaciousness. In the longer term, you can also measure the health benefits of coaching. You as a coach are going to represent the right environment for them. You're going to be the right environment. You're going to be a safe place to fall for them. Never, ever force your clients to move on. This is exactly what we want more of in the world. Can we get an amen? Seriously, like we want to be heard, say, seen, understood, value. Like, I am supported. I can actually talk, talk. Somebody is listening to me. Yay. Make them feel comfortable sharing their most vulnerable situations and hold the space. And if they are ready to move forward, ask them, partner with them. Remember, I know you want to transform everybody. I get it. You see the nail, but that's not about the nail. Okay? I want to remind you, it's not yours to fix. It's them to feel, it's them to experience. And if they choose not to move Forward. And if they are not ready to get the transformation, then they are not ready. That's it. What you want to do is to really partner up. Like, I want to highlight this word, partner, partner. If they are crying, isn't that the last thing you want to hear? You're crying. You want to just be there and then just let it all out. And then there is this coach and telling you, okay, are you ready? Now let's talk about what you're going to do about this emotion, Right? Give me a break. When somebody asks you something you really don't know, instead of saying, I don't know, empower yourself. Say, this is something I haven't explored yet. I'll give it a thought. Okay. That's called reframing. And only if you have this kind of reframing for yourself, then you would be able to bring it to a coaching session. I don't know yet. I will figure it out. Saying I don't know is an unconscious competence as well as unconscious incompetence. It is somehow helping the brain to avoid the conflict. So that person is saying, when it becomes incompetency, then you want to bring consciousness with your powerful questions. So that consciousness, that awareness is going to enter into that space. When we pause, they will be like, oh, I think I say I don't know. Because that's the easiest thing to come up with. Anything that is a pattern is unconscious competency. At the same time, unconscious incompetency. Here is how to catch your own listening style. When you're in a conversation with someone, when they are saying something, what is your typical response to them? The very big nuance here is not to make your mms and ahems as a way of approving the client. You are non approving, non judging, non advising. You see where this is going to go? Oh, my God. This is it. Thank you so much. So you know how we're going to close it. I love my life. Keep shining until we meet again next week.
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