How To ACHIEVE Your Dreams With The POWER OF ONE MORE | Ed Mylett

In order to achieve the impossible, you have to be willing to imagine it and actually allow your brain to go there knowing you don't have all the information. You know, every single thing I do. Which of these are bringing me happiness and bliss and which of them no longer do? And that'll change the quality of my life by changing that. One question.

Hey, I want to jump straight in. You know, I've had a chance to. To get through all the way through Power. One more. I gotta be honest with you. It's by far one of my best books this year that I've been through. I haven't seen so much packed into one set of bookends and I don't know how long.

Yeah, it's a lot.

Yeah. One of the things that stuck out to me is this intention is the currency of identity, or changing your identity. Explain that to everybody, because I thought that was powerful.

Well, I didn't learn. It's not mine. I learned it from Wayne Dyer, actually. I probably have made it my own. But many, many years ago, I was running on a beach in Hawaii. I met Wayne Dyer. He ran by me. We ended up sitting on the beach together for about an hour and a half. I was very young. If you don't know who Wayne Dyer is, Google him. He's one of the icons of, you know, thought leadership. Anyway, when we were done, he goes, ed, you're going to change the world. And I don't know if he said that to a lot of people or not, but to me it was incredible.

Yeah.

And he goes, and you're just this big brain, the way you speak and make people feel things and you know, you're very talented, man. He goes, but you. But that's not why. And I said, well, he goes, and please never base your self confidence on, or your identity on your abilities or your achievements. I went, well, what the heck are you supposed to base it on then? And he said, in your case, your intentions. You have a warm, huge, beautiful heart. You want to help people. And your intentions are so huge, they're so beautiful that that's why you're going to change the world. Always focus on your intention. There's a power to intentions. He happened to be writing a book by that title at the time. Long story short, it was the first time someone had complimented me where I believed it. I've never believed I was that smart or that special or that talented. But I did know I had a good heart. And so since that day, for the most part, man, even preparing for something like this Today, my confidence, my identity comes from my intention to serve, my intention to make a difference. So many people are chasing that tail of once I'm achieving something, once I'm really great, then I'll have confidence. That's not where mine comes from. Mine comes from intention and that's what I recommend in the book.

Yeah, no, I love that. You know, it's one. It's interesting to me. I was just thinking through that, you know, we didn't get a chance because the event was so busy, we didn't get a chance to spend a lot of time together. But you and I have a lot of similarities in our backstories.

You told me that, but I don't know what they are. Yeah, yeah.

So my father was an alcoholic for a number of years and I watched him really struggle back and forth to try to get a handle on it. And you know, when I was thinking through the intentions, I remember him actually having a similar conversation that your dad had with you. I'm going to try one more time.

Really? Wow.

Yeah. And lo and behold, I did it. Did.

Yeah.

He's been sober for 35 plus years. Fantastic grandfather and the whole deal, man.

Thank God. That's wonderful.

Yeah. But the intention behind the meat, that intent behind going through by making that, well, an importance. Right.

Yeah. I think, I think most of the things we do great in our life come from love. My dad got sober because he loved his family enough to try again. Your dad got sober enough because he loved you and loved your family enough to try again, hopefully loved himself. But oftentimes, you know, to find something we love, it may not be us, but all great things are achieved through love. And that sounds corny with two dudes talking that lift weights and stuff, but the fact of the matter is, it's true. And when I focus on who I love or what I love, that's much bigger than whatever the obstacle is in my way. And that's always given me the fuel and the energy to, you know, persevere where maybe other people quit or gave in.

Yeah. How much of that intention is. Cycles into self sabotage?

What do you mean? What do you mean by that?

Well, to me, if you have a focused intention you're in, you're intentionally choosing a direction where self sabotage appears to be a lot more subconscious.

Well.

Well, self sabotage comes from that internal identity that whatever you're about to go do, you don't believe you're worthy of, or even if you get it, you'll blow it. Like, you hear me talk many times about the thermostat analogy. It's in the book, but the truth is, if you don't get this internal thermostat, your identity, high enough, no matter what you achieve, you're going to turn the air conditioners on in your life and cool it back down again to what you believe you're worth. I just, I, and, and I watch this all the time on my new show. I have a new TV show what's gonna be streaming called Change, which with Ed Mylett and this woman, one of the guests on the show was a woman. She gained 180 pounds, lost 90, gained it back. Lost 90, gained it back. And I said, the challenge for you, Angie, is you believe you're a heavy woman who happens to have lost weight. And because that's the case, your identity is a heavy woman. You always get back there and turn the air conditioners back on. But what if the truth was you've always been a healthy, fit woman who had gained weight? And if we could switch that identity now, we won't sabotage ourselves again. Sabotage is really the process of getting what we believe we're worth. Yeah, we're really, we're really getting what we believe we're worth. So we're, we're trashing the current results of the current situation to get back to what our thermostat setting is and that we call that sabotage, but it's just getting back to what we believe we're worth.

Yeah. At least for me. You know, I. Again, we didn't get a chance to super connect just one on one, but, you know, part of my backstory is, you know, overcoming homelessness and some other things to kind of get where I'm at today. And it was something in the book that you mentioned I thought was pretty powerful. And it was a huge shift for me, which is one of the reasons I wanted to bring it up, which is this essence of operating out of history versus operating out of future. I kept telling myself I was the high school dropout because I had to pay the bills and help the family and all that kind of stuff. I kept telling myself for a number of years. And then one of my first mentors, Old Man Myrie, told me, he said, you know, he said, there's two ways to think. You can either learn to think like me, you can learn to think like your dad. Which one will it be?

Right here? Yeah, right here. Talk to me about history, man. Talk to me about operating at a history versus.

Well, 1% of all people operate out of their imagination. And their dreams and 99 operate out of history and memory. And this is a really insidious thing. We don't even realize we're doing it. When we're children, we're happier. Why? My belief is we were just more recently with God. And two, we don't have a history of memory, so we're forced to operate out of imagination. And then at some point, for some children like you and I, we start getting a history early because it's thrust upon us with an alcoholic dad or whatever. But for the most part, most kids, it's 10, 12, 15 years old, they start operating of history and memory. And what we do in our life is we move towards what we're most familiar with. So you become familiar with this history and memory, and you just move towards the same emotions over and over again, same thoughts over and over again. Even if the external circumstances change, we move. We. Our life is our emotions. We move towards the same thing. And that ties into associations. We all heard, hey, you're going to be the product of the five people you hang around. That's old school, right?

Yeah.

How do you know who it should be? What's. What's one thing no one's ever told you before. I'll give it to you right now. It's in my book. If your peer group operates out of history and memory, they don't serve you like they should. I'll give you an example. If when you're with your friends, it's like, man, you remember.

You remember.

You remember that. You remember high school, you remember that one thing. You remember that you, you, you. Right. And that's what most friends do together. Yeah, I don't have a lot of that. I have a little bit of it. And by the way, my peer group have great histories and memories they can operate out of. Yeah, but they don't. When we're together, you almost got to force them. What we're doing is we're talking about imagination and dreams. What are you working on right now? Where are you going? What's it going to look like? You can't. You think you can get Tom Brady to talk about past Super Bowls all the time? Dude, come on, man. He's talking about, hey, I got this new crypto thing. I've got this new watch. I've got this new business thing I'm doing. I got this nft. We're going to win the super bowl this year in Tampa. I want to get ring eight, whatever it is. You talk to Tim Cook who runs Apple. He's not Talking about Max from 20 years ago. He's talking about what they're working on now and where they're going as a company. And so the people around you, if it's history and memory, that's one little key. Like, I'm not saying drop people. I'm not a big believer in that. Unless they're toxic. You don't got to. But you got to add. And so this is how critical imagine. It's like probably, you probably asked me one of the four or five most important things in life. What is your frame of reference? History or memory or imagination and vision. It's okay to have some history and memory. We learn from it. But going back there, you cannot be in both zones at one time. So if you're in history and memory, you are not envision and imagination. And you were born to imagine, you were born to dream, you were born to do something great with your life. And I just remember that's something I want to talk about tonight in my speech. Thank you for giving me that question. Hold on. Go ahead, keep going. I'm going to write a note down because that was really good.

I want to stop it. That was so good.

No, it's good. I'm going to write it down. Just history and memory. Okay?

Yeah, absolutely. We know. I think that plays into the next. The next kind of. The next thing I want to touch on, which is this. You mentioned something called becoming an impossibility thinker and a possibility achiever.

Yep.

And so many people that I see are self sabotaging because they're not viewing it through that lens. So talk to us a little bit about that.

Okay, I'm sorry, I'm typing this great note down.

Here's the thing. Here's the governor that you put on yourself if you're someone who is not an impossibility thinker. Being an impossibility thinker is really simple. It's being willing to envision things you're ill prepared to do. See, the people that I know that I think have achieved this level of success, they have a lower threshold for what they need to know about something in order to imagine it and believe it's possible. So unsuccessful people have a very high threshold of what they have to know or what they have to have everything in place and so they won't step into the unknown. I used to coach a race car driver. I won't say his name because it had an NDA with it, but a very successful NASCAR driver. And he told me he goes ed the most difficult thing in Racing is not the normal race. It's when there's a crash in front of you and when there's this crash in front of you, because I want you to imagine you're going 180 to 200 miles an hour and all there is is a cloud of smoke. It's all you see. And you have to drive into that cloud of smoke not knowing that on the other side there may be a stalled car, but you're going to hit head on and kill yourself. And he said, it's your ability to drive through that fog, drive through that unknown, drive through that smoke that separates you from other drivers. What most guys do is they start looking at the wall and they veer towards it. And he said, my ability to drive through that crash smoke, even though I don't know what's on the other side of it, is what separates me from other guys. Man, that's so true. In business and life, too successful people are willing to drive through the smoke not knowing what's on the other side, but believing I'll be resilient enough when I get in the room to figure it out. Yeah, unsuccessful people or people who are not successful yet. Go, I'll go, I'll drive once I know I'll go once this once. The conditions, once my kids are growing, once I have this once I read one more book, once I do one more once once I get. And the threshold keeps getting higher and higher and higher and they never take action. That's a big separator. In order to achieve the impossible, you have to be willing to imagine it and actually allow your brain to go there, knowing you don't have all the information. I have a podcast is probably the most successful business podcast, you know, weekly podcast on the planet. Entrepreneurship, man. I started out, I didn't know to order the microphone. The first one I did, I didn't record it. I forgot to record it. Right? Like, my son was the editor. He was 16, but I was willing to get into the space not knowing everything. I didn't know who the guest was going to be, man. I didn't even know how you posted it once you recorded it.

I remember.

I remember Tony Robbins is like, hey, man, you put that thing on the chip. I'm like, chip? He goes, in the recording device, dude, you have to have a microchip in.

There to record the show.

And I'm like, shit, I didn't know that. I thought you just pressed record. He goes, what did you think you're recording it on? I'm like, the Machine. Oh, gosh, there's a. So what if I would have thought about all I didn't know, I wouldn't have the number one show in the world. So you got to start to drive through the smoke.

Yeah. Oh, gosh, that's so good. You know, I was just thinking too, one of the things that you mentioned in the book is this, that goals are energy. I've never heard somebody actually phrase it that way.

Yeah.

You know, there's lots of things on goal setting. Make smart goals. Let's do this. But then you said goals are energy and I got to thinking about it. I'm like anything that I. That I intentionally went after with my. With my full heart, with my full self always manifested in some way. Shape or form may not look like exactly like I thought it was going.

To look or when you thought it would happen either.

Oh, yeah, absolutely. Absolutely. Talk to me about goals and energy because I had never heard someone actually say it that way before.

Well, goal is a thought. And a thought creates a space that didn't exist before you have it. And I'm not going to get really quantum on you, but it actually creates an energy field that didn't exist before you had it. So when you have a goal, it creates an energy around it. That goal now has a vibrational frequency. And the more you feed it and the more it vibrates faster and you start to feed it and feed it and feed it, its energy level can get up to a point where it achieves itself.

Yeah.

And most people don't look at it that way, but that's exactly how it is. I'm a Christian, you are as well. But I also believe there's an energy field that just the Almighty created. And so I believe goals have energy to them. Now, having said that, I don't think you get all your goals. I say in the book, I think you always get your standards, though. And that's why the next chapter is on standards. Goals without standards are empty. What I really focus on is what my standards are that can help deliver on the goals that I have. So the goal creates the energy. The standard creates the delivery mechanism.

Cheese.

Can I be transparent with you about something, please? So as a Christian, I've been on the fence for probably 24 months, right. Because I, meaning not, not with my faith, but with elements of how quantum and energy and stuff relate to my faith.

I discovered Dispenza's work, you know, a couple years ago, probably what everybody else really started to. And I started to kind of go through some of this work. And.

And it wasn't until you at Max Out Live, where you actually stood in front of my say, look, I believe in Jesus, but I also believe in energy. And I believe this resonance and this vibration is real that I actually felt okay. Yeah, I've been carrying that with me for so long. Not sure, because, you know, I. I go to a. You go to a traditional pastor kind of scenario, and not everybody kind of gets it.

And then you get.

If you go new, you go too far, new age, and then. Then you kind of start losing a little bit of your faith. I've been walking.

Me too, brother. The new age is like your God, and I don't buy that at all. Yeah, I know me really well, by the way. I'm really. No one's ever said that to me before, ever. And I have, too. In fact, the chapter I wrote on faith and energy took longer than the rest of the book combined. And I really struggle with it because I wanted to honor my faith the same time. Be honest about. Listen, this. This interview is going well. Why? There's an energy frequency happening here. Yeah, you always know when you're in a space, God gave you this energy. God gave you discernment. Discernment is energy. Talks about it in the Bible, doesn't call it energy, calls it discern. But what discernment is, is you're sensing energy. Discernment tells you this person. I don't. You ever meet somebody, you're like, nah, I don't feel it. What's that come from? That's discernment, which is energy. So you're already proving that there's an energy field or you've met other people. Like, man, I can't explain it, man. I like this dude. I like her. Right? There's an energy frequency. So to deny that is ridiculous. Also, highest energy wins people that make us feel good. What is a feeling? It's an energy, right? It's an energy. So everything is energy. We're always feeling energy. Highest energy wins. I'm trying to transfer energy when I spe. So to deny its existence is insane. In fact, take churches. A really. A good church is on fire for the body of Christ as an energy. That's infectious, and people are excited. Why do you want to bring people to church? Because energy, the feeling. Right? We do something special here. So actually, I think great pastors understand energy. And I will say this to you, it's. I struggle with it as well, because I. I, as a. As a devout man of God, as a Christian, I Always worry I'm sounding New Agey.

Me too.

Right. When I'm like, oh, you tap into this field. And so I always am. I always am reluctant. But I've. I've come to the conclusion that all of the beautiful things in life that have served me have come from the Almighty. Come from God.

Yep.

And I know energy exists.

Yeah.

I think. And I think success has an energy. I think failure has. I think slumps have an energy. We all know this. As I say it. You're all nodding. So to deny its existence is crazy. Having said all that, I believe that energy is spirit.

Yeah.

And when I. When I speak, you go, man, when you speak, sometimes I'm like, hey, man, that's not always me. That's the Holy Spirit. And I'm not sure how to put it all together quite yet. But I'm not so sure that the Holy Spirit doesn't have something to do with energy.

Yeah.

You know what I'm saying? And so I think we'll guys like you and I that talk openly about this stuff. Maybe we'll find better ways to phrase it.

Yeah.

But we certainly feel it. We certainly know it. I don't believe the fact that you buy into energy discounts the fact that you have a Lord and Savior.

Yeah.

And I think the notion of it's crazy. Does that mean you're not going to get criticism for people that think any word like that's blasphemous? Yeah. But I've just decided that's okay. I'm not religious. I have a relationship with God. It's my relationship with Jesus. Right. Yeah. Sometimes it's roaring and doing great. And sometimes I'm like, lord, why are you doing this? Why are you. My dad died. What's going on here? I was at Chalk Hospital this week with kids that are. You know, one of the little boys has leukemia. You don't think for a minute I went, lord, come on, man.

Yeah. Let's get this.

You know. But I understand there's a higher purpose. I understand there's a calling. I understand there's an energy to it. So, man, I'm really appreciate you're transparent about that. It's. It's probably the most difficult thing I've struggled with in my life too.

Yeah. Well, I mean.

I gotta be honest. It's probably my number. It was probably. It's probably been my number one on my spiritual side of my life. My number one.

Call it.

Frustration is not the word, but curiousness, confusion.

Me too. By the way. I think curiosity here's the. Here's the other thing that I don't like in. In organized religion, which, by the way, I go to an organized church. But what I will say to you is this notion that, hey, questioning or being curious about your faith is somehow a lack of it. Boy, the reverse is true curiosity. Listen, I'll give you an example. I'll mess this up by a number or two asking questions, okay? Asking questions matters. Do you know how many times in the Bible Jesus asked questions? I'll get it off by one or two here. But let me just say this to you. Jesus in the Bible asks over 300 questions. Do you know how many he answers in the Bible? 3.

Jeez.

So in the Bible, Jesus is asking questions. So he is teaching us through his example that it's healthy to ask questions. It's healthy to be curious. It's healthy to understand more this notion that I better not ask anything. I better just, you know, stay right in my lane. Yeah, well, that doesn't grow your faith. What grows your faith is a relationship. And relationships are questions and answers and contemplation and prayer. And so I wholeheartedly encourage people to ask more questions to be more curious about their faith, because it'll expand and grow.

Well, I actually think if you're not asking questions about your faith, your faith is probably dying. You're probably got more doubt, more doubt.

Than anything, you know, any relationship you have. Imagine any relationship, brother, where there's no questions being asked. That's a dying relationship. Yeah, it's not a relationship.

I was telling my. I was telling my kids this number of years ago, but I had this epiphany one afternoon I went and spoke somewhere, and, you know, at the end of it, there's often folks that want to talk to you and stuff like that and, you know, talk about the presentation or whatever. And I had this interesting epiphany, and the guy was like, you know, inside your. Inside of your presentation, there. There were things that caused me to reflect, caused me to question, caused me to do this. And I said, well, that's because I've discovered that questions open hearts and statements close them.

Very good. Very good. Very true, too.

Oh, dude. Well, and think about. All right. So.

I've built several businesses now.

Yeah, I know.

Different scale of different ones. But I've done my best to be a good dad, done my best to be an absolute good husband, done my best to be good to my team. Totally screwed that up. Early in my business career, I was totally egocentric than anything else. Right but. But through all of that.

That scenario of getting to the question, asking myself, ooh, that brings back something in your book, man, that just fired up. Sorry, I can't help myself.

You actually asked a profound question that was centered around question, and it was, do you ever ask questions of the questions that you ask yourself?

Yes, I got me right here. So let's go into there for just a minute.

Just roll. I do it a lot. I'm constantly evaluating the questions I ask myself because to some extent, I don't know if it was Tony Robbins who said it first or me or whoever. Doesn't matter. The quality of your life is the quality of the questions you ask yourself. Because I actually have a chapter on thinking what is a thought? A thought is the process of asking and answering a question to yourself. That's what it is. So if you can change the quality of the questions you ask yourself, you can change the quality of your life. So I'm always evaluating that, what am I asking myself. And. And they have changed over time. To your point, like about being ego driven. You know, I think oftentimes when I used to speak when I was younger, walk into a board meeting, it's like, how can I impress them? With me, that was the question I was asking myself, can I impress them? With me, how am I going to leave here where they want me back? Or. And then over time, those questions changed and morphed into eventually, like, how can I serve? And then, then it moved to like, how can I honor God and still in the service of these people? And so the quality of the question has changed over time. And I'm evaluating that a lot. I'm asking myself that honestly, right now, I'm towards the end of sort of promoting the. My book. I've got this new TV show, and I'm asking myself different questions, like right now, like, like I've always asked myself the last four or five years, where am I making the biggest impact? How can I make the biggest impact?

Yeah.

And you know what? I'm going to give myself permission to ask a different question. And by the way, I just told my wife this this morning. I said it last night to her. I've got another week or two of really running hard. And I said by the. Our 25th wedding anniversary is August 2nd. And I said, you know what? I'm giving myself the gift on our anniversary. Amongst other things, I'm going to give myself permission to ask a new question, which is, what of the things that I'm doing make me happiest what doesn't bring me joy anymore? Because you know what? Some things have a season in their life. I'm going to evaluate all of it. My businesses, my podcast, my speaking, my relationships, you know, every single thing I do. Which of these are bringing me happiness and bliss and which of them no longer do? And that'll change the quality of my life by changing that. One question.

Yeah.

Now you gave me food for thought. Now I've got to go reflect since this is over. Appreciate that.

Well, well, you do that. I've been in your world. You're immensely successful, you know, and, you know, if you want to have the same life, repeat itself, keep asking the same questions, you're going to keep getting the same answers. And just for me, I'm 51, you know, I've been married 25 years. Number one book number, TV show pile. That stuff's like, okay, what are these things? Not just make an impact because I'm making an impact, but what do they make me happy? Maybe it's okay to ask about me finally. At 51 years old, I've never really done that. You know, which of these things, though? I look at them on my calendar, I go, I can't wait to do that one today. And you always know what your calendar, you know, you look at, you go, gosh, I got this three o'. Clock. And by the way, I've worked hard enough to afford myself now the luxury of asking that new question. When I was 30 and climbing up, I didn't have the luxury. I had to do stuff I didn't want to do all the time. But damn it, I've worked for 30 years to not work the next 30 doing things I don't want to do anymore.

Yeah.

And it's just finally occurred to me, I'm going to change my life a little bit with a new question.

That's so good. That's so, so good. Well, a few minutes we got left. Talk to me about this new TV show. I know it was in the works. You were working on it kind of behind the scenes going into the event. A lot of stuff was going on, but I haven't, I haven't, I haven't got the update. What's the, what's the latest?

Well, I got an NDA on it, so I can't go too deep, but it'll be out the end of August, the beginning of September. It'll be on streaming platforms. Originally, I think I had a show that we were going to do on Primetime Covid, kind of derailed that we've shrunk the showdown, but it's really about changing people's lives is what I can tell you. And I've got about 30 minutes to do it. And so you'll see people from every, you know, every people from that have gained a bunch of weight. Like I said, people that have special needs children and it's sort of, you know, dominating their life and how do they have a life in addition to that? I've had couples that have cheated on one another. Someone on the show whose husband was killed in a car accident and she's got a five and a four year old. I've got a former world class athlete who's lost his identity. Children of an alcoholic. I have one that's going to win an Emmy, I believe, where this 16 year old boy was kicked out of his house by his stepfather and they hadn't talked in a year and a half and we try to reconcile the family and so it's called change. It is amazing. I have to say this last thing to you. When I was broke and down in my life, everyone hears these old stories of me. I would say I was living at my dad's house and all day long I'd watch Jerry Springer and Maury Povich and you flash forward and you know, I'm recording my show show and I'm in that studio having my own show, changing people's lives. The exact studio that their shows are shot in is now my studio.

Hey dude.

And it's like I was just like, my gosh, like the lowest point in my life to now flash forward. If you'd have told me a million years ago, laying there on the couch at three o' clock in the afternoon going, hey dude, believe it or not, there's gonna be a point where you're gonna be in that studio with your name in the lights doing your show. I'd be like, what the. You're. Yeah, right, dude. So anything's possible and that's how you know there's a God in heaven. Because I ain't that good. There's got to be God doing something right, working in our lives.

Amen. And the reality is there's going to be another my lead. Another. Another someone is to watch your show and kind of kick off the same thing 100%.

By the way, I hope they watch this show and do it.

Yeah, absolutely. Well, dude, I got to get you out of here. I promise I'll keep you on time. Thank you so much for hanging out with me today. I can say when I see you again, though. We've got to carve out like an hour, hour and a half to talk about this Jesus energy thing, because I want to walk that out right.

Okay, Cook me up a cigar and a little tequila and we'll just go to town on it.

You got it, dude. You got it.

By the way, thank you for the scars you already got me.

You're absolutely welcome. I'll see you soon. Take care. Peace.

Okay. Okay, brother, see you.

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