Tameka AndersonBehavior Coach | Creator of the THRIVE™ Framework & CALM Method™ at Cultivate Potential Strategies

Are You Being Manipulated? #manipulation #narcissism #accountability

3 Nov 2023 · 1 min

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In this concise advisory video, the speaker outlines how to recognize manipulation by first defining trust as built on three pillars—consistency, accountability, and vulnerability—in that order. They then describe three common manipulative tactics: (1) "consistent inconsistency" where manipulators give sporadic, breadcrumb-like interactions that keep the target hooked but lack true reliability; (2) a refusal to take accountability, often expressed with vague apologies such as "I'm sorry if you felt..."; and (3) a shallow display of vulnerability manifested as superficial mirroring of the target's experiences. The speaker concludes by prompting viewers to reflect on whether they have experienced these behaviors, encouraging self‑assessment of potential manipulation.

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Listen, if you want to know if someone is manipulating you, listen up. So I know that first of all, trust is very expensive and there's 3 foundations to trust. There's consistency, accountability, and vulnerability in that order, right? So what manipulators will do, they'll be consistently inconsistent. What they'll do is they'll throw you a breadcrumb just to keep you on the hook. Every so often, but it won't be consistent. It's very inconsistent. And then accountability, forget about it. They do not own up to anything. They'll say stuff like, I'm sorry if you felt. And vulnerability looks like this. They will mirror what you're doing. Oh, you said something? Oh, me too. I've done that too. It's very, very shallow. So ask yourself this question. Have you ever felt someone doing these things to you?