Angelica GovaertOwner/Founder, Yogalebrity · Online Yoga Empire Builder

This Relationship Dynamic Isn’t Healthy…

13 Apr 2026 · 1 min

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In this monologue, the speaker condemns the practice of a partner—typically a husband—making decisions for the other person, labeling it as psychological enmeshment. She emphasizes the importance of personal autonomy, especially regarding financial matters, arguing that each individual should maintain their own funds and make independent choices. To illustrate the risks, she recounts her mother’s experience of being financially controlled by her husband, which prevented her from pursuing her own dreams. The speaker’s overall message is a warning against relinquishing decision‑making power in relationships and a call for self‑reliance.

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She was like, well, my husband said no. And I was like, well, that's not how— she goes, you know how it is. My husband said no. I go, no, I don't know how it is. That would never fly for me. You know, like that, I would never— no, absolutely not. I don't know how it is. I make my own decisions. There's no man that's going to stop me. I don't, I don't think that it's really healthy for your man to make decisions like that for you. Like, I think that's called enmeshment from a psychological standpoint. I'm sorry if I'm offending anybody. I don't mean to offend you. This is just my opinion about it. But my mom used to always— my mom was someone who a man controlled all the money. She was stay-at-home and she never got to live any of her dreams. And she would always say to me, no matter what you do, always have your own funds, always have your own money, always have your own way, always make your own decisions.