"This Trick Will COMPLETELY HEAL Your Body & Mind TODAY!" | Marisa Peer

So the source of the pain isn't the source of the problem. And so many people going to therapy come in with a presenting problem, but it's not the problem. I'm an alcoholic. No, your problem is you don't feel worthy enough.

Today's special guest has been named best British therapist by Men's Health magazine as well as being featured in Tatler's guide to Britain's 250 best doctors. Not to mention one of the most successful hypnotherapists in the world. As a world renowned speaker and rapid transformational therapy trainer and best selling author, Marissa Pierce is one of a kind approach to healing and advancement in the area of transformation all happens in record timing. Marissa is also the founder of the highly effective rapid transformational therapy known as the RTT method. In fact, she was the only woman to be featured in the article the Best of British. Not to mention the 2018 RTT method garnered her international attention. Her thought leadership has simply led the way as the way the mind works in ultimate transformation. So please help me welcome my good friend and mentor, Marissa Pierce. Marisa, how are you doing? So good to see you.

I'm doing really well actually. It's a new year and everything is very exciting here.

Well, I'm for one looking forward to putting 2020 to the side and getting into the more exciting parts of life. And you know, in following your career, you've, you have one of the most distinguished careers when it comes to mindset and understanding how to make perspective shifts. So much so that your RTT method has actually been known to solve some of the more complex problems. For one of those was actually infertility, if I read correctly. So explain to me how that even came about. How did you even start? How'd you even create the RTT method and why does it work so well?

Well, you know, it works so well because there's this incorrect belief if a problem is complex, then it requires complex treatment. So if someone has depression or anorexia or bulimia or anxiety or fears or phobias, we class that as complex and then we offer a very complex treatment. And that's simply not the case. Some of the most complex issues stem from something very simple, which is I'm not enough. I've worked with thousands of addicts. I've never met one ever who felt they were enough. And if you can treat what I call what lies underneath the source of the issue rather than the issue, you'll find that treatment can be very simple. Most bulimics don't Feel loved. And so they're seeking comfort in food because after all, as a baby, that was a thing. Somebody put something milky in your mouth and all your problems are sold. You felt loved, connected, significant, attached. And so many of our behaviors are nothing more than regression. Overeating is a regression. No one says, oh, I'm having a bad day. I. I need a bit of lettuce. But we go, and I do macaroni, cheese and cakes, cookies, because we're regressing back. And infertility fascinated me because I was told I could never have a baby, wouldn't get pregnant if I did, could never carry a baby to full term. And I was diagnosed with that very interesting term, unexplained infertility. Well, that's kind of weird, because if it's explained, you go, well, we can explain. Your fallopian tubes are blocked, your eggs are rubbish, your husband's sperm swims backwards. But unexplained means that everything is fine in there. We can't explain what's wrong. And I realized it was very much a mental issue, as are almost all overeating issues. Overeating is an emotional issue that you can't fix with a diet. Unexplained infertility is an emotional problem that can't be fixed with logic. And so I decided to look at the emotions that cause us to be ill or s. Sick or addicted or have phobias and to treat those. And so I created rtt, really based on the feedback of my own patients over 33 years who'd say things like, wow, when you did that, said that explained that that changed my life. And so once I got that, I started to formulate what really worked and then taught other therapists to do the same thing. Because I just don't think therapy should be complicated. And. And I've never quite understood. I've always had a bit of a challenging mind. This tech method that says, bring me your pain, and let's have a conversation about it every week. And over time, you'll get to trust me, and then maybe. Maybe.

We can get better. You know, I went into anaphylactic shock in New York a couple of years ago. That was quite scary. I got rushed on hospital. I didn't say to the doctor, hey, can I talk about it? It's like, get me. Stop this anaphylactic shock. I could hardly breathe. My mouth swelled up. It was kind of scary. And I wanted immediate help, and I got immediate help. They fixed me. They told me to never, ever, ever eat shellfish again, because my body had reacted to it, they gave me an instant cure. No one says to their dentist, you know, I've got an infected tooth, can I discuss it every. No one says to their cardiologist, got a problem with my heart, can I talk about it every week? And so we sold people this very strange belief that if you have mental problems or indeed physical, because a lot of stuff like asthma or migraines or allergies and skin conditions are real, but they're caused by the mind and you shouldn't have to discuss them. You should be able to get over it super fast, as with any other issue.

Well, why do you think it is that we, especially when it comes to the mind, comes to the belief, comes to perspective, why do you think it is we seem to go after solutions because, I mean, that are complex. For example, I noticed that, you know, obviously when I was overcoming homelessness and all that kind of stuff, I would. I always went to the complex solution. Then I would get discouraged by the complex solution, and then I would give up entirely. Then I wouldn't get the shift that I needed. Why do you think as human beings, we tend to go after the complex rather than the simple?

Well, you know, what happens is when you're a child, when you're a kid, you know, your life is very simple. You don't have that many needs. I'm a baby, You're a baby. All I need is to feel loved, to feel safe, to feel significant. As I get a bit older, I kind of need to feel that you're proud of me, that you care about me, that you'll protect me. So these are very simple needs that all children have. The problem is that when that child's need is not met, when they don't feel loved, when they don't feel safe, when they don't feel significant, they never blame the parent. They blame themselves. And that's a big tragedy that starts very early. Oh, my parents don't love me. No child goes, because they're an alcoholic, because they're mentally ill, because they're stressed. A child never stops loving the parent who fails to provide. They stop loving themselves very early on. My mom's always crying, must be my fault. My dad's left, must be my fault. My new stepdad prefers his own baby. Must be my fault. And the problem is, the minute we buy into it, must be my fault, which is actually a survival thing, because if you work out, your parents are not up to the job, that's terrifying. We idealize our parents and Blame ourselves because that's how we survive. But the problem is we never suddenly have a light. Oh, right now, what's 32? I can look back and see my mum was mentally ill, my dad was having, they were 17. We still buy into, this is my fault. Secondly, a child can't fix it. A child can't fix a depressed mother, a broke father. And they look at this situation, there isn't. I call tagging. They go, oh, no one loves me. I can't change it, I can't fix it. It will always be this way. And then we enter adulthood with the same belief. Well, I can't fix it, I can't change it. It will always be this way. And you probably saw being homeless that so many people who are homeless have had really inadequate parents. They have no support, they have no love, they have no one to fall back on and they get into this terrible spiral because their needs aren't met. And when you have unmet needs as a kid, you become an adult with the same unmet needs. Or you do this thing about right, I need to find someone out there, great guy, great girl, and, and they're going to meet my needs. But of course they might for a while, but then they may also go into that cycle of not meeting your needs. And the most effective part of therapy by none is teaching a client, hey, you can meet these needs. Your father never said he loved you. That's terrible. Your mother abandoned you. That's unacceptable. However, the need to feel loved, worthy and enough, you have to meet that need now when you meet it, you stop being needy and it's such a game changer. But sadly, we haven't quite got to that place yet where all therapy is doing that, where all schools are doing that, where all doctors are saying, hey, before I give you antidepressants, let's talk about your needs and what went on in your life and why you're like this. We treat people as if they're machines that are broken and need medication when they're not. They've had broken experiences and need some understanding and some help. But that help can be really fast if it's done the right way.

Yeah, that's so true. As you're talking, I'm actually reflecting too. I mean, turns out my father was in fact an alcoholic for some time.

Some of us believe that's because my grandfather survived Pearl harbor. And of course he was diagnosed with, or wasn't diagnosed with ptsd, began self medicating, that then bled into the family. He married my mother who came from her own dysfunctional, broken family with a lot of abuse and a lot of traumatic situations. Next thing you know, father's chasing alcoholism, mother is trying to figure life out from a place of. I'll call it victimhood. Just because I can't think of a better word at the moment. You know, I.

This is always going to happen to me. I'm only worthy of this. I'm only worthy of the quote, unquote. And as a result, a huge part of my early life was, in fact, trying to love them in such a way that they would then see me, then value me, then want to hear me, then appreciate me. And as a child, you're right. I think so many of us. I think there's so many adults even walking around today. Caller from North Carolina to California, it doesn't matter, right? So many adults are walking around today struggling to realize that the child inside of them has never actually had a chance to heal fully. And which is why the broken relationships are happening and why they're having a hard time with eating and why they can't seem to hold down a job. All of those things were my life. And if I hadn't had a couple of key mentors that began to give me that perspective shift that you've helped so many people do over and over again, I would be in a very different place. I wouldn't own six companies. I wouldn't employ people. I wouldn't. You know what I'm saying? This, what you're describing, is so transformational that everybody should focus on it, but yet hardly anyone does.

I know.

Why is that? What do you think holds people back.

From, you know, many, many things? I mean, it doesn't really serve the drug companies to understand that. What's wrong with every, you know, when I began to see clients, I worked out very quickly. There's only three things wrong with everyone, whether it's you, me, or our neighbor. There's three things wrong with people. And the biggest one is I'm not enough. I wasn't loved. I wasn't nurtured. My parents always wanted a girl. They got a boy. They always wanted a boy. They got a girl. My mom had me out of wedlock. My dad left. I'm not enough. And so we have people with this I'm not good enough. I'm not smart enough. I'm not worthy enough. And the I'm not enoughness is a big issue because behind every addiction, behind hoarding, behind compulsive shopping, behind binging, is this. I'm not enoughness. And so we've created that by just not allowing to believe they're enough. We make them compete with other kids at school. We start to set them up, we compare them. Your niece could do that. Your cousin, well, she doesn't get food all over the table. Your brother, he could read when he was 4. And schools do that very badly too. They have tables and the smart kids. And we teach children very early on that they are not enough and we should be teaching the opposite. And then magazines come along and shows like Friends where a waitress lives in Central park and has got a perfect body. And we see all these movies like, you know, Baywatch years ago that say there's anything you're not enough. You know, we are exposed every day to images of fake perfection. We look at Keeping up with the Kardashians. I mean, that's not even real. But we think, oh, that's real. I don't look like that, so I'm not enough. And, and if only doctors could treat that. You know, I'm going to look at why you're depressed, why you're acting out, why you self sabotage. And I'm going to look at, do you think you don't feel? People say to me, wow, you know, that not enoughness. You got me in five minutes. I had no idea that I was sabotaging relationships, sabotaging success because of a belief I picked up when I was four. I've been on the planet for four years, of course I picked that up. But it doesn't really serve the drug companies to do that. And other people are simply trained to look for the medical reason. You know, I was working with someone with narcolepsy recently, which is a big thing. She just couldn't stay awake. And it all went back to her father left when she was little and she discovered he was gay and he was living with another guy. And then her sister tragically got murdered and she formed a belief. I just can't cope with real life. She liked to sleep. Another girl say Miss, she said that when she was born, her mother used to say, you know, your brother was the devil. He nearly killed me. He was awake all night. It nearly killed me. But you're the devil. Good girl, you sleep well. And he says, she's such a good sleeper. She's a good girl, she's always asleep and a very small child. Here's some key words. Your brother nearly killed me by being awake. But you're the angel because you sleep all the time. And of course the mind forms Beliefs. Oh, that makes me good. That makes me valid. And so, you know, we can't blame doctors being trained to look for the medical reasons. You know, I worked with somebody recently who had ocd. And in an hour and a half in front of a classroom full of people, we completely fixed that because it was all to do with, I can't control this craziness of my life. But if all the cushions are straight, if all the silverware is straight, I feel I can control out there because I can't control in here. So when you can say to your client, look, this is why you are the way you are, and what you did made perfect sense. Any kids going through what you went through, like you would have ended up the way you ended up, that's okay. What's not okay is to keep it going. You know, if we look at the Marilyn Monroe's of the world, they weren't loved as children. And so all her life she felt unlovable. Heath Ledger, George Michael, so many people that had such a gift, but they, we think they're adults, but they're not. They still have this wound. I'm a damaged kid and no one loves me. And you really got to change that label and say I was a damaged kid, but my life is like a clock. That was the first 10 minutes. The first 10 minutes was awful, unfair, unjust. But I still got the next 50 minutes to get it together and to realize that children need mommy and daddy to love them. Adults actually don't. You have to be your own best parent, your own best friend, a big part of rtts. I mean, I call becoming a loving parent to yourself, finding the missing part of you, the praise you've always wanted. And we get people in hypnosis to start to say the things that a great parent or teacher might have said, because the mind doesn't know or care. If you start to go, hey, I'm great, I'm gifted, I'm amazing. It doesn't go well. Who's saying that? It just lets it in, it sinks in. Like lotion on dry skin. Nourish you just, just like lotion nourishes dry skin. And so it's very important to understand that your job is to nourish you with the right words, the right images. And as long as you're waiting for someone, someone's going to come along and make me feel good. Someone's going to complete me. Someone's. I'm looking for my other half. Well, no, because you're not half. You're whole and when you become whole, you can find someone else, but they'll never be the other half of you. Because why would you think you're a half if you haven't got someone in your life?

That's right. So good. So good. You know, again, I'm having all these different memories pop up as we're chatting. And we had this. We did this live event. We haven't done a live event, obviously, in a while. Covid. Because of COVID But we used to. I used to put a mirror on everybody's desk about two years, you know. Well, not two years, two days into the event. And of course, you know, you have this moment where they pick the mirror up and you go. You just have them say, stare at yourself. And you're like, you know, make goo eyes call yourself. You're beautiful, you're sexy, you're hot. You know, make all these kind of cutesy things. And then you go, everybody repeat after me. And everybody's like, okay, you know, because they're thinking we're gonna keep on with the cuteness and stuff like that. I said, everybody repeat after me.

I.

Everybody's. I forgive. Forgive you.

And you let it sit there for just about 10 seconds. And we've had so many people hit the floor crying because they've never allowed themselves to forgive themselves for the mistakes or the things that they've judged themselves, maybe that weren't even their fault to begin with. I find that people, for some reason, they take full responsibility for things they take that they have no responsibility over, and they take no responsibility for things that they have to.

Yeah.

You know, and as I'm going through this and I'm hearing you talk, I'm just like, man, I wish I was near Marissa. Well, earlier, just earlier. Just earlier, earlier, you know, because I find that significance breeds purpose. And if you don't know who you are, why you are, and you're not in that place where you can be affirmed, then essentially, it makes it really hard to figure out why you're even here on this planet. I've always said that there's basically three questions you got to ask. Who am I? Why am I here? What am I supposed to do about it?

Yeah.

And I feel like everybody's chasing question number one from the time that they're born, and unfortunately for many people, all the way until the time that they're no longer walking the earth anymore. And that's one of the things I love most about the RTT method, is you can cut decades, decades off of internal suffering. Decades off of unclarity, decades off of not having direction. You know, talk a little bit about how the mind breeds into overall a person's overall sense of purpose and identity.

Well, you know, we are all here for a reason. We're all here with a gift. And your gift lies directly behind and actually is linked to what you love to do. The age of 7 and 14, and many of us don't know, but if you're always doing puzzles, then you should probably be a strategist. If you're always, you know, cutting out stuff for your. Making little clothes for your dolls that have Kleenex, you're probably going to be a designer. You know, if you. Jo Malone was always making perfume in her garden from old petals. And I used to write books, all them stories, and they were always stories about disadvantaged families. So clearly I was always going to be a therapist fixing people. Many people said I don't have a purpose, or surely my purpose is to find someone and have children. Isn't that my purpose? Well, that's a wonderful thing to do. But in fact, we all do have a purpose. And when you find your purpose and have the confidence to go after it and the work ethic to do something amazing, your life will be extraordinary. But you see, in school we don't talk about what are your gifts. We talk about you've got to be good at math and you got to be good at this. And we try to make all the children the same. I was lucky. I went to a very unusual school. My father was the head teacher, where you didn't have to go to lessons you weren't good at. In the whole of Finland now, children picked their curriculum. And my father saying, you know, these kids are good at it, so they can spend all their time only what's the point of learning French? I mean, how is that going to help someone who's going to end up doing maybe being in construction. And so I think the whole education system where it pits kids, it doesn't reward effort, it only rewards achievement. The smart kids get the same prizes every year. You give one kid a prize and 30 kids don't get a prize. And you should not reward achievement. You should always reward effort. This kid spent much longer trying to. They, they deserve a prize. And so it's very important to have purpose. Many people going to coach and say, I don't know why am I here? I don't know why I'm here. And it's very important to understand that you do have a gift. You may not know what it is. I mean, look at that movie, Catch Me if youf Can. That guy now works for the FBI. I recently met someone who had been a home burglar and he found an advert and he couldn't quite believe it. And he said we were looking for someone who's invaded homes to come and work for our security system. And he got the job. And he said, it's just amazing. I would have never realized, but I had a gift for getting through security. But it feels so good that I'm now using that gift. You know, Oprah Winfrey, for instance, knows what it was like to be a disadvantage child. And now she's helping children all over the world. So often you think, well, I don't know what my gift is. Have I even got a gift? You do have a gift. You absolutely have a gift. And you can find it. But finding the gift is just the first bit. You then have to work on your sense of worthiness. I deserve success, I'm worthy of success. And then you have to decide how much effort you're going to put into. Obviously, hey, I want to be a millionaire. But, well, I don't know, I want love. But they have this weird thing about I'm just going to sit on the couch, I want love. I'm doing this manifesting and surely the love of my life is going to turn up at my door. No. First of all, decide you're lovable or worthy or you want an amazing career. But then you have to take the next step. Put yourself in front of the kind of person you would love to have a relationship with. If you're a girl and you want a guy, stop doing yoga and go into the weight room. If you're a guy, get out of the weight room and go into the yoga room. You have to be productive. Where are the kind of people I want to spend my life with? What kind of job do I want? Maybe I need to do some research, some extra studying to be around those people. It isn't enough to just have this wishing and hoping. Because when you wish and hope, what you're saying is, I wish for love, I hope for success. You might as well keep wishing and hoping. Never going to happen. Yeah, you have to go. I am going after this. What I want wants me. I'm moving towards it. I'm taking action. I will not let anything get in my way. And I think a lot of, well, not a lot. I think some self help terms have made people believe that all you have to do is sit at home and meditate and everything you want will turn up at your door. It's not quite like that. By all means, meditate.

That's been my experience.

Meditate for what you want. Then get the confidence to believe you're worth it and then take all the steps to go after it. You have to do all three, and all three go together very well. But you can't just do one. You can't go after what you want while believing you're not worth it. And you can't believe you're worth it without taking any action to make it happen.

So good. So good. You know, it's. Again, as you're. The more and more you chat, I'm just replaying all the steps that have taken me from where I used to be to where I'm at. And I've literally followed the exact same path that you're laying out over and over and over again at different levels. There's an old analogy. New levels, new devils. It's almost like you get the certain level of confidence here that takes you to this level of accomplishment, and then you have to kind of go through the process kind of. Again, not, obviously not as deep as you had to before, but this. This constant spirit of reinvention, of realizing that personal growth is, in fact, personal ownership of it. And I can say that for the longest time, I was the person because of some of the stuff with my parents. Chasing affirmation, chasing validation. So much so that it became more. Less of a hunger and more of a. Almost like a need or a necessity that led me to accepting pretty much anything or anyone early in my life, whether that person was equally as broken as I was or not. In that moment, therefore, I chased toxic relationships after toxic relationships after toxic relationship. And it wasn't until I actually was okay just being alone and being content and just, you know, and finding that sense of significance from within that you talk so much about that I fully began to truly understand my value. And that was when it seemed like the doors of healthy relationships opened up. Is that the same trajectory you see over and over again with people's behaviors?

Yeah, you have to realize your value. See, you know, I see a lot of people who, for instance, very classic, very sad analogy, a kid whose parents hurt them, hit them, shout at them, diminish them, say, I wish I'd never had you. You ruined my life. Nobody will ever want you. And one of the very vexing things about the mind is our mind is hardwired to go back to what's familiar while running away from what Is unfamiliar. So if you have a parent who criticizes you a lot and someone comes along and praises you, it feels so unfamiliar that your mind wants to go back to what it knows. And so we see many people who pick destructive relations go, I don't know what happened, but I met this person and we just clicked. And I felt I'd known them all my life. What you're saying is their behavior was so familiar, I accepted it as normal. When a nice person came along that was so unfamiliar, wanted to run away from it. So people who have never had praise, when you praise them and go, gosh, you know, you were really good this week, or I love what you wear or I hear you're great, they say, no, actually no, that was a fluke. The person who's a better than they were sick or yeah, I've had this top for five years, got a hole in it. They actually reject praise and add in criticism because of our wiring that says, go back towards why any two year old says, I don't want to eat that yogurt, it's the wrong color, I don't eat that. What they're saying is, I don't know that food. And because I don't know it, I won't have it. Because of course, years ago, the minute a kid could go out on the prairie and pick their own berries, they only wanted to eat stuff they already knew. So familiar used to keep us alive. I live in a fort. I'm not going to climb the walls and go off and find some strange natives down, they're probably going to kill me. And so years ago, familiar made us safe. But now we don't need to. And you have to understand, well, it's a fact that you are wired to return to what is familiar while resisting what is unfamiliar. Which is why, by the way, 70% of lottery winners are dead broke in three years. Because if you've never had money and you get it, you get rid of all of it straight away. But here's another fact. You can make anything you like familiar. And if you want to grow yourself esteem, and why wouldn't you? The fastest way is by praising yourself. I'm good, I'm worthy, I matter, I'm significant. I was put on this planet for a reason. I have something to offer the world. And of course, as you say, rightly said, when you began to recognize your own value and say, hey, I'm a worthy person, I deserve love. I deserve good respect for love. I deserve success. When you really recognize you are worth it, you Begin to radiate that out. But no one else can do that for you. You have to do it yourself. And one of the best things you can do for yourself by far is to wake up every day and to say these four things. I am significant. I matter. I'm lovable just the way I am, and I'm enough. You go, yeah, but I'm not lovable. I need to lose £30. It doesn't matter. You must say it. I matter. I'm significant. I'm enough, and I'm lovable. Repeat those over and over again. Because first of all, the mind learns by repetition. Certainly the mind doesn't really care what you tell it. Whatever you tell it, it goes. You must be right. I'm a big loser. I'm an idiot. I've got rocks for brains. I look at a cake and I gain a pound. Well, you know, the mind doesn't differentiate. You can choose to be positive or negative, but what you can't choose what you do to yourself when you say negative things like, I'm just an idiot. I'm just a big loser. So just start to say those four little statements of truth. They're not affirmations. They are statements of truth. And as you repeat them, they'll start to sink in. They'll start to make a difference, and they really can change your life. And their strength is very much in their simplicity, but also in their honesty. Because you know what? It's true. You do matter. You are significant. You are lovable. You are enough. And you need to know it. And when you know it, the world will join you in knowing it too.

Yeah, absolutely. I think I got one of my takeaways I just jotted down while you were. You were saying. That is, these statements are not suggestions of facts.

No.

And if you treat them like a suggestion, your life will end up being a suggestion fact. You'll get the transformation that you're looking for. You know, I was thinking back to some of the negative things I would tell myself. And then, you know, for decades, it seemed like that I wouldn't push back on, I wouldn't fight back on. And then eventually, when I learned some of the skills that we've. We've talked about today, I began pushing back. I also had this interesting uncovering, if you will, that I discovered that the quality of the question that I was asking myself, in other words, if I said.

Why does this always have it happen to me? How come nobody loves me? Or how come they never stick around, that my brain would give me like 50 reasons why that was true. But if I change the question, like to maybe, what can I learn from this? How can I use this to amplify where I'm headed? My brain wouldn't, wouldn't even feel the need to answer the negative question. Would only answer positively as one of the world's best hypnotherapists on the planet. How does, how does hypnotherapy factor into sub subconscious programming? Because I. Those certain things that I just mentioned, right there came subconscious programming.

Well, you see, hypnosis is really using your mind correctly. So you just said something that was very eloquent when you say, why am I such an idiot? That's not a question, that's a statement. It's a presupposition. I'm an idiot. Why? No, why does no one love me? Is a statement. But if you say, okay, how can I become more lovable? Your mind will go ahead and answer that question. The mind is set up to answer questions, how, why? What could I do? How could I change this? But it doesn't really answer statements. But it will. If you ask a question, it will go. It's not saying, where did I last put my book? I don't know. But suddenly it sprung into my mind because the mind will always answer a question. So if you want better quest, better answers, ask better questions. I'm just an idiot, and I'm just as fat as a house. What could I do that would effectively cause me to reach my ideal body weight? Your mind might say something weird like, stop eating gluten, don't eat oranges. It knows that they have an adverse effect on you. But what hypnosis does is hypnosis understands that we are run by the subconscious mind. The subconscious mind is emotional and the conscious mind is logical. And if you believe you can defeat emotion with logic, you really need to think again.

Overeating is emotional. You can, you know, one of my clients said, you know, I joined a Weight Watchers and I had all the food delivered for the week and I had it all eaten by day one. It was all laid out, everything. You know, I weighed all the food, I weighed a bit of cheese and I cut all the bits off that I'd cut off. I ate the whole thing. Because you can't treat an emotional problem with, with logic. You can't treat depression with logic. Oh, cheer up. Let's watch a funny film. Come on, smile. Let's go shopping. When you're depressed, it's an emotional problem. And a lot of therapy is logic. How does that feel? What does that look like? And what RTT does and what hypnosis does. Because hypnosis is a big part of rtt, but not all of it is. It goes back to why. Let's look at when this began, and let's treat what lies beneath. Let's treat the source of the problem, not the presenting one. You see, if you went to a chiropractor, said, my knee hurts, I might go, know why your knee hurts? Because your hip is out. So the source of the pain isn't the source of the problem. And so many people going to therapy come in with a presenting problem, but it's not the problem. I'm an alcoholic. No, your problem is you don't feel worthy enough. I attract rubbish people that dump me. That's because you feel unlovable. And when you treat the source of a problem, your life changes dramatically. So if you can think of your subconscious mind as like a Ferrari, someone's gifted you a Ferrari. It's the most amazing machine in the world, but you have no idea how to drive it. You've never had a driving lesson. You certainly haven't had a Ferrari driving lesson. Do you think you're going to get the best of the people? We're going to crash it into a tree. Because you have to understand what it's like saying, your mind is like a powerful racehorse and you're the driver, but you need to have some lessons in how to manage a Ferrari or a racehorse. And what RTT does is it gives you the lessons, you see. Wow, this mind I have is. What a gift. It's amazing. It's incredible. And many times people come into me and say, you know, I've got this nervous twitch, or I've got.

A contact dermatitis, or I've got these allergies, okay? You know, your mind is. So you created those. That's how amazing. If you could create contact dermatitis, if you could create multiple allergies by the power of your mind, then you can also, even in the Bible it says, be. Be transformed by the renewing of your mind. And so we often think our mind is against us, and our mind is so annoying. But when you say things like, my job is killing me. If one more person dumps me, I'll kill myself. Now you've given your mind a very clear instruction. My job is killing me. Dating is killing me. The mind goes, well, my job is to keep you alive on the planet. I'm going to give you a lovely ulcer, chronic explosive gas Terrible migraines, panic attacks. And now you cannot go to that place that you keep telling me is killing you. And it's often our language. We say things like, that would be the end of me. I'm dying under stress. I'm losing my shit. This is killing me. This is a nightmare. And of course, the mind has no choice but to listen to what we say and to act on what we say. So our words shape our reality. If you don't like your reality, take a look at your words. How often do you say, I'm at my maximum boundaries. I'm stressed out of my mind. This kid is making me crazy, my partner is making me insane, and just listen to what you say and decide to say something else. My kids are challenged, but that's what they do. My partner, I have issues, but we're going to learn to communicate better. One of the best things you can ever say to yourself, bar none, is this. I have phenomenal coping skills. Because, you see, we're in a world of COVID now and all kinds of challenges. But when you say, I can cope with anything because I've got extraordinary coping skills, you say to your mind straight away, I can cope. When you say, oh, this is hell, this is a nightmare. I'm in quarantine, I'm in lockdown. You see, you're not really in quarantine. Quarantine is when you're in a room in a hospital. Nobody can come in. You're not physically. They don't come in and lock you in and seal your door like they did during the plague. And if you say, no, actually, I'm safe at home. It's a little boring, but it will pass. And hey, I've always said I wanted some time to myself, and now I've got it. Because the way you feel about everything, everything is down from the pictures you make in your head and even more, the words you say to yourself, which you are free to change at any time. So when you say, this is a nightmare, this is torture. What are you doing? I'm actually talking about the line in the story. Grocery store. When was that torture? When was that? Try going to Zimbabwe, where there is no food in any grocery stores. And even if there was, you wouldn't have any money to buy it and you'd never again stand in Hughes Market going, this is hell on earth. Because actually, you're in a store with money to buy food and there's food for people that you love are going to eat with you. This commute is a torture, really. You know, you have a car, you're driving to work, you have a paycheck. Your problem is someone else's fantasy.

Someone in the world would go, hey, I'll take your problem right now. And by the way, what would you have given 10 years ago? Oh, owning a home is a nightmare. There's always something going wrong. But what would you have given 10 years ago for that problem? So the most important thing is take a look at how you speak. Mind your language, update it. You know, if you got a bug in your computer, you'd know straight away it would slow down, it wouldn't be very good. Someone come along and let me upgrade your software. Bingo. It's better now, but we have bugs in our own internal software and we need to upgrade them. And the fastest way is by paying attention to how you talk about you and how you talk about life and then change it. You know, here's a simple thing. When I had a baby and I just. All my friends going, oh, my kid's killing me. This kid is making me insane. This kid. I'm losing my mind. And I'd always go, well, you know what? They're a challenge. That's what they do. When I had my baby, I never forget the nurse came home with some Kleenex and said, this is for postnatal depression. Oh, don't worry. I've actually signed up for postnatal euphoria. I'm having post. I was told I could never have a baby, and this baby is my non stop. Oh, you wait, you wait. You know, it's hell and you can't even have a shower. And they cry all the time. And I was thinking, that's so fascinating. This is the best day of my life. I've just created a person and pushed them out of my body. And already I've got this very sweet nurse telling me to expect depression and stress and insomnia. And they cry all the time. But my mother had already said to me, you know, babies are amazing. They sleep a lot, sleep when they sleep. My sister had also told me the same thing, and I found it an abs. Easy. Absolutely easy. But that's because I never allowed myself to say, it's exhausting. Oh, it's hell. Sometimes we say these things about having a beautiful kid, having a beautiful partner, having a job, having a home, going on a flight. Oh, it's a nightmare. I mean, I was on a plane not long ago, and this woman went to the bathroom, came back and actually screamed. And she. What did she scream? Oh, disaster. Nightmare. And she, what is it? And she said, my movie didn't pause when I went to the bathroom. But she used the words disaster and nightmare, which is not the smartest thing to scream out in a packed plane. And it's like, that's inconvenient. It's not a disaster. I'm just about to go out and I spill milk on my top. That's annoying. But it's not hell, nightmare, disaster. And we use these. This is killing me. This is driving me mad. I mean, now I live in America, and as how many people say, I'm losing my shit. It's like, but you're not. Because if you were, I'd have moved away from you five minutes ago. Why would you use such a descriptive, horrible word? I'm gonna lose my shit. I lost my shit. I'm losing my shit. But that's such a weird thing to say to yourself, because if you say it enough, you can actually probably make that happen. And I went with a doctor recently said, you know, as a doctor, I used to say every day, this job is doing my head in. It's a very English expression. It's doing my head. And I got a brain tumor. And I knew it's because I said many times, it's doing my head in. And I had to stop saying that immediately because now I got a brain tummy. You might go, no, that can't be. Your words can't possibly make you ill. But. But they do all the time.

All the time. All the time. There's a high. It wasn't that long ago I read a study that there was a high connection between cancer patients and anger, bitterness and resentment from a previous wound, essentially when they were young, never really dealt with. There's been evidence of people coming up with very unique skin conditions.

And they change the way they think, and the skin conditions basically dissipate without actually having to have any medication or any kind of ointments or anything.

Yeah. My favorite. One of my favorite expressions in the world is this. It's so beautiful. It says, the feeling that cannot find its expression in tears may cause other organs to weep. So many people who can't express radio. I've got this angry rash. I've got this screaming headache. I've got this thumping migraine. Their own language is telling them that it's unexpressed anger. I've had many clients. One who had conjunctivitis. I never cry. You know, my dad used to hit me. Mum says, you'll never cry no matter what you do. How Interesting. This person who doesn't cry has got conjunctivitis, weeping eyes. And so we have failed to grasp that the body is always expressing what's going on. Small children go, I've got a tummy ache, whatever's going on. But if you keep everything inside, anger, pain, hurt, sadness, resentment, they must come out somewhere. And of course, one of the best things you can do to be evolved is to go, well, I was hurt then. That hurt me. I was hurt by. Because expressing your hurt as close to the event that hurt you, happening happened is a link to how sorted you are. And of course, one of the reason, one of the ways you define insanity is how long it takes that person to express hurt and anger and rage. But our feelings are, you know, we can't separate the mind. Someone hurts, you know what? Yeah, I got fired from work. I never told a soul. My dad died. I went straight back to work. My kid was ill. I kept it all in. And then three years later, I suddenly got this terrible illness. Because your feelings are like gas. They're either in or they're out. And they hurt a lot more when you keep them in. And you actually feel better when you let them out. Sometimes, just like gas, you need to find an appropriate place to do that. But it's true. Feelings are like gas. They're either in you or out of you. You need to let them out and then you actually feel better.

Oh, my gosh, it is such a joy hanging out with you. It always is.

Thank you.

Love, love learning and listening. And it is just interesting to hear how your work has helped so many people transform their own lives. How many parts and pieces of RTT that you've shared with us just briefly today that I have actually experienced in my own life even before we met. You know, the mind is crazy powerful.

I love the fact that you pretty much made this. Like this is essentially your calling or your personal purpose.

Yeah.

Yeah.

And I. And I love it. I love it. It's definitely gonna be a legacy that outlives you. I know. I know that. I actually. I know. I. I feel like this should be taught in every college, every school, all over the world, because there are a lot of empty, hurting people that are simply that way because they don't know any better. That's it.

Yeah. And you know, when you just said the mind is powerful, but so are human beings. Human beings are powerful beyond belief. They really have no idea of the immense power. And if only every school could start the day by telling kids you're powerful. We have a lot of schools now who joined my I'm enough movement and start the day by going, I'm enough. I can do this. We have some jails and we have some hospitals doing it, too, because it does make a difference. But if only we could tell people, you are powerful beyond belief. If you have no idea what your potential is, how could you? Because your potential expands as you move towards it. And once the mind moves to a new dimension, it never goes back. And of course, you know, I really admire you so much because you took yourself out of homelessness. Your potential expanded and expanded again. And I really feel that people like you are such a gift to the world because there are so many homeless people now who feel, well, how do I get out of this? And they just go into a spiral of drink and drugs and go, those homeless people are drug addicts, but maybe they're drug addicts because they're homeless. And it's such an awful place to be. And we need so many people like you to help people see that there is a better way. But for so many people, they have what I call learned houses. As a kid, I couldn't fix things. As a juvenile, I couldn't fix things. And here I am now homeless, and I still can't fix things. And you feel helpless and hopeless. A bit like a train track. I'm helpless, hopeless, hopeless, helpless. And they just believe they're stuck, when in fact, you know, people like you are such a good role model for you can find a way out.

Thank you so much.

I hope a lot of charities use you and consult you. They certainly should. To help people. Because we need to say, wow, look at you. You did it. And if you did it, I can do it.

I thank you one for those amazing. Those amazing words. I really appreciate that. It's been a long journey, but it's been a worthwhile one.

Yeah.

A big believer in one of the greatest purposes in life you can ever have is serving the person you used to be.

Yeah.

I believe.

That'S why many of us can go through suffering. And many of us, if we'll just do the work that you teach about, we would just do the work. We can become that new root of a new tree, so to speak, for someone else, you know, and if you think about it, if my suffering was at a level 10, and I'm able to go back and teach someone who's currently at a level seven, they never have to hit the same level of adversity, of suffering that I hit, which means they can then Teach the person at a level 5, level 2, level 1. The next thing you know, the world changes because everybody becomes a mission driven messenger.

Yeah. Yeah. And I mean I look at my life, my beginning, and it wasn't terrible, but it certainly wasn't happy. But I wouldn't change any of it because it gave you that drive to understand what makes people unhappy. How can I help them? How can I help them fast? And now I look at my path and think, yeah, I wouldn't change any of it because it gave me such an understanding of how to help people.

Well, it creates this one special word, empathy.

Yeah.

Once you can be empathetic with somebody, you can build a bridge with somebody and you can't get there unless you can experience at least some of the same things that they've experienced to better understand their overall route. You're amazing, Marissa. I love hanging out with you. I really do.

Thank you so much. Thank you, thank you.

I know we're a little bit over time and I apologize about that tol Verity, I'm sorry, but how can people find more about you and all the exciting things you've got coming up soon?

So if you go to marissapier.com that's with one eyes. M A R I s a peer. We give away a ton of stuff. We have absolutely free audios on wealth, wiring, love wiring, health blocks, money blocks, love blocks. They're all free. We don't ask for your credit card. Take as many as you need. Not just for you, but for other people too. If you want to find out how to train in RTT.com and do what I do, and by the way, no background in therapy is required, go to RTT.com and you can also find someone at in your area who does what I do because we train so many people now. And if you want to join the I'm enough and if you're a school, a pet, a teacher or you just want for yourself to really know you're enough, go To I've Enough.com and again, we give away a lot of free stuff there too.

Well, thank you so much for being such an amazing human being and setting it out to change lives and love the fact that you're doing that and just sharing foot wisdom with us today. I can't wait to see you again. Thank you so much.

Thank you. I love you all. Thank you, thank you, thank you.

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