In this YouTube video, Fun Coach Tamika opens with a Proverbs quote about correcting children and explains why she frequently references Scripture in parenting advice. She shares a personal anecdote about her grandson’s morning meltdown when his mother dismissed his request to wait for friends before going to school. Tamika identifies the child’s anxiety about being alone and the lack of emotional connection as the core triggers for the meltdown. She explains that children cannot differentiate emotional pain from physical pain, so they react with intense outbursts when their emotional needs are ignored. The solution she proposes is a single, repeatable step: the caregiver should stop what they’re doing, refocus, soothe the child, and reconnect emotionally. She emphasizes the importance of parental self‑awareness to notice early signs of overwhelm and to intervene before a full‑blown meltdown occurs. The video concludes with a typical call‑to‑action encouraging likes, subscriptions, and comments.
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Hey y'all, Fun Coach Tamika here and welcome back to my channel. Today we're going to discuss why your child is having a meltdown because of you. Let's get into it. Proverbs 29:17 says, correct thy son and he shall give thee rest, yea, he shall give delight unto thy soul. So let me first start by saying I love the book of Proverbs. I remember when I first started Studying the Bible, I didn't understand where to start. I thought it was so big; it was super intimidating to me. Someone advised me to read a chapter of Proverbs every single day for whatever day of the month it is, and just continue, and you'll learn something each time. For example, today is the 13th, so I would read Proverbs chapter 13. And it's so true. No matter how many times I read it. I always find something else. It is jam-packed with wisdom on what to do and how to move through life, especially in parenting. So if you hear me talk about Proverbs a lot, this is the reason why. So today's verse speaks about correcting our children and they will give us rest and be a delight to our soul. So one morning, my grandson said to his mom, Mommy, I don't want to go to school. And what happened was my daughter just kind of ignored him and continued doing what she was doing. So he said it again, Mommy, I don't want to go to school. Again, she ignored him and said okay and handed him his shoes. Well, the third time he said it, I don't want to go to school, he said it a little louder. And she was like, "I don't care. Put your shoes on. You have to go." Well, by this time, you you could probably already guess what happened. Full-fledged meltdown, right? I'm talking kicking, screaming, throwing things, refusing to even get up off the ground. And so after listening to this from another room for a little bit of time. I walk into the room where they were and I ask, what's going on? And then that's when my daughter said, very annoyed, he doesn't want to put his stuff on, we got to get out of here, I gotta go. And so I said, okay, what happened? Right? Because I'm trying to figure out what was going on here. And so that's when she Lets me know, well, he doesn't want to go to school, so he's not putting his shoes on. And so then I asked him, I said, um, what's wrong? Why don't you want to go to school? So then he says, well, my friends don't come to school until it's breakfast time, so I don't want to go until it's breakfast time, but Mommy is going to take me before breakfast time. So I heard him say that he would be by himself and that he wanted his friends there, so he didn't want to go. So that may have caused a little bit of anxiety for him, right? And so the anxiety of that plus the dismissal from his mom sent him into this full-fledged meltdown. So then when When I talked to my daughter, I said, oh, he's— he needs your help calming down right now because he's feeling anxious about being at the school by himself and he wants his friends. So she began to, you know, she dropped everything, she started having a soothing conversation with him, she helped him put his shoes on, you know, and then she hugged him and pretty much carried him to the car as she Talked, spoke to him in calming tones, and I was so proud of her. Why do meltdowns happen? One of the major reasons is because the child is feeling anxious about a trigger. There's an emotional trigger that has happened, and if you remember in the story that I was just sharing with you with my daughter, she dismissed my grandson's request to. Ask her for what he needed. And so in his brain, the emotional wound was in pain, and that is, he, he couldn't differentiate between like physical pain and emotional pain. It both felt painful. And so he melt, you know, he had the meltdown. So all it took for her was to stop doing what she was doing for a brief moment, even though she was clearly annoyed because she had to go. She Didn't have time for all of this, but all she had to do was stop, refocus, shift her focus, have a conversation with him, help him to calm his anxiety, and connect with him. Because that's what he was missing. He was missing the emotional connection from his mother. Okay, so your child has meltdowns because you they lack an emotional connection with you. So they want to connect, and they feel. The only way they can get this need met is to scream for it. So what I would challenge you to do is to practice self-awareness so that you can know when your child may be feeling some overwhelming emotions, maybe feeling a need to connect with you a little more, and then you can stop and pause. And shift your focus so that you can reconnect and reassure your child in a way that meltdowns will no longer be necessary. I hope this was helpful. Be sure to click like and subscribe and share with your friends. Drop a comment below. Let me know any annoying behaviors that you're having that you would want to talk about, and I'll see you next video.
