In this solo presentation, Steve D. Valentine argues that real estate is fundamentally a guidance profession rather than a sales job. He emphasizes that agents should see themselves as guides helping clients make one of the most significant financial decisions of their lives, not as sellers of a product. Valentine outlines a framework for new agents that starts with deep self‑discovery—identifying who they are, why they entered real estate, and what they want to achieve. He stresses the importance of asking many questions, maintaining a child‑like curiosity, and choosing a clear career path (buyer specialist, seller specialist, or investor). A major focus is preventing burnout during the first three to five years by setting a vision, realistic expectations, and understanding that early earnings will be modest, akin to college. He critiques reliance on classroom hours alone, advocating for real‑world experience and mentorship through community. Valentine promotes his "Built Not Bought" community, offering free identity exercises, a methodology that shaped his own company, and a supportive, non‑coaching role for agents regardless of brokerage. The talk concludes with a call to action to subscribe, engage, and join the community for ongoing guidance and income‑building strategies in real estate.
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why this isn't a sales job. You can sell books and you can sell cars. You can't sell houses. The only thing you can do with houses is guide somebody to the decision they're making. The conversation had with every new agent is probably a little bit harder coming from me, uh, just because of my time and experience in the business. So let's just have a chat about the fact that if you're new in the business, this is going to be hard. Number 2, ask a lot of questions. You need to be a 4-year-old. 3, who are you? Who do you want to become? And why is this business so important to you? You see, what most people don't understand, when you get a real estate license and you kind of want to come work for somebody like me, it's a lot of responsibility because I thoroughly believe that you are guiding somebody through the most important and most expensive decision they will make in their life. That's why this isn't a sales job. You can sell books and you can sell cars and you can sell bullshit. You can't sell houses. The only thing you can do with houses is guide somebody to the decision they're making. So when I have conversations with new agents, I want them to understand the, the responsibility that they have in this business, that it's not about the number of transactions and it's not about the GCI. It's about the people that they're guiding. And are they doing the right thing? And are they making it about the people, not about their commission? And the only way that that happens is by truly being able to identify who you are and, you know, what you stand for. And when you understand those things, then your conversations are very easy with people because you're a new agent, which means you're having new conversations with people through your passions and guiding them towards real estate. And if you're new, who are you building with? Who are you learning from? What are your goals? Is it to be a transactional real estate agent, to work with buyers, to work with sellers, to understanding investing? Do you know all of your options? And most important, I tell people avoiding burnout is the absolute most critical in the first 3 to 5 years. And the only way to avoid burnout is to know truly what you want to do, what you want to accomplish, and have a vision for your first 3 years. And I try to tell a lot of, of new agents like, look, it's like college. You're not gonna make a lot of money. You're gonna have to work part-time until you get a job and you have the education. So many people think that 90 hours of real estate school, which teach you book knowledge, it does not teach you life. And life skills come through experience, either your own or being a part of somebody else's experience, which ultimately allows you to guide people to and through what they're trying to accomplish. So with new agents, you know, every one of them, I try to tell, like, this is a career path. It's going to be hard. And it's going to be so rewarding once you understand who you're working with and what you're working towards. So if you're in this position and you want to have that conversation, I'm here in the supporting role. I'm not here to coach or mentor you. I'm here to support you in ideation, show you where the blind spots are. And this is one of the best ways that you can work with me is going through our Built Not Bought community. This is for real estate agents designed by a real estate agent who is still producing. That's me. You know, on a daily basis, we're still helping sellers make decisions through our methodology and strategy system. We're also buying homes from sellers and agents, helping them solve their problems while increasing our wealth as we're building real estate investments that create cash flow. If you're looking for something similar to that, that your brokerage or your environment isn't giving you, and by the way, I don't give a shit what brokerage you're at. You can join any brokerage you want. If you want to have a conversation, I'll tell you I'm at Real and the reasons why, and I'll be able to tell you whether it's a good fit or not based on the trajectory of your current real estate business. So down below, I got a couple exercises for you. They're completely free because I want to see you succeed. One is if you don't know who you are and where you're going, then do the identity exercise. The identity methodology is actually how I rebuilt and evolved my company, and I will continue to use that and make it better. To join me, Build Not Bought, 9 a.m. Wednesday morning. Look, we're just going through ideas. I am showing you and showing you opportunity on how to connect with agents, how to connect with people, and how to bring ideas to surface that you can create income in real estate, not just earn it. I'm Steve D Valentine, and I hope you'll subscribe, like, comment below. Let's start a conversation, and I look forward to seeing you on the next one.
