Why Are We So Hard On Ourselves?

So as a mom, I've fallen deep into this growth mindset piece, and I've realized when I'm talking to my kids and when I'm. I would never talk to them the way that I talk to myself. Right? And if you don't have kids and you have good friends or you can imagine this, you know, a niece or a nephew or whatever, you would never tell them, like, you can't do that. Who are you to think you could climb that slide or go do that thing? Like, who are you to think that's possible? We would never say that to our kids or our loved ones. We would never talk to them the way that we talk to ourselves. So why do we do it to ourselves?