Caryn Meininger draws on Byron Katie's idea that arguing with reality guarantees loss. You can't change what happened, but you can choose the story you tell about it. Shift from "this happened to me" to "this happened for me" and use the past as fuel instead of an anchor.
I love this quote by Byron Katie, and she says, if you argue with reality, you will lose 100% of the time. It's like we start creating stories about our past, but the reality is, that's the reality. And you get to choose the story that you create about that past to get you to where you are. You can let the past stop you and hold you back, or you can let it propel you forward and being like, okay, this was a reality. What is the story that I'm telling myself? I'm gonna shift my mindset. I'm gonna sh on this happening for me versus to me.
