Stephen Scoggins argues that personal limitations and lack of self-awareness hold people back. He emphasizes the need for honest self-evaluation and getting outside perspectives to identify blind spots that prevent success.
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Most negative actions started first with a negative emotion that led to a negative attitude that then led to a negative action. And by dissecting that stuff, you're able to explore how you got there in the first place.
Steven Scoggins is a best selling author. He challenges people to break through their obstacles, coming from a broken home, years of struggle, to launching what would become a multi million dollar construction company. Ladies and gentlemen, Steven Scoggins in the.
I believe that every single person walking the face of this planet can have a successful career, can have a successful relationship, can have a successful community, can have a successful impact. The problem is so many of us end up holding ourselves back. And the reality is there's only one real thing that actually ends up holding us back more than anything else. This might not surprise you.
You. So let me ask you this. Are you someone who doesn't fully understand the opportunities that lay in front of you? And the reason I ask that is because so many times, if our main roadblock is ourselves, then how are we ultimately going to actually change that and transform that on a regular basis? And you may have heard me say this before, but there can be no transformation without ultimate transparency. And more than anything else, that is a level of honesty that most people are scared to actually ask, witness, and even achieve. What I want to encourage you to do differently than anything else is I want to encourage you to actually be honest with yourself. If you're honest with yourself, based on where you're at right now, based on what you're struggling with right now, could you honestly say that you were truly giving and everything that you got, could you honestly say that, you see, I was my greatest Achilles heel when it came to becoming successful. I'm the one that had the limiting beliefs. I'm the one that had the insecurities. I'm the one who was stuck in comparison. I'm the one who was stuck in a prideful place. Meaning I already thought I knew what I was supposed to be doing. But if you're honest with yourself, as I had to be, I finally had to recognize I was where I was because I was only allowing myself to be. That if I actually had the knowledge and actually had the skill set and actually had the determination to do it, then I would have already done it. The first thing I want you to do when you look at yourself is I want you to take and evaluate how you actually see yourself.
How do you see yourself? Do you see yourself as someone with ultimate potential, or do you see someone who has ultimate limitations? Do you see Yourself as someone in your mind's eye, in your vision, in your life, in your dreaming, in your facilitating, in your pursuing. Do you see yourself as someone who can ultimately get to what it is you want to go to? Or do you only see a goal and an aspiration and no bridge to get there? How do you see yourself? Are you a person of limitation or. Or are you a person of conquest? Can you actually take the energy and the passion and the pursuit and actually dig deep and run? Run your race, man. Run it. How do you see yourself? Okay, the next thing we want to do is we want to understand better how others see us. Now be very careful here. When I say others, I don't mean people who are giving you financial advice when they themselves are broke. I don't mean someone who's giving you relationships advice when unfortunately they may have had multiple divorces. What I am saying is the others that I'm particularly speaking of, these are people in which you trust, admire and respect. The reality is you've got to have an outside overview of how you see yourself because they are going to see both gifts and struggles.
They're going to see things very differently than you see it because they have an outside perspective. I mean, think about it. If you're walking up the mountainside, how much of the mountain range can you see? Now go a little further. All the way up to the peak. When you get up to the peak of the mountain, how much mountain range can you see? That's what I'm talking about. By outside perspective, you want somebody that you trust, admire and respect to have the capability to give you honest feedback on what needs to change. Now, the third thing I want you to focus on is this.
How you judge yourself.
How you judge yourself. Most of us, when we make a mistake, we end up falling into guilt and shame and condemnation on a regular basis. So we where, when we make a mistake, we remind ourselves about how bad we really are and how much we really suck, not realizing we are actually putting poison in the very water we're drinking. What I want to encourage you to do something different is I want you to use a couple of different keywords. From now on, anytime when you're looking at yourself and or an event in your life that maybe is not as favorable as you want it to be. And here's what I mean by that. When you're looking at judging yourself, I want you to look at the different word, okay? Exploration.
Okay? Exploration.
What at the end of the day made me take that action? What thought led to the action I took, what emotional response led me to the thought that I had and then to the action that I took. Was I angry and frustrated and bitter and hurt and resentful or was I contemplative and open minded as I kind of went in here, did it create the emotion of or the attitude of? Well, they can't do that to me or I'm not going to let this define me. You see, at the end of the day, most negative actions started first with a negative emotion that led to a negative attitude that then led to a negative action. And by dissecting that stuff, you're able to explore how, how you got there in the first place. When you get to explore how you got there in the first place and now you can actually look at the tea leaves, so to speak. You can look at, okay, well, this limiting belief showed up here. Alright, so if a limiting belief shows up here, I want to know where that belief was formed.
Where did it come from? Was it something from my past, my childhood, a bad relationship, maybe something I still to this day feel guilty about? And what I want to encourage you to do more than anything else is I want to encourage you to always pay attention and actually use intention to then generate the action. Make no mistake, if you are going to win at life, then you've got to learn from the inside out and not the outside in.
