Tameka AndersonBehavior Coach | Creator of the THRIVE™ Framework & CALM Method™ at Cultivate Potential Strategies

Your Adult Child Says This…#love #family #bittersweet

1 Feb 2024 · 1 min

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In this candid monologue, the speaker recounts a painful moment when her adult child told her that, despite her physical presence, she felt unloved because the mother was emotionally unavailable. The speaker describes the visceral impact of hearing those words, likening it to a chokehold, and then reflects on the choice she faced: to make the situation about herself or to lean in with curiosity. She consciously decides to listen, asking her child to explain how she was present yet still felt unloved, thereby opening a space for deeper understanding of emotional availability and unmet needs within the parent‑child relationship.

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She told me, Mom, you were always there for me, but I did— I felt unloved by you. Oh, talk about a blow to the heart. I knew it was going to be bad. I didn't know it was going to be this bad, y'all. So hearing those words had me in a chokehold. However, I had a decision to make. Would I make it about me? Will I lean in and become curious? So I breathed and I said, continue. Please tell me the ways in which I was there for you, but you still felt unloved. She explained that although I was physically present, yes, Emotionally, I was not available and I did not meet her needs, so she felt unloved.