Tameka AndersonBehavior Coach | Creator of the THRIVE™ Framework & CALM Method™ at Cultivate Potential Strategies

3 Things I Wish I Knew About Healing ❤️‍🩹 #trauma #healingjourney

17 Apr 2025 · 1 min

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In this solo video, the speaker shares three pivotal insights that dramatically accelerated her own trauma‑healing process. First, she emphasizes that a therapist alone cannot carry the load of healing because the majority of a person’s time is spent outside the therapy room; therefore, additional resources, practices, and self‑directed work are essential. Second, she explains that early trauma caused her to skip whole developmental stages in childhood, and true healing required consciously revisiting and completing those missed phases even as an adult, aligning with the body’s natural growth blueprint. Third, she recounts how early isolation prolonged her recovery, and how cultivating a strong, safe, and supportive community—people who can help process emotions—significantly sped up her progress. The video ends with a reflective prompt asking viewers to assess whether they have a reliable support system when they feel stuck in their healing journey.

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3 things I wish someone told me 10 years ago that accelerated my healing journey. Number 1, you need more than a therapist to help you heal. 24 hours in a day, 168 hours in a week, we're gonna spend more time out of therapy than in therapy. So we need more than just a therapist to heal. Number 2, I had to go through each developmental phase, even in my big age, in order to heal. As a child, because I was traumatized, I had to skip over some developmental phases in order to survive. So As I began to heal, guess what I had to do? I had to go through those developmental phases because that's how God designed us to grow and to develop. We go through each of the phases. And I was angry that like, why I gotta do this at my big age? However, if I didn't do it, I would not have developed. And number 3, I think this is probably the biggest one. So I would say the first 5 years of my trauma therapy journey, I thought that I just needed to be secluded. I was isolated and it actually took longer to, to heal and process the trauma because I was by myself. It wasn't until I learned to develop a strong support system, people who can actually help me process things, that I accelerated my growth. So ask yourself this question: if you feel stuck on your healing journey, you may be even thinking like therapy doesn't work, do you have a strong, safe, and supportive system?