In this YouTube video, Tameka Anderson delivers a passionate, faith‑based commentary on why many men exhibit hostility toward women, linking the phenomenon to personal trauma, cultural conditioning, and spiritual warfare. She opens by noting the rise of women choosing single life and frames the discussion with biblical references (John 10:10, Proverbs 4:23, Ephesians 6:12). Anderson shares her own childhood wounds—her mother’s substance addiction and foster‑care experience—and explains how wounded hearts (both women’s and men’s) create cycles of emotional unavailability, people‑pleasing, and abusive dynamics. She cites statistics (1 in 3 women experience sexual violence) and recounts a specific online incident where a man dismissed women’s calls for protection, illustrating a broader pattern of men reacting belligerently when women speak up. Anderson critiques victim‑blaming language (“daddy issues”) and the cultural pressure on women to be “nice” while men hide their wounds. She attributes the root of male aggression to satanic influence, describing it as a spiritual battle against principalities that target women’s hearts. The video concludes with three practical lessons: stop focusing on lack, surround yourself with “safe men,” and become a “safe person,” accompanied by a free “Safe Person Checklist” and a call to like, share, and subscribe.
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Let's talk about why choosing the single life is on the rise and 3 lessons we can learn from this. There are tons and tons of stories on the internet about how when women start to speak up Men get belligerent. They begin to really act out and they say the most vile things. And this one particular incident I remember where this man was under the comments because women were saying, we wonder why men aren't protecting us. And then there's one particular comment by this man. I think someone asked, where are the men who are protectors and stuff? And this one guy said, oh yeah, I don't say nothing because constantly keep choosing those kind of men. And then I remember myself and the men that I chose in the past. I chose every last one of those relationships because I was in my people pleasing. My heart was wounded. I did not know how to say no. I didn't know if I would say it was safe to say no. So I would get into the relationship, then I would blow it up so that I could get out of it. Those type of men don't even approach me anymore. John 10:10 says, The thief cometh not but to steal, kill, and to destroy. I come that they might have life and that they might have it more abundantly. This is one of the reasons why I love the Bible. Jesus said this. He already told us the thief comes to steal, kill, and destroy. I came that you may have life and more abundantly. So if you're not having an abundant life, not just material, but abundant in people, places, and things, Then it is not from God. Jesus already set the tone for us. He told us, "This is what I come to do." Due to my religious trauma in the past, a lot of people have misrepresented Jesus, and because of the misrepresentation, a lot of folks back off and don't even want to hear anything about Jesus. But I'm telling you, my life was never as good as it is now once I really began to get to know him and follow him for myself.
Y'all killing me with this. I gave y'all 30 years of my fucking life. Robert.
30 years of my career. So let's talk about how our hearts become wounded. Did you know that 1 in 3 women are subjected to sexual violence? It's the largest club nobody wants to be a member of. So let's go back to how does this all start? It starts with our hearts being wounded. And if you think about it, when was your, your heart first wounded? Drop a comment below and share the first time you've experienced heartbreak. For me, my heart broke when I realized that my mother was addicted to substances and that me and my siblings were in foster care. And then when you share as a woman, what I realized is that When I share my stories, it's the daddy issues becomes the label now because society has a way of labeling its victims, especially when they're women, Black women to be more specific. So now this pain shapes our emotional availability. We've experienced this pain and it's so deep and it cuts and it wounds us so much. Now we feel like we have to armor up and cover our hearts and say, well, if this happened to me by somebody that I know. Oh my God, the world must be a horrible place. I don't know what to do with this information. This is why the Bible says in Proverbs 4:23, keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it are the issues of life. God is warning us and showing us that we have to protect our hearts, because when our hearts are wounded, everything flows from that. Our childhood wounds make us vulnerable. Men have been wounded in their childhood, and it's more acceptable for women to speak about our childhood wounds than men. So now we got these men who are growing up with these wounds that they feel like probably they can't talk about or tell anybody about, or they won't be macho anymore. And so now they're growing up in age but not in emotional maturity. So now we have grown boys who are still wounded, and every woman they see are now bearing the brunt of those wounds.
And, and you know it's— you know it's not true too. You're a political operative also. You're just— you're a disgrace. But she's accusing me, and so are you, of rape, and it never took place. And I will tell you, I made that statement and I said, well, it's politically incorrect, She's not my type. And that's 100% true.
Oh my goodness. And even with that, it's like, what do you mean she's not your type? If this is something that was against his character, the first thing he should have said was, I would never even think about doing that to a woman. But that's not what he said. He said, she's not my type. So once again, wounded boy not able to access his heart. And so he puts on this facade He spews all of this vile venom, and in order to self-protect, self-protect, he makes the victim the problem. She's not my type. What do you mean she's not your type? Now you're making her wrong. This is how, as women, we are battling with this issue of being too much and not enough at the same time. Ephesians 6:12 tells us that we wrestle not against Flesh and blood, but against principalities, powers, rulers of the darkness of this world. The issue is we are not fighting each other, but the enemy is caught influencing those who are wounded to fight physical people. So now every time the enemy sees women, he wants to inflict this harm on women. The enemy's goal is to cripple our emotional vulnerability. Because the only way that we can come together, work together, love each other, do all the things that God really designed us to do with each other, is we have to have a soft heart. And when we have been wounded to the extent of all of these things, our heart becomes hard and callous and cynical. Our femininity is Wounded. As women, we're taught to ignore red flags. As an attractive woman, it is very difficult in life to just survive, really. I remember one day I was sitting across from my therapist and she was telling me, you know, Tameka, you can't make yourself unattractive enough because you don't know what the men are attracted to. Because I was trying to make myself unattractive because I felt that if I was unattractive, then maybe I wouldn't get so wounded by men. Maybe that would help me. And so we're taught to be nice. We're taught that if we speak up, then we're hard to deal with. We're crazy. We're all of these things instead of being seen as human, being seen as soft and kind and loving and not willing to tolerate bullcrap. I dug into how Satan's assault And his hatred for women. He hate— well, he hates beauty. And so this is why the serpent pretty much went to Eve, because if you read in the scripture, Adam was right there with her. So he wasn't just somewhere frolicking with the animals. He was right there with her when Satan came to her. So why didn't he say something like, man, don't be talking to my woman like this? He should have protected, but he didn't, because that's where the special hatred the influence comes from. Men either become silent or violent, and this is all under the influence of Satan's hatred towards women.
The plaintiff says, don't manipulate me.
Then Sharp allegedly responds, oh Lord have mercy, if you send that one one more time, I'm gonna choke the shit out of you when I see you. So anytime I see a man who is causing harm towards women, I understand that that man is being influenced by Satan because Satan hates women. He was kicked out of heaven. He was beautiful. And so now every time he sees beauty, women, he is reminded that he's no longer in the place he used to be. We have become his enemy. Like Genesis 3:15, I will put enmity between you and the woman and between your offspring and hers, and he will crush your head And you will strike his heel. So there has been this rift between Satan and women. That is the reason why all of those rules were about women. How can you tell a woman if she's on her monthly, she's unclean, she can't touch someone? Assault against women. All of these rules were to oppress women. So I shared the incidents of these powerful men for this reason, to shed light on what's really going on Not to say that they're not to be held accountable and responsible for their actions. Also to share that I get it, I've been there, and Psalms 147:3 says, he heals the broken heart and binds up their wounds. I am a true testament of God doing just that for me. Now, here are the 3 lessons that we can all learn from this if we pay attention. So just like Satan could convince Eve to focus on lack and, and to bypass all of the abundance to focus on lack. What do you think he's doing to us? These men all share one thing in common. They all share fame and fortune. However, they are all focused on lack because if they were not, they would not try to take stuff from other people. All of these men are, in a sense, showing that they're trying to forcibly take something from other people, specifically women, because they're focused on lack. So the first lesson is to stop focusing on lack. Harm always happens whenever someone is focused on lack. The second lesson for us to learn— this is something that I actually learned from the church that I now attend, my pastor Dr. Darius Daniels at Change Church. I am super grateful for him because before I met Dr. Daniels, I had never been in a room with a safe man before. My pastor, Dr. Daniels, has programs, and one in particular called Made Men, where he specifically develops safe men. So the second lesson is to surround yourself with safe men. Why? Because safe men protects everyone, not just one person They protect everyone. Safe men protect, not possess. The final one is most important, and that is to become a safe person, because you attract who you are. And if you want help with the last part of becoming a safe person, I have something specific for you. Grab my free download of the Safe Person Checklist. The link will be in the description. I hope you enjoyed this video. Be sure to like, share, and subscribe. Drop a comment below, let me know what you think about it, and I will see you next video.
