advanced touches

Hey, welcome back to another video, and today I'm going to talk about how to advance the touches. And something to keep in mind is, as you're doing this, I very, very strongly encourage you to calibrate to the woman. I will have a whole video devoted to calibration, but basically, as I'm touching, I'm going to do advanced touches now, but I'm going to look always at her eyes. When you're touching her, you don't want to look at her boobs, you don't want to look at her ass, because it, it It always infers way too much sexual aggression. All right. The touch alone will do its work. Also, when you're advancing touches with this and you're leading a girl physically on this, you want to make sure that there's comfort built, that there's— she's also reciprocating attraction and there's different things like that. And so as you're doing this, I'm looking at her face and I'm seeing her micro expressions. If she's giving me uncomfortable looks, I'm going to back away. And so one of the things I like to do in this is basically if I'm, if I'm touching your shoulder, you could always start off with a safe place right here. And it's like, hey, I just want to say I really think you have like lovely eyes, by the way. See, I didn't linger more than 2 seconds, but I did kind of like a lower back and then I backed away like that, you know what I'm saying? And again, as I'm doing that, and then I'm just being more animated after the fact. Did you get that? So basically I just touch her back, lower here, and then I was like, hey, you know, I just thought your eyes are just beautiful, by the way. Like, I really like the way you did. So yeah, so I, I'm basically still being animated. I'm doing that and I'm not lingering any more than 2 seconds. And then also too, as I'm advancing, I'm looking at her facial expressions. She's gonna give me some weird looks if she didn't appreciate that, and something to keep in mind.

I can show you what that looks like if you'd like. Sure.

If you do exactly what you told me, I'm gonna back down on that. I just thought you looked super lovely. Okay, you saw what she did there? So she gave me a micro expression. It's kind of hard to see, but she also backed away. Super, super common thing, and I was actually gonna say that, so that's— I'm glad that you showed that, is that if she backs away, then she's also not gonna be comfortable with your touch. And so a common rule to do here is you want to do 2 steps forward and 1 step back. So when I'm doing the touches, I'm not just always intensifying where it's her lower back, now it's her leg, now it's— see what I'm saying? Like, I'm not doing that over and over again and escalating, because if you escalate, escalate, escalate, she's gonna feel it. Even though she might not think it, she's gonna feel like, dang, this guy's intense. All right, you don't want that. So if I do touch her lower back at some point, I'm gonna back away. I'm probably gonna talk to her for a little bit, and then I'm gonna go back to the safe touches, and then I'm gonna do that. That's called 2 steps forward, One step back. And then when you do that enough, then you can advance it to the next thing after the next touch or something like that. I really just try to keep it natural. There's times where I might just touch her safely after a while. There might be times if we feel like I'm really connecting with her that I'll just do more of the lower back, you know, I'll just do more like the, like the leg grabs, or I'll just kind of like be here and just kind of like play around with it a little bit. Just something to keep in mind as you're doing this And so another place to go advanced is going to be lower back. If we're— we can sit down. Let's go over here and sit down real quick. So this is like really king for advanced touches because it's just really natural setup. I can touch her leg right here. Depending how comfortable it is, I'll do this for a little bit. If we're really gelling and really getting along and stuff like that, I might go a little bit higher up on the waist, but I try not to do something super crazy.

But I will say, if you did that and I— and then you pulled away, I would respond in kind by making sure that I touch you. So that lets you know that I accepted what it is that you did and I felt comfortable. If you touched my leg— so touch it again— and I didn't like it, I would have a reason to make sure that I reposition. And I look like I was pushing your hand away, but I was— and I was pushing your hand away, but I repositioned this way. It didn't feel uncomfortable, or I would have gotten up.

Yeah.

So when you say listen to their communication, our body language will kind We communicate if we want you to touch us again. And in that case, I like that you touched me and you put your hand away. I wanted you to do it again, so I communicated that by putting my hand on your leg or on your arm.

Yeah, so very important to keep that in mind. Uh, every gal is a little bit different. Uh, she will do that respectfully, which is cool. You might get, uh, some gals that have the reaction like a deer in the headlights, like a, like kind of like a stiffening as well. Um, she seems a bit more, more on the confident side.

If I didn't like it, put your hand on my leg.

This is—

a guy has done this before. Put your hand on my leg if I didn't like it. Like, you would see my eyes widen.

Yeah, absolutely.

I'm like, how do I get myself out of the situation?

Exactly.

Without having to communicate rejection?

Yes. Yeah, yeah, I agree with that.

Just look for the wide eyes.

Yeah, the wide eyes. Yes. So like the stiffen, the deer in the headlights. Yes, exactly. Yeah, so I agree with that. And, and it's just like every, every girl's different still on the reacting, so just keep that in mind. Um, so as you go through that, um, always do that 2 steps forward, 1 step back. And, uh, that's all I have for you guys in this video. See you guys in the next.