A short YouTube lesson by Stephen Scoggins introducing four communication styles—Dominator (high D), Influencer (high I), Stabilizer (high S), and Contemplator (high C)—and contrasting immature versus mature behaviors for each. The video ties these styles to the DISC personality framework, gives brief practical tips for growth (e.g., repeat-back listening, offer solutions), and ends with a call-to-action to the Ultimate Self Awareness Course and related Journey Principles content.
Did you know there's four specific styles of influence and that the communication style you use will either make or break your overall success? On this video we're going to talk about the styles and how to use them for your benefit. Stay tuned.
Here's the reality. Great communicators make more money, travel more places and do more fun things. So everybody wants to do those things. Alright, so today's video we're going to break down the four styles of the types of communicators and what they're like in both maturity and immaturity in order to help you understand your specific style and how to use it for your benefit. Peter Drucker actually once said that the most important thing in communicating is being able to hear what is said. One of the biggest struggles with communication is actually knowing that it actually happened. Far often than not, we as people judge ourselves by our intent, whether judges by our actions. Which means the communication style that we used in that moment may not be the one that was actually reflective and actually heard. So when communicating it's important to know these four styles at a pretty good level. Now I've discovered that one of the quickest way to level up your communication is to understand the communication of what drives your communication. And one of the best tools that we actually use here at the Journey Principles is the Disc Personality tool. Now we don't have time for a deep dive today, but what we do have time for is to give you some 30,000 foot view so you can better understand what you're working with, probably quickly identify where you're at by how we actually talk about it and then learn how to utilize that in maturity versus immaturity. All right, you ready? Communication style number one, the dominator. Now, I don't necessarily mean that in an evil like pinky swear kind of thing, right? What I mean by that is, I mean high Ds are driven and decisive and with that comes very direct, very bold, very straightforward communication. It also struggles with the ability to actually learn to listen. High Ds have a hard time listening. I can know that from personal experience because I am one. I'm a 99D on the disc spectrum with a 70 something I. Right. Which means I love people, but I'm also very direct, very bold and very forthcoming in how I both make decisions and how I'm communicating. Which means in immaturity I may accidentally come across as overly aggressive. Well, I don't want to be overly aggressive, right? Which means that gives me something I can work on at the same time. The high D with a dominant style of communication, when in maturity, actually operates out of humble boldness. In other words, they consider other people's thoughts and feelings and how they word their sentences in such a way to help that person understand them while also getting a very direct and a very important point across to the person they're communicating with. So one of the tools that you can use with a high D technique is to actually repeat back to the person what they actually said. What I heard you say was, all right, let's go ahead and move on to the next style of communication. The next style of communication is called influence or influencers, which relates to the high I type personality style. Now, high I's are all about being liked. They want to be liked. They want to be accepted in their party, looking for a place to happen, which means they're always the person that's very fun in the environment. It also means they're highly creative. Now, at the same time in immaturity, because they have a need to be liked and accepted, they also have the tendency in immaturity to be very insecure. In other words, they may not show it on the surface, but that's how they feel on the inside. Hey, why didn't that person like me? I don't understand. Okay, now, on the maturity side, once they've actually got a sense of their identity, high I's are very, very gifted in maturity with the inspirational style. Basically, they take the best of them and they learn to influence through their personality traits of inspiration and empowerment. Okay, so hopefully that helps you with a high I. Now, number three, communication style three is the stabilizer, also known in the disc spectrum as the high S. Now, high S's I love you guys to death because you're amazing people. You love everybody, you want everybody to kind of get along, okay? Now in immaturity, when you're faced with a conflict which you don't like, by the way, and it's okay, there's a way to get to healthy conflict and it's going to be okay, all right? But in immaturity, when you're dealing with conflict in difficult situations, you may accidentally have a tendency to be passive aggressive. Okay? What we want to do is be so secure in our identity as a high S that we can be safely outspoken and know that our words have meaning and we get the value that we need from other people. So make sure high S's to take a deep breath and quietly say, I have an opinion or have an idea about that to consider and raise your hand. And politely share your idea. There's nothing wrong with that. You're not going to get your head bit off, so keep going. Okay. All right. Number four, communication style. Number four is the contemplator, also known as the high C type personality style. In immaturity, a high C is very overly critical of other people. Right? They are perfectionist oriented. And how they choose to use their words can actually repel people because they're being overly critical. Here's what you need to understand about being a high C. One of the things that you can do as a high C to avoid becoming overly critical is saying, hey, look, I think this can be improved. And here's the way in which we can improve it. You see what? We're different. We're not just focused on the problem anymore. Now we got a problem and a potential solution to share with people. And that'll keep you in the out of the immaturity side of being a high C. Because in maturity side, high Cs are amazing. They're analytical thinkers. They can come up with the details, they can line up all the dots, they can put everything in an order and they're helpfully detailed. Why? Because they've taken the time to understand everybody else, not be so focused on their own way of thinking and, and that the only way to get to a point is by doing it this specific way. Because the reality is there's always multiple ways to solve problems. But what they've done is they've taken that problem, pulled it apart, seen it from different angles, and then offered solutions to help the people through. All right, make sure you take the time to understand this segment. Now we've took the time to put together a very comprehensive program to help you understand what drives you called the Ultimate Self Awareness Course. Now you'll find the link in the description. Make sure you take the time to check that out. I know it'll help you because it changed my life and helped me elevate it. And I know to do the same for you. So make sure you do that. Until then, I'll see you in the next video. Take care.
Hey, it's Connor with the Journey principles. If you enjoyed that lesson, you should totally check out more of our videos we've done on self awareness right here on this YouTube channel. Also, if you're serious about transforming your life, we've put together an Entire Life Mastery 101 playlist right here on YouTube with the fundamentals, so don't be afraid to check that out.
