Tyler Dickerhoof lost his three-year-old brother in a farming accident when he was 14, an event he inadvertently caused. The tragedy sparked deep insecurity about his worth that pushed people away. He learned that unchecked intensity repels others, but authentic self-understanding makes him magnetic.
Chapters
Takes me back to an incident. What happened when I was 14 years old? When I was 14, I had a younger brother die in a farming accident. I drove over him. He was 3.
Not only has he led and inspired upwards of 200,000+ people, he's also the bestselling author of The Things We Hide. Guys, please help me welcome the one, the only Tyler Dickey.
My insecurity of do I have value? Am I enough? Whenever that pops up again, guess what? Intensity is not far behind it. Intensity is a bulldozer. It'll level land, but it leaves carnage. The mirror's a liar because it's a reflection of our intentions. It's not a document of our actions. The only one that can tell us what our actions, how they feel, how they make them feel, is somebody else. The insecure version of me repelled people that I actually— you, you can speak for both of us.
Yeah, yeah, yeah. That repelled people. But the authentic version of me is magnetic. Yes.
I've learned that now. When I'm repelling people, it's my insecurity showing. When I'm magnetic, I understand that I've gone through that work to figure that out.