Knowing If They’re “The One”, Being More Present, Dealing With COVID-19 | Life-Mastery Q&A

In today's question, I actually want to talk, talk about something that's a little more serious. And the question that came in is, how do I, or what am I supposed to do when COVID 19 has basically stopped my life? In other words, I'm scared about my finances. I'm scared about everything. I've been shut in my house for extended periods of time. What do I do? I've always been a big believer in using your time wisely, regardless of what's happening in or around you. One of the best things that I personally feel like you can do, that I've been doing myself and been asking my team to do since we've been doing so many different zoom calls and videos and stuff like that, is to focus on the area that you can grow the most, research different avenues to get some E learning or some ebooks or stuff like that. And start studying. Start looking at your life from a brand new level. Start looking at your life from who you want to be. Start looking at your life, okay? What is it gonna take to get there? If you wake up each morning, right? And you're just kind of waking up whenever now because no one's had a specific time to be at work or whatever, then you're getting. There's a potential to get complacent, right? Complacency will kill pretty much any progress you'll make. So the best thing you could do is to keep yourself busy. Set your alarm for the time that you used to get up to go to school or go to work, right? Get up at that time, go ahead and go through the process of doing your hair and getting dressed. Put yourself back in the rhythm of things, right? Then get your cup of coffee or whatever your little pick me up is. Sit down with your laptop or your iPhone, your Google phone, and throw your earbuds in and do some studying, right? We've got plenty of free, free resources@journeyprinciples.com resources to help you get some learning. And whether it's journey principles or something else, spend your time developing yourself. By doing so, you increase your value. And as soon as this economy opens back up, you're worth twice as much as you were before. And then an employer or someone like that can actually take advantage of the new you. And there's a good chance they'll be willing to pay for it. So take advantage of your free time.

Okay? So it's been a long time since I had to answer a question like this. I've been happily married now for going on seven years. And so here's the question. And when I think about answering this question, I'm thinking about my wife. And the question is, how do I know if they're the one? As someone who had all kinds of toxic relationships, trying to figure out how to create in myself how to become a good man and all this kind of stuff and be ready for a quality woman, I can honestly tell you that one of the things that I know most about our relationship is we're best friends. We can talk about anything. We can fight about anything. We can argue about anything. But there's safety in our communication. There's safety in the combination of our value systems. There are things like giving to people and taking care of others that we both shared at a deep, deep level. So much so that we're probably getting in trouble with each other on a regular basis because she's giving, I'm giving. And they were like, hey, I think we overgave that month kind of thing. Okay? Find someone who has similar value systems, but different value systems. My wife is incredibly aesthetic, right? She can make. She can. She can do anything. Joanna can do Gaines and do it just as well. I really believe that. And Joanna Gaines can do some phenomenal stuff, okay? My wife's ability to add aesthetic value is unbelievable. I don't possess that gene. I have to physically tell myself when I come home, hey, what's changed? How much Ray Dunn stuff is in the house? Okay? These are different things where there's a difference that you can build upon and be excited about, but also something that you don't have to share. So I would say be a best friend. Find someone who's genuinely easy to talk to about anything, that you're not scared to talk about anything. Someone you feel secure with, that you can talk to about anything, right? Find someone who shares values and also has different values that can stretch you a little bit. And I think the third thing is probably the most important, and that is laugh a lot. Laugh a lot.

My wife and I have our own little way of laughing, right? You guys see me as Mr. Serious a lot of times in these different videos, but real talk all the time. We do fun stuff that make us laugh, right? The best thing I love about my relationship with my wife is I love to laugh. And we do it all the time. Find those things, and you've probably found the one that could probably go the distance.

I'm not even sure if I'm actually qualified to answer this question, to be honest, but I'm going to try. The question came in Is how can I be more present when I have so much on my mind? I can promise you, as someone who owns several companies, who's trying to do their best by everybody, their team, their clients, and everything that I personally have to consider this on a regular basis. Here are the things that help me get back in the. In the sway of things. And keep in mind this is an area that I'm personally still working on myself. Right? One, I have to put the phone away. I physically have to put the phone or the computer or any other device in a completely separate room before I actually take the time to fully engage. So take the time to take all your technology, stick it in a different place so you can be present. The second thing I do is I typically take about 10 minutes to myself in like, solitude just to get myself out of my old headspace. Or I want to make sure that I've got myself at a place of peace, for lack of better word, so I can actually absorb what's going on in a room around me, the conversations I'm having. Because if my phone, if I'm in my phone or if I'm distracted with a book, or if I'm distracted with a dog or my kids or whatever, I'm not present, I'm distracted. Right? So you want to take the time to kind of eliminate those distractions. I think the other thing that kind of really is kind of powerful in this particular area is do a brain dump. A lot of days I'll spend about the last hour of my day in my office or on my way home, and I'll either do a voice brain dump into my phone. In other words, all the things that I feel like I'm going to have to take care of the next day, or I'll take the time to write it out and that becomes a to do list or an action list for the following day. I find that if I can walk into my house by actually having that to do list and having those action items laid out before me, I'm not going to wake up at 3am or 2am or midnight thinking about those things, which allows me to actually come into the house with a sense of peace and a sense of connection and that which allows me to connect with my family. Now, it doesn't have to be romantic and it doesn't be family, but I find if you'll do these things, you can be more present in your environment and really start to win.

How can I jumpstart my personal growth? Well, personal growth is personal, which means you have a responsibility and the accountability to follow through with that. What you want most I find that most people who are struggling with their personal growth are missing one thing. They don't have an outcome in mind. They really don't have a direction or a place that they really know that they want to go. And if you don't know where you want to go or don't have an idea where you want to go, how are you ever actually going to take the steps to get there? So step one in jump starting personal growth is clearly define what it is you want in your life right now. In the first year, in 12 months, in 18 months, in 24 months, in five years. Think about these things. Don't wait five years to think about what you should have thought about the previous five years ago. Take some time to plan where you want to go today. And then I'll give you step one of getting progress in your personal growth. I think the second thing is consistency. You've got to be consistent. Consistent and resilient, right? You've got to make sure that you're taking actions on a daily effort to grow, right? Do the little things. Listen to a podcast. Watch a video. Read a book. Take the time each day to do something that's going to feed your mind, your heart and your body, right? Make sure you're doing the right things to elevate yourself on a daily basis. When you're climbing a mountain or climbing a set of stairs, you only need to focus on the step that's in front of you. So decide where you want to go and then take the steps to get there.

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