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Are You Giving or People-Pleasing?

Name: Are You Giving or People-Pleasing?
Uploaded: 2025-12-02T15:08:29+00:00
Duration: 50 s
Channel: Caryn Meininger
Description: In this segment of Caryn Meininger's YouTube video, the speakers distinguish between genuine giving and people‑pleasing that is driven by a need for…

2 Dec 2025 · 1 min

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In this segment of Caryn Meininger's YouTube video, the speakers distinguish between genuine giving and people‑pleasing that is driven by a need for validation. Speaker B warns that trading help for approval is a form of people‑pleasing, whereas giving to deepen relationships or improve oneself can be a positive exchange. Caryn expands on this by noting that many listeners identify as "helpers" who want to give, but they may experience resentment when their assistance isn’t reciprocated. She urges listeners to examine their motives—asking whether they give to feel validated or to truly add value—because the answer may be uncomfortable but essential for healthy relationships.

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If you're trading for validation then that's people pleasing. So be careful what you're trading when you give. If you're trading for validation you're pleasing. If you're trading just to feel like a better person because it's just who you are or because you want to deepen a relationship or connect with someone better up the social ladder, then that's an awesome trade.
People want your help and I think a lot of times people are afraid to even ask for help. A lot of our listeners today are really working on that. They're helpers. They want to just give. But then what happens is the resentment comes when it's not coming back to them and so it's are you giving for validation that is for the people in the back stand up because it is so true. And I think it's just such a really powerful question to ask yourself when you're adding value and sometimes the answer might not be what you want it to be.