Tameka AndersonBehavior Coach | Creator of the THRIVE™ Framework & CALM Method™ at Cultivate Potential Strategies

Pt. 5 You Don’t Trust People. Do This. #mentalhealth

11 Aug 2024 · 1 min

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In this segment of the YouTube video, the speaker urges viewers to confront emotional pain directly rather than repressing it. She explains that the ego often drives denial of hurt, causing the pain to linger and intensify. By honestly labeling the hurt (“this hurt me”) and asking oneself what feelings are being avoided, individuals can recognize the root of their triggers—especially when others’ actions provoke strong reactions. The advice emphasizes rapid identification of pain, self‑questioning, and moving through the feeling in real time to prevent prolonged distress.

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Next step, be honest about the pain. Stop acting like it didn't hurt. It did. So the quicker you can identify that, hey, this hurt me, the quicker you can actually deal with it and move on in real time. The more we deny the pain or push it down, repress it, act like it didn't happen, et cetera, et cetera. The longer it lingers and stays. The only reason why we push the pain down is because of ego. Ego doesn't want to feel that, so ego is like, oh yeah, it didn't hurt me, blah blah blah. But it really did. So ask yourself this question: what are you avoiding to feel? However, you're triggered every time someone else does something to you.