Ep. 15: The Portals and Pitfalls for Feminine Leaders in Business

Welcome to the Prosperous Woman Podcast. I'm so excited about today because I'm going to really dive into the, what I call, portals and pitfalls for feminine leaders in business. And I love teaching. I have a background in teaching, so I really like to break things down in a way that's super easy for you to follow. So often what happens in business is that things just like get confusing. Like, have you ever been in your business and you're just like, "I don't even know what I'm offering. I don't even know what I'm selling. No one's buying. No one's commenting. No one reads my emails. My engagement is tanked." Like any combination of those things. And what happens when we get into that situation is that we just start spinning. And then what happens is we collapse. And what happens when we collapse is we stop taking action, we get uninspired, we get unmotivated. And a lot of times, unfortunately, that's when I see women start quitting in their business or taking 6-month or year-long hiatuses, which there's nothing wrong with that, but wouldn't it be amazing if you never felt like you needed to take a break from your business unless you wanted to, unless it felt aligned? So the teaching today that I want to work through is The 3 Portals and the 3 Pitfalls for Feminine Leaders in Business, because I think that this is going to really help you identify where you have opportunity for growth and where you are just really doing an amazing job in your business. And this is going to fluctuate. So this is a training, an episode that you can come back to in different seasons and really just use it as kind of like a self-assessment tool. Mm-hmm. Tool. So the first principle, the first portal actually, is the portal of life force. And life force, I identify as like your inner and outer wellbeing. And so a lot of my clients have autoimmune, chronic health issues, things like that. I also have had that in the past. I've healed that. Mm-hmm. Which I should do a whole episode on how I did that. DM me if you're interested in that, 'cause I love talking about health stuff also. But life force is something that, it is health related, I believe, but it's mostly energetic. And life force energy is like, it's like your chi. It's like when the blood is moving, when you're moving and grooving, when it's like, you know where you're headed, you know where you're going. You've got your routine or your rituals, like you feel aligned, you feel inspired. Like to me, that is what life force energy is. And when my life force energy is poppin', let's say, like I feel, you know, my energy is high, my brain is clear, my productivity is high. You know, I'm enjoying many different things. So like, you know, I'm dating, I'm engaging socially, I'm working on creative projects, Everything is just like in alignment. And one way I like to look at this is through the lens of the Wheel of Life, which is a very popular coaching tool. And if you think of your life as having many different segments, we have to really look at your life and your business as a whole living thing. So we can't just focus on your business. We can't just focus on your health. We have to really address all the parts at play. We have to really look at your business and your life as a whole in order to really assess your life force and how you're caring for yourself as a living being and as a feminine leader. So for example, like a lot of times I see women just banging their head against the wall in their business. And I'll ask, what's going on with your social life? How's your health? How are your relationships? I ask them about the different parts of their life. And what they'll say is, well, I don't really have time for any of that because I'm so I'm so focused on my business. And I'm like, boom, there's our issue. Your life force is totally zapped because you're ignoring everything except your business. This also happens in dating where you're in the initial phases with someone and it's very easy to kind of jump ship on all the other parts of your life. And that's when we get into trouble with the relationship because All of a sudden it's like, I'm only focused on this one person and you almost lose yourself. And so one of the first portals for any feminine leader who's eager to start their business, scale their business, expand, or just elevate as a human being is to really assess where you are in terms of your life force. Look at this on a scale of 1 to 10. 1 is I feel lifeless. 10 is I am flying high. I feel so energized and so lit up by everything in my life. And so really assess where you you are, and then really just look at how can I create a more full life for myself? What's one thing that I could do that would move the needle in terms of my life force energy? And a lot of times, you know, I'm a Kundalini practitioner. That is one of the ways that I maintain my life force. Another very simple way that I maintain my life force is walking. I'm a 10,000 steps a day girl. I walk all the time. I love to walk. I walk between calls. I walk every morning. I get my blood flowing. I feel the sun on my skin. That is a very easy way to up your life force. Another way is just through connection, especially post-COVID. So many people became so isolated. And so are you interacting with people on a weekly basis? Are you socially engaging with people that nourish your heart? So these are just some of the examples, and I want you to identify like where you are on that 1 to 10 scale, and then what's What are 2 things that you can do this month consistently, which I'll speak to in a moment, that would move you closer to a 10? Now, the pitfall of life force, so these are connected, so for every portal there's a pitfall. The pitfall for life force is actually inconsistency. And when we see life force going— 10. Towards the one scale, it's usually because we're being inconsistent in various areas of our life. Whether that is in our business, in our health, in our spiritual practices, in our social relationships, in the way that we're caring for our bodies, our self-care, it's usually due to inconsistency. Mm-hmm. And this is one of the greatest pitfalls of entrepreneurship that I see all the time is that you are inconsistent. And I'm just gonna speak directly to business for a moment. You're actually inconsistent in your business. And the thing here is, is that building a business and creating a life that feels like a dream. My life, honestly, and I don't say this to brag, my life feels like a dream a lot of the times. Like I'm so grateful. Yeah. There's many things I long for such as partnership and marriage and family, but there's so much that I do have. And there's, my business is honestly one of the greatest loves of my life. Like my business is just such a joy for me. And I believe the reason that I have that is because I have been very consistent. You know, there may be been like a couple periods due to, you know, chronic health issues or things like that that I've had to, not close, but just simply scale back. But over the last 8 years, I mean, I've very consistently shown up, I've very consistently sold. And here's the kicker, I pretty much always had a mentor and I've always been in some form of a container that has supported me and has helped me stay consistent. Because let me tell you, when you're an entrepreneur and you're doing this on your own, It is so easy to put it off to tomorrow, to put it off to next week, to push the launch to next month, to wait till after your mom's birthday or after the holidays. There will always be an excuse. But when you're in a container and when you're working with an expert guide, you will keep moving, especially if you've put your money into that. You wanna make that money work. So you are so invested and consistent. And so this is, I would say, probably honestly the number one thing I I see with entrepreneurs is that they lose consistency and they lose momentum. And the impact of this is it just continues to drain your life force. So this is why in all of my coaching programs, the first thing I do is identify what are your sacred 6. These are the 6 daily practices that you do that make you feel good, that make you feel lit up, that make you feel whole, because I want you to start training consistency. Mm-hmm. In your life, in your day-to-day. Because if you can be consistent with yourself in your life, it's gonna be so much easier to be consistent inside of your business. So that's the first set there is life force and inconsistency. Now, the second portal for feminine leaders to thrive is magnetism. And I really believe that you create magnetism through your frequency through being in alignment with your purpose and through doing something that lights you up. And so magnetism, and I spoke about this in my intro episode, magnetism is the thing that when you see a woman walk into a restaurant and everyone is looking at her, that is magnetism. Magnetism is when you're online and you're on Instagram and you see the woman and you're just like, "I don't know what it is, but I'm buying it." That is magnetism. How do we create magnetism? Through being in alignment with your purpose and through taking consistent action. You see, these are all connected. And so the pitfall to magnetism is lack of faith. So not believing in yourself. And you also probably know the woman who walks in the restaurant and she's fidgeting with her shirt and maybe she's looking down at the ground and maybe her hair is in her face. She just looks like she lacks faith in herself, in the universe, in God, in the world. And this is such a pitfall for entrepreneurs because at the end of the day, if you don't have faith in yourself, then no one else will. And if you don't have faith in yourself, then you are not magnetic. And this is where we run into issues around consistency and sales and seeing through a launch, even if you're not seeing the results. This is where we run into issues with not being able to really identify where there's opportunities for growth and getting support. So this is the magnetism and then the lack of faith. And there's just one more thing I wanted to say about this. These are all self— a lot of my methods and principles, they self-build on each other. And so if you lack life force, you're not going to be magnetic. Mm-hmm. So I put these in order for a reason. So just as you're kind of going through this model, just notice you taking care of you, you feeling vital, that is number 1. So magnetism is the second portal and lack of faith is the pitfall to that. So again, how do we combat that lack of faith? Well, first it's we address the life force and then we get clarity on what lights you up and where you're headed, which leads me to my third portal. Third portal. Which is purpose. And purpose is being the living and breathing embodiment of who you were meant to be and fulfilling your mission on this earth. That is what, to me, that's what purpose is. And your purpose will evolve and grow with you. My purpose, as I've identified, is to create a life of freedom and fulfillment and to help other women do the same. Now I've been living that purpose my entire life, but I've had various extensions of it over the years. So my identification of that statement was a journey, and my creation of different offerings and pathways that fulfill my purpose is also a journey. So living in alignment with your purpose is really the third thing. And this is something that's so important because this is what also helps you. You have to have life force and you have to have magnetism to create purpose. But here's the kicker. You can also go in through the lens of purpose and you will immediately feel an uptick in life force and in magnetism. So purpose is really the center of it all. But a lot of times just what is my purpose? That's too big of a question for people to identify. And so I like to go in through the life force, then they start feeling the magnetism and then they start trying new things and then we start getting clarity on the purpose. However, If you already feel pretty clear on your purpose, then you might have an opportunity to really start nurturing your life force, increasing and bolstering your magnetism and deepening in your purpose. So the pitfall to purpose is lack of integrity. And I see this a lot with women when they sign up for these different masterminds and programs that promise all these crazy results. And what happens is, is they just get so addicted and obsessed to the money. That they don't actually care about the purpose. They lose sight of what they're doing. They lose sight of why they're here and why they're on this planet. And they become so focused on the tangible money that they're making. And what happens here is that you fall out of alignment with your purpose. And this is a pitfall because if we aren't aligned and clear Maybe we're focused on the money, then we're lacking integrity. And that is so felt and it will burn you out and zap your energy so fast. This is something that I really like to work with women on is sometimes it's just a tweak of the product. Sometimes it's just an adjustment of the product suite. And then you're able to really deep dive and dig into how can I realign with my purpose? How can I go deeper into my purpose? And once you do that, you'll be amazed at how quickly your life force comes back online, your magnetism steps back in. And what's amazing with all of this is that it doesn't have to be difficult. With everything I share in this entire show, I hope to convey a feeling of this gets to be easy. Oftentimes you're just one tiny tweak or one tiny step or one tiny refocus away from a complete— Refocus. Completely different perspective in reality. And I say that in all the realms, like your entire life can change in a minute. It could change tomorrow, next week, next month, next year. So don't sit in these pitfalls. Don't sit in lack of integrity. Don't sit in inconsistency. Don't sit in the lack of faith. Just identify what's not working and then let's create a plan to move forward. Yeah. So my homework for you today is to identify which of these do you feel like you are really thriving in and which one is there room for opportunity? And then again, just identify like, what is one or two steps that I can take that would help me get into deeper alignment with these different portals and outstep away from the pitfalls if you're finding yourself inside of the pitfalls. So I hope that this was helpful. I am so excited. I'm super excited for you to take yourself through this exercise and use the scale of 1 to 10. Like identify on a 1 to 10 scale, where are you? If 1 is I'm totally out of integrity and 10 is like I am living my purpose, where are you on that scale? And then just identify what's the 1 to 2 steps that will take you closer to that value of purpose and do that for each piece of this model. I work with my clients in both of these inside the Dream Accelerator and the Opulence Mastermind. The Dream Accelerator is for women who are desiring to start their first business, go from idea to launch in 4 months flat. It is so much fun, and I really help you build a business from your truth and from your heart and from your soul, and a business that moves and grooves with you, that makes an impact and leaves a legacy. The Opulence Mastermind is for my women who are scaling past $10K, $20K, $30K months, who are excited to really to 10x their income and impact. So if either of those programs are feeling exciting to you, just hit me up on Instagram @itsclairesellers and let's find a fit for you in my world. I would love to hear what resonated with you today. So drop a comment or send me a DM @itsclairesellers on Instagram. I am so grateful that you took the time to listen today. I hope this episode was impactful for you. And I'm just so excited to see what it opens up for you. So thank you so much for being here, and I will see you next time.