How To REPROGRAM YOUR Mind To MANIFEST ANYTHING In 2024 | Angie Wisdom

You have the ability to control your mind, and that is, like, mind blowing for some people. Like, they just don't get that. You don't have to keep the thought that pops into your mind and you have the ability to choose something different that's going to then make you feel a different way and take action. That right there I kind of refer to as getting in the driver's seat of your life. If you can't rate the relationship you have with yourself a 10 out of 10, then there's work to do because you will Never execute a 10 out of 10 somewhere else in your life. If you don't have a 10 out of 10 with you.

Guys. Hit me with my good friend Angie Wisdom. Girlfriend, what is going on?

How are you, Stephen? I'm so excited to be here with you.

Oh, man. You know what? One of the things I love about you most is this high level of standard that you've placed on yourself, your career, your, like, everything around your life. Talk to me about the importance of a standard because I feel like a lot of folks are actually sleepwalking more than not through life.

Yeah. Well, thank you, my gosh, for even recognizing that and calling it out. I appreciate that. You know, the way I grew up, there wasn't a whole lot of a standard. You know, my mother was an alcoholic. I had a broken family. Gosh, we were able to. We had to get up, take care of ourselves in the morning. So oftentimes it was like Pepsi and Ho Hos for breakfast and you just kind of did whatever you wanted to do. And there really wasn't much of a standard. And as I kind of grew, I looked around and I was like these other people, these other, you know, successes that I'm seeing, why can't I have that too? And what I learned was that, yeah, you've got to hold yourself to a higher standard. And it's kind of what birthed the non negotiable you. But I knew that if I wanted to be something different than what I grew up around, then I had to do something different. And it was going to require more and higher standard.

Now was that more of a. A slower transformation? Was it something like a unique aha awareness? Because I find that a lot of folks, they don't know what they. They don't really know what step they're supposed to take. They don't know what a student is. I'm not sure what a boundary is. They don't. They don't know how to, you know, to literally hold themselves to higher State because they've, you know, they've been illustrated through life. You know, they haven't gotten to the, that place of really not having that non negotiable mentality. So how was your transformation shape? Was it, was it pretty quick? Was it trans, you know, over time?

It's a phase. I think we're constantly leveling up to that new standard, if you would. You know, I knew at a young age, very early, I did not want to be the way that I saw my mother. You know, I didn't want to live paycheck to paycheck. I didn't want to have to work for the rest of your life. And I mean, she worked until the day she died. So it's like I knew all that at an early age. And so that kind of set that first level standard for me that I had to do something different. But I hit a whole nother standard when I was working in the financial industry. And I often talk about the day I was crossing days off the calendar, like every day. It was just like, oh, thank God, you know, I, I lived another day, I survived another day at work. And that kind of was an aha moment to me of like, okay, here's a new standard. I don't want to just run on the hamster wheel and check the days off the calendar. I want something more. So to your answer and answer your question, it's always another level that we're kind of seeking and standards that we're hitting.

Yeah, no, it's interesting you say that because I, I, you know, one of the things I love about non ghost you is this con. One of the chapters is all about authenticity. And I find a lot of folks, including myself, start off living inauthentically, you know, not really, not really being aware of that there is a choice or another path or, you know, different steps you could take along the way. How did you discover the importance of authenticity and how did you, more importantly, how did you discover what the authentic self is?

Well, you know, we're shaped that way, right? We're almost shaped into inauthenticity because we seek approval. And so how do we get things from people? And especially for me, I started out in a sales profession early on in the financial world as a financial advisor. It was like, who do I have to be to get you to talk to me? Who do I have to be to get you to invest with me? And so I became what I thought was genius as a chameleon. And it was just like, I'll transform into whatever you need me to be. You've been there, right? And it was very successful. I'm not gonna lie. Like, it can provide a lot of success if you do that. But eventually I ran into a wall and I was like, I don't wanna show up to somebody different every single day. Like, I'm so tired of having, oh, who am I meeting with? Jane? Okay, gotta be this person, gotta be this person for Bob. And I just was exhausted and it started to make me not want to work anymore. I was like, I gotta do something different. And it wasn't the job, it was how I was showing up. So there was a huge shift and a moment of trust where I said, I have got to believe that being authentically me is actually going to bring me more business and more people that I want to work with than showing us up as somebody different all the time. And that was a lot of work, I'm not going to lie. But it proved to be true. And it's what people do every single day when they choose that path of authenticity. You actually grow more and you get more people around you and more business that wild you.

You literally find your tribe by becoming yourself. I just, I, I find it so that, you know, it's interesting. I was, There was a study done I, I should remember maybe a year ago, and it said about 72% of those that responded to the survey and I think they did like a hundred thousand, so it was a good, good sampling size. 72% of them said that they were more concerned with being a people pleaser or, or making everyone else happy than actually pursuing what was actually in their heart. I know we're people of faith, so I would say what God put in your heart. Right? Yeah, a little about the, the aha moment. Because one of the things I try to do with the show specifically is I try to break things down into the catalyst. You know, for me it was that my old man, Myrick, my first mentor, you know, you know, what's between a rich man, a poor man, and do you want to think like me or your dad? My audience has heard it a thousand times, some breezing through it. But in the grand scheme of things, what I realized is that was the moment I, I understood there were two choices. Like I didn't have to live my life because someone else told me to live my life this way or that way or whatever, that I could choose a different way. So talk to me. Lesson, like maybe the catalyst with some of the clients that you have and the things that you've done. Yourself in breaking free and becoming more self aware to be then become more authentic.

Yeah, you know, I am a recovered people pleaser, I'm not gonna lie. I mean that is, it's just how I was raised, you know, with the alcoholic mother. I constantly did things to please and to, you know, kind of make this situation peaceful. So it might be aha moment. I was actually in therapy about it and I was talking to a therapist and she said, what makes you happy? And I said, when everyone else is happy. She was like, no, like you. And I go, no, genuinely like I am happy when everyone else is happy. And she was like, well, what happens if nobody else is happy? I'm like, I'll make them happy. And you know, like saying all this, I was like, oh my gosh, like, and I, and I really was happy when other people were happy. But it dawned on me that like, that's an exhausting job and responsibility if my happiness is hinged to everyone else's happiness. So that was a huge moment for me. And you know, knowing that I had a different choice and that I didn't have to be responsible for everyone else's happiness was very freeing, but also very scary. And it really was life changing. Because what I learned is that when you're always responsible for everyone else's happiness, you rob them of the ability to find their own joy on their own. Yeah, right. Like you're the creator of it and it's, you can get into codependency and all this other stuff. But that was such a huge moment for me. And once I realized that, okay, I was going to go on that journey, that's what was like, all right, be you find the things that you love, what really fills you up, what brings you joy. And it was fun. It was almost like an experiment where you got to go out there and go, okay, well I really love this. I really love this. Yeah, like it's, you know, it's like just finding yourself. It's odd doing it late in life, you know.

Yeah, well, I guess the important thing is we get it done. Like we, we do process. Because I love, you know, it was dawning on me because I'm, I would, I would classify myself, especially the first 20 years of my life as being a recovery people pleaser myself. And you know, I kind of relate to the, you know, I'm happy when everybody else is happy. And then I realized I wasn't, I don't know that I was really happy. I think it was just release of anxiousness, you know, I Think. I think when I was not paying more attention to my wants, needs and this is another thing I feel like, especially people pleasers, right? Especially those recovering from minute, we feel guilty that we want things, we feel guilty that we have needs, we feel, or you know, we feel guilty that, you know, we, we want a different career path or we want a strong, profound relationship or you know, we'd like to have a nice thing, we'd like to have a nice house, you know, these types of things. And you know, it's interesting because when I was thinking, when I was pulling that apart, I was like, it's not about me being happy. I just don't like to experience the tension, you know. So, yeah, the more I began to pursue my own self awareness and authenticity, the less I actually cared about everybody else's thoughts and wills and stuff like that. It's not like I'm not relational. You know, I want to be helpful and I want to be supportive, but I have my own dreams and ambitions and I have my own principles and values and guiding motivators that I use to kind of steward my own life. I'm curious, especially with the non negotiable you, what are the core values that you feel like everybody listening or watching should maybe adopt or consider adopting? Invite them to adopt into their life.

Yeah. And first of all, what a great distinction that you just made there. You know, kind of the lack of anxiousness and, and the peace and kind of making other people happy. You're spot on there. And it's like one thing has to push out the other, right? So if you always are filled up with what everyone else wants and their needs, there's a room for yours. So by default you don't really seek it. But when you start to make room, that's when you open up that ability to explore. And the non negotiable you has so many of those components because it's like, okay, well if you are going to actually put your needs, you know, first so that you can fill yourself up and be more to others, you're going to have to know what those are. So every single day it's this process that I set out to create relationship goals with myself. You know, people often go, oh, relationship goals when they see a couple. No, how about those with yourself? You know, how can you trust yourself? Which means making commitments to yourself and following through, not always bumping them. For everyone else, it means, you know, not looking to everyone else for their opinion and their insight, but looking inward and making that based upon your own Values spending time with yourself. Huge. And that component of self awareness, if you just simply ask yourself every day, how do I feel and what do I want to do about it?

Yeah.

You're literally, you know, rewiring your brain to be in tune with yourself and create that self awareness and then you've got something to answer to, Right?

Yeah, no, absolutely. It's interesting because I, I also find that.

The way in which I conduct myself first thing in the morning pretty much controls everything else the rest of the day. And I noticed that when I was operating in inauthenticity or low self awareness, I was completely reactionary. I wake up, I just kind of go through the motions. Whereas when I wake up consistently now, I mean my, my first time in the morning is prayer and meditation. And I, and I view those as different things. So I, I always say pray to say meditate. To listen.

Yes.

Because it's hard to listen when you're talking. You're right. And so I kind of look at that and then I kind of merge that with, you know, my daily workout routine and kind of being active and making sure that I've got the, you know, the highest level of serotonin levels that I can possibly muster, you know, naturally, you know, and then from there it kind of comes out with the intentions. And one of the things that I love about what you did with the. Not the book non negotiable you is you actually partnered with a journal that helps break things down, which I think is super powerful because again, I don't feel, I don't think people don't have a desire to have a better life or business or career relationship. I feel like they don't know what step to take, you know, and not only do you have the book, which is like a roadmap to success by itself, you now have a journal that you actually kind of walk through. What made you want to partner with the journal to begin with? Because it's such a wonderful piece of, piece of equipment there.

Thank you. You know, the interesting thing was the journal came out first because these are practices. Yeah. That I did with my clients for so long. Like I have reversed engineered what trips people up for the last over 20 years and basically put this journal together to say, you know, if we create self awareness, if we set intentions, if we, if we rewire our brain with gratitude and visualization and prayer, like all of these things, we are going to proactively set us up for success instead of this reactive like you said, in the morning, you get up just enough Time to do what you need to do. You're pinballing all over the place. So I created that, and it was really just intended for my clients. They loved it. They started gifting it, and then people would say, well, can you talk to me about it? Like, can I get some more information? So that's really what birthed a book to go. Here's why all of these things are so important. You know, I'm not having you do affirmations and gratitude just because it's like, it feels good. There is a science behind it. We are rewiring your brain. We're activating, you know, your reticular, activating system. Like, there is science, and it. It shows that if we do these things, we are going to transform the way we think and the way we show up and the relationship with ourselves. So it was just a beautiful way how it all worked out. It kind of got me. Got me to the place to write that book, but I just too. It's like, you know, people can learn things all day long. You can listen to this podcast, you can read a book, but if you don't have a way to execute, the chances of you actually seeing it through are so slim. And I didn't want people to not have a way to do it. Like, the transformation that I've gone through, and I'm blessed, and I want everyone to be able to have that opportunity. So here's the tool right now.

I love it. Again, I. I think what holds people back is not having a practical action step to take and the fact that you take your work so seriously and you're so committed to bringing out excellence in other people shows in the fact that everything that you do, from the book to the journal to this wonderful live event that's only a couple weeks away, then March. I'm looking forward to myself and ch. Looking forward to hanging out with you. Can't wait to do that. I already told my audience all about. It's like, you guys got to come look. We're gonna be there. We have a big old party. But, you know, the cool thing is, is I know that yourself and Ben, everybody that you're bringing and putting on that stage, they're more than thought leaders. They are actively committed to making life change possible. Talk to me a little bit about why. Why an event? Why. Why does an event resonate with you? Because events are hard. They're not easy. Like, they take work, a lot of planning and a lot of. Just a lot of things that go into events, you know, just to make sure people have an amazing experience. But you're one of the brave ones. You. You jumped out there and said, let's go.

So talk to me about the brave or crazy step.

I learned.

I learned questioning that. Right.

I love events, too.

So, yeah, no, I. I love it. I have believed since I started my business that different platforms affect different people. So some people want to sit in here one on one. Some people want to be in a zoom session. Some people want to read a book. Events, to me, are so changing. And I was literally just writing an email about this to people about the event. I went to my first event back in. I think it was 1998, and it was the thing that got me on my journey of growth, because I didn't know. I didn't have people around me. I didn't know what I was even supposed to do. I. I just had zero knowledge about how to grow. But I had this little bit of a desire of, like, I know I want something different. And to what you said earlier, I had a little bit of guilt, too, of like, how dare I? I'm blessed. Leave it alone. But this event came up. My office sent out a flyer. I was like, here, here's this event. You get a discount code. So I went to it, and I think the guy's name was Steve Johnson. And it was like, if you're not selling, you're being outsold. And it was this sales event. Yeah. And I was like, I'm going to do it. I know nobody. And the event didn't. I'm going to be honest with you. The event didn't change my whole mind, but the step that I took and the people that I met and the courage it put me on, this whole trajectory of growth, and moments like that have stuck with me. And even the last conference I went to, I met Ben and I met Damon. Right? And I put myself in the room with them so that I could meet people like that. And now look, right, we're having this event. So I think. Think people just don't understand how impactful it is when you can be an event. Someone's talking to you. They're looking in your eyes and saying something to you that you will never forget. I equate it to, like, when you listen to a song and it's associated with a memory, right. It stirs something up. The same thing here. Podcasts and books, they don't have that impact. So you've got to be live and in person. You've got to have community around you. It's Just such a game changer. And it's so much fun. I mean, there's a little selfishness in it, right? Like, it's so fun.

It's pretty energizing, for sure. You know, it's interesting. One of these I love about events, especially the ones that you do, is, again, it's the intention, right? The. The intention is to not. It's not just to help, it's to transform.

Yeah.

And not every event has that intent. And, and being someone who's around of a lot of events and, and part of a lot of events helps plans a lot of events. You recognize when, When. When thought leaders genuinely care about their audience and what's going to happen. And it reminds me of my. One of my first events, actually. I was fresh. I. I was couch surfing. By that time, I was done with the homeless thing, which is great. But I got invited to a friend of mine's event. He was with a network marketing company at the time, and Les Brown was speaking, right. So here I am, fresh, basically. Fresh. Finally having some, like, stable, basic stable income. We're talking like 12 bucks an hour, $13 an hour was, you know, it was. It was good money then, not great money now kind of thing, right? But I remember sitting there and I'm actually in the nosebleed seats, you know, as an arena, and Les Brown gets up and he says, ladies and gentlemen, it's possible. It's late. And the crazy is I actually felt that in my spirit. And it gave me the, what I call the positive what if. What if. What if he's right? Not, not, what if I can fail? Or what if he's wrong? You know, I kind of felt like if he was even half right, like something powerful but changed because I realized something not only, like, in even your event, right, you're putting really, really successful people in the room to have direct access to this audience that you've intentionally kept intimate to the best of your ability without getting over, like, overdone. And like, if you went to go see these people, like 101, like, you're paying two, $3,000 a ticket, like, per person.

You're doing. You're doing all of these folks, all this thought leadership, all this excellent content, and not even a tenth of that or a third of that. Like, it's. I don't know. It's.

It's.

I'm. I just applaud you because I think it's amazing. Events changed my life, which is probably why I love them the way I love them.

You know, they. They're the one place I also believe, with events. And I'm sorry for rambling, but I'm just really passionate about your event.

One of the things I love about events is this element of getting out of your element. Right. So not only do you have to physically leave where you're at, which means you get to leave everything that you're currently facing and dealing with and whatever behind. You get to immerse yourself with high quality people with high quality concepts, with just one idea can change the entire game. One relationship, entire game. You know, And I don't know, I just, again, I. I rarely see people who actually care as much as you do about this event. Talk to me about why you created it to begin with. Like what? Like, because I, I know, I know we're, we. We're kind of brother and sister on this. Like, we don't do. Because for, you know, just for giggles, we do on purpose. So why did you form this event?

Yeah, it's. It, it. It gives me goosebumps. It almost makes me a little emotional because I just know how people have the ability to change. I know the desires that sit in their heart that don't ever get, you know, like, tended to. And to be able to put on an event where people can feel like they're not alone, people can feel like they are capable of rising up with speakers who are so intentionally committed to like, moving the needle for people is just such a blessing. I mean, it's genuinely the only reason why I do this is because I know the power of it and I know the result it will have in people's lives. And I just want to impact people to go out there and have a better life that is going to impact us, to have a better world. And I know that sounds a little like, you know, corny or cliche, but it truly is that. And when I put these events on and then the people that come back and say to me, like, oh my gosh, I met so and so, or this one thing that I heard changed everything in my life.

Yeah.

Every time.

Yeah.

It's just like, it almost seems like, how can I not do it? You know, I actually just went and spoke at another event and I had a room of a hundred women in there for a small breakout. And they cut me off. I didn't have time, but I said, if you guys want to come out, I'll meet in the hallway. And they all gathered around and they just sat there asking questions. And then I got emails and they're like, this one thing changed it, like I had this aha moment, and that's what it's all about for me. I mean, if I can do that and then bring in, you know, four powerhouse speakers and great thought leaders like you to impact people. God, I mean, that's. I just feel like that's what I was.

It is so fun to do.

It is.

It is.

I feel guilty sometimes because it's like. Feels a little selfish, right? When somebody's like, oh, my gosh, you know, I believe in myself or I double my business or I've found my relationship, you know, spirituality, like, whatever it may be, I'm on that same ride with them, right. Like, I'm. I'm right there with him and I'm living through it. And it's just amazing.

Well, a thousand percent. You know, I also think that, you know, again, I think it comes down to intention. The reason. Reason you go out and you. You do what you do because you don't have to do what you do. You do what you do because you love doing what you do. I think you. And I also realize that inside of some of these folks that we're desperately pouring into, and we want to see them actually get to achieve their goals and beyond, it's going to ignite another level of fires across the board. Right. Transformation creates more transformation. It's a. It's a byproduct. Call it. Call it God's version of Facebook and Instagram, like, lots of shares, right. And some people will go and build big businesses. Some people will go and have, you know, find their soulmate. Like, what equates to a soulmate or a healthy relationship, you know, And a lot of that comes down to putting yourself in an environment. And you've done a wonderful job of putting the tools and resources together, not just the event, but the book, the journal, all of that. To do something else that I know you're super passionate about, which is learning to trust yourself. You can't trust yourself until you know yourself, and you can't know yourself until you're. You have other circle of influences giving you additional perspectives. Like maybe, maybe let's spend some time on the importance of trusting ourselves and maybe how we discovered that process and maybe walk through that journey.

Yeah, trusting yourself is just huge. Like you said, you know, you can't lead yourself if you don't trust yourself. And that's a huge piece of it. Because if you're not leading yourself, then essentially you're being led by external noise, other people. And so really, to reverse that and to stop Looking outward. For all of the guidance and the decisions you have to look, look inward, which is how you build that trust. And every single day you have an opportunity to build trust. Right. When you set a commitment or an intention and then you follow through with it, you have just built some trust with yourself. And that happens again and again every single day. When you invest in yourself, when you take a chance on even going to an event like this. Right. Buying a ticket, you've just said, I believe in you and I trust you. So it's these little micro decisions that you make every day that starts to build that trust within yourself. And it doesn't mean that you don't ever want a perspective or outside influence, but it means that you have enough self awareness and trust to filter through them appropriately and not hang on it like it's, you know, to live or die by. And I can't, you know, I'm an independent person because the way I grew up, so it was always whatever I knew, I knew and I didn't need other people's help. And that's been a huge shift for me. When I started going to those events and being around other people and allowing those people to say what they saw or, gosh, lift me up and support me. That's, that's a big, big difference maker right there. Yeah. You know, you can't create your best life and success in a silo. It's just not possible. Yeah. And that's what I want to give people too. You know, the opportunity come out and be around people who can see that. And I know that you've probably seen that time and time again, but you get a group of people together and they start seeing what they see in each other and it's like they just light up. You almost see them start, you know, levitating off the floor. They're like believing so much. And that is huge.

Oh thou. Every time I get the opportunity to be there somewhere, live or be somewhere virtually, I always do live or virtual. And it's not because you can't have a cool virtual experience, but you can't have a personal experience.

Right.

You know, you can't, you can't physically shake the hand, sit down with a cup of coffee in the breezeway, in the hallway, near the bathroom during the breaks, you know, and that's one of the reasons why I'm looking forward to kind of hanging out with you guys, because I'm gonna be, I'm gonna be all over the place, talking to whoever wants to talk, you know, and kind of like socializing and, and because, because of the heart to pour. You know, as we're kind of looking at things and we're, and we're, we're thinking about kind of like should I go to an event or should is this event for me specifically Talk to me a little about. I want to hear from your perspective, maybe a personal experience or personal story of why you created a certain piece of a concept of the particular event and then kind of who the event's really, really for.

First of all, I keep telling people if you're afraid to go, then you should go. If you think it's not for you, then you should go. Like those are all the red flags that, you know, fear is jumping in and your comfort zone is trying to keep you, you know, nice and cozy. You do belong there and you will meet people. But the way I structure my events is different. They're small. I don't do stadium events. I don't want anybody in noseband seats just taking stuff in. I actually do round tables so that people sit together and converse. I actually do interviews and Q and A. It's not just a, okay, rapid fire speaker event. I want you to connect with the people at your table and understand what your takeaways are, what your action items are like. This is not just a fill you up. It's a space where you get to connect and dialogue with people so that you can walk away and have some accountability. I always say grab an accountability partner while you're here today. Get somebody's contact information. And last year I had all these different accountability groups that you know, paired off and kept in touch and they would send me a text and be like a meeting with so and so, you know, and, and we're doing so great. So I form it for that. I want you to have accountability. I want you to have community so you will not be sitting in a seat by yourself. I also do follow up coaching which is unheard of. Like most people, most people do these events so that they can sell something. I don't sell anything. Like last year I literally did six follow up group coaching sessions for everybody at the event. If you wanted to chime in, that's.

Because you like, you actually care whether.

Yes. I wanted to make sure that they.

So rare that that a thought leader of your caliber that doesn't have to do what they do and just do it because they love to do it goes through that level of execution to make sure people get what they need.

I just ask that you text me and let me Celebrate with you when you, you know, when you have that transformation, when you get that sale you didn't think you could get. When you start your business, you know, when your confidence is off the charts, when you feel like you're finally living the life that you deserve and that, you know, you were made for. Like, all I ask is that you text me and let me celebrate with you.

Yeah, that's it. Oh, that's so good. That is so, so good. Well, look, I want to pivot back to non negotiable. You. Yeah, I know it's a. I know it's a work of art. I know it's a work of passion. If you had to pick three specific principles that you wanted to expound upon that maybe. Because I know when I go through the editing process, not everything just to make it into the book. Right. So just for some bonus. Right, because look, everybody needs to grab the book. It's, it's. It's an easy but very profound read. Easy but very profound. It's a. You'll need a highlighter, you'll need an ink pen. You'll probably need a journal, I. E. Get the journal.

Kind of company with it. But, you know, what are two or three things that maybe you want to expound upon in the book that you weren't able to or concepts you wanted to put in that, you know, do the editing process and maybe just make it in there.

Oh, that's a tough one because there, There are so many pieces that it. Book two is in the works right now.

Okay.

Because I think that in that case, first.

First Gazette. There's the book, second book coming.

But you know, the mindset piece is huge. And I just touched on it in the book because I didn't want to overwhelm. And I think that the point I just want to drive home here that people really need to understand is that you have the ability to control your mind. And that is like mind blowing for some people. Like, they just don't get that you. You don't have to keep the thought that pops into your mind and you have the ability to choose something different that's going to then make you feel a different way and take action. That right there I kind of refer to as getting in the driver's seat of your life. If you can get at the control panel of your mindset, everything gets easier and more achievable. And, you know, that's a concept I'm going to build on in the second part of the book because where do all those thoughts come from right. We have to explore our past, which is a whole nother ball game. But I like to say your past does define you. But guess what? You get to define your past. And there's so much power in how you grew up and what happened. And I denied that for a long time. I was like, the past is the past. We don't need to look at it. It holds so much gold. It holds your true gifts and qualities and your confidence. So that is a big piece to expand on there. The relationship with yourself. If you can't rate a relationship you have with yourself at 10 out of 10, then there's work to do. Because you will Never execute a 10 out of 10 somewhere else in your life if you don't have a 10 out of 10 with you.

Yeah.

So you can read as many sales books as you want, communication, books, marketing, everything. And you will always be showing up with less than your full potential if you haven't done the work on yourself.

Yeah.

And that's another piece too, that's so important. Everyone wants to shortcut that piece. Right. Like, just. Just tell me the script, tell me how to build the business. Give me the eos. Give me all just, like, tangible, like, you know, tools that I can do to get the work done. But the real work, the real work is within you and your relationship with yourself. It changes everything.

Yeah. And the real work takes consistency. I'm a big believer that, yeah, you should explore your past, but you don't have to live there, you know, So I kind of, when I go to look at past situations, and obviously I've had a fairly difficult past myself, like many people have, you know, and I think that's another important distinction, is you're not the only one that's faced challenges. Right. So get around people who have faced challenges, come out the other side who can help you get to the end of the journey quicker. You know, that's the only hack that I can think of, the speed, expert, the process. But, you know, when I'm looking at my. My past, you know, things, I'm. I'm looking at it from a lens of non judgment, non condemnation and looking for data only. I kind of always viewed it as stepping outside of the movie and operating the movie like a director. So I know what's going to happen before, middle, and after. And then I can take the character and position it. Oh, well, well, this is what happened. This is what he. This is what Stephen thought it meant. This is what God meant for it kind of thing. And I know, I love It.

So, yeah. And, you know, to kind of piggyback on that a little bit is I definitely. I'm with you on that. You know, not living in the past, but everyone has some type of adversity. And this is why I love Damon coming to the event. Because if you look at it and you look at anyone out there, you have your story. Right. Ben has his story. Like, if you actually know your story and what it created in your life, then you get to use that adversity as opportunity.

Yeah.

And most people don't want to tap into that adversity. They. They are like, that doesn't define me. That doesn't. I don't want to look at it. But if you don't know what adversity you went through and you're not extracting the goodness from it, it's really hard to find that catapult into the opportunities in your life. So, yeah, be factual about it. Everything you said there, it's just huge. You know, Damon jokes. He's like, well, you know, it's easy for people to listen to me. You know, I was a football player, I was in prison. You know, sports in prison that people want to hear. But it's the adversity, Right? Yeah. So I encourage people, find it, find it, because there is gold in it, and you will really figure out what God has created you for and what you can use in your life.

Yeah, I love that. I'm going to come back to adversity in just a second, but before I work, everybody else, find out more about you and everything you're working on, because obviously we covered the book, the journal, and the event, I think.

Yes.

So let's go.

But absolutely. I mean, I put content out there everywhere. Angie Wisdom, life coach on Instagram. The name is easy. You know, Angie Wisdom dot com.

Is that, by the way, last name Wisdom? I'm just saying. I mean, I guarantee that you're like a sage. I'm just putting that.

Yeah, well, people always think it's not my real name. Like, somebody was. I was doing a podcast or day, and she goes, what made you choose Wisdom? And I'm like, I don't know. He was six foot tall, he was tan, he liked to surf. And she was like, oh, it's your husband. And I'm like, yeah, I didn't make up the name.

It is the name, but. So if you Google Angie Wisdom, you'll find me all over. But the event, I. I just. If you can do it, come to the event. That is the biggest ROI that You can get on your investment, I believe, you know, it's such a good place to start. Like, if you are not sure, you know, you're just kind of interested, you want to be nosy, you know, and you're just tapping into it. Gosh, it's the best place. So on my website, angiewisdom.com you can look at the event details or get intentional too.

Yeah. And we'll put all the stuff in the show notes as well, because obviously I'm a huge supporter what your work and everything you're doing. I know Chastity is. Man, she loves you to death. I think guys are officially sisters now.

Which I love, so I think so. Yeah.

But the last thing I want to maybe touch on before we hop off is I'm gonna go back to adversity for a second because I find that people who.

Are struggling or who. Who I would say are stuck, and I would say the definition of stuck is nothing more than not making progress, which could mean you're not taking a step. It could mean a lot of different things. Versus someone who's what I refer to as unstoppable, which is consistently making progress. The core difference I see is actually how they handle adversity.

From your perspective. With all the folks you've worked with and all the amazing work you've done, all the work you've done within your own life. How has your relationship changed with adversity over time?

Adversity is just an obstacle that creates opportunity. It's just the way I see it. You know, I think that the big dividing road for people is if adversity is something that happened to, you know, to you, and you become a victim of it.

Yeah.

Then you're going down one road. If you look at it in this light of it happen for you, then you. You believe that it is for a reason, and there's an opportunity within it. And it's literally those two choices. There's no other, you know, definition in there. Either happened to you or it happened for you. And I think a long time ago, I probably, you know, whined and cried a lot about what would happen to me with the way that I grew up or the obstacles that came in my way. But you realize that that's what gets you stuck. Like, nothing happens then because you can't change. Yeah. That's. That you don't have control over. You can't change what's already happened. So I kind of took this approach of like, well, why not? Right? Like, why not view it as something Different. And in my experience, it's one of the first things I work on with clients is getting them to reframe things. Cognitive reframing is huge. It's why in the morning, mindset journal, we do gratitude, we do prayer, we do visualization, affirmations. Because when you start to go, oh, that kind of stings a little bit.

Yeah.

What's, you know, what's in here for me? Yeah, that's when you really start, you know, kicking adversity's butt and you start creating major opportunity out of it.

And you know what I think is interesting about adversity specifically, or how you deal. If you can learn to deal with adversity in a healthy way, it reminds me a bit. It reminds me of a bit of a backward snowball or a snow. So it's a. That's meaning it's the snowball going down the hill. The quicker you can get to a place where you accept and even lean into adversity, the quicker you're going to build momentum. And the thing that used to cause you pain and problems before becomes, I would dare say, inconsequential. Like, there are things that used to freak me out and overwhelm the mess out of me that literally, if the same event happened, I'm not faced at all. Meanwhile, I'm. I deal with a different challenge that. That I get to compound. I get to learn from. And I, you know, you get the experience and you develop the empathy. And, you know, I'm a big believer that, you know, part of you going through certain experiences is to get the lessons learned, to help people, those who are literally behind you, who are coming up, you know, you know, if I could help somebody, if I could help Stephen 15 years ago, expedite his healing journey or expedite his growth journey by five years, like, that is incredible. You know, and to put all this. This content and. And this framework around actually helping people achieve that, I just can't applaud you enough because you're a living example of what it takes to win, what it takes to sacrifice, and what it takes to give more than anything else. And I can't thank you enough, Angie.

You're.

You're an amazing human being. I can't wait to hang out with you at the event again. Everybody should grab the book, get the journal, be at the freaking event. Let's have some fun. I'll hug your neck. Angie will hug your neck, Chastity even hug your neck. Just get your butt to the event.

I love it and think. I mean, I'm sitting over here. My heart's so full with all that you said. You know, everyone likes to be recognized for what's truly deep in their heart. And I appreciate you saying seeing that in, in me and sharing that with people. I am a hugger. So, you know, come to the event. I. I will be there giving hugs out. I read something the other day. Somebody posted about the amount of just in a hug, the serotonin that gets.

Released and.6 second hug. A 6 second hug will double your dopamine.

Yeah. And I literally, I saw that and I was like, I'm going to start hugging people a little longer, squeezing a little tighter, you know, start asking for hugs.

Like, can I get some more hugs over.

It brought hugs a whole new meaning to me. And I'm like, oh, yeah. I'm going out as a fierce hugger now, man.

I love it. Angie, thank you so much. I can't wait to hug you, hug you in person and see you soon.

I'll see you soon. Thanks, Steven.

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