Tameka AndersonBehavior Coach | Creator of the THRIVE™ Framework & CALM Method™ at Cultivate Potential Strategies

Because why? 😭 #tantrums #momlife #gentleparenting

13 Jul 2026 · 1 min

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In this short parenting advice clip, the speaker outlines a practical approach for caregivers to handle child tantrums. The method begins with self‑monitoring of vocal pitch and speaking pace to avoid escalating the situation. Caregivers are instructed to pause, take a breath, and consciously stay calm, rather than mirroring the child’s chaotic energy. The core mantra is “don’t join their chaos, invite them into our calm,” emphasizing that the adult must first find their own calm before guiding the child toward a calmer state.

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The first thing we're gonna do to figure out which mode are we present in, we are gonna pay attention to 2 things: our pitch and our pace. What is the pitch of our or your voice? What is the pace in which you're speaking? Are you oh my goodness please stop it? Are you speaking fast? And we're not gonna do any of those fight flight freeze or fawn. What we gonna do right now? We're going to pause and take a breath. I hear you. Take a breath? Yes. Take a breath. Because we cannot— if our child is right here in the chaos and we're joining them in the chaos, we don't want to do that no more. We— my motto is this: don't join their chaos, invite them into our calm. So we got to get— we got to find our calm first. So that's the first thing we're going to do. Find the calm.