Coach John and John Cordero wrap up their texting series with core rules: gauge interest by response length and tone, use the Attraction Method with pictures to spark conversation, ask for a date quickly, and avoid double-texting or over-explaining. Texting is a bridge to real life, not the relationship itself.
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Hey, what's up guys? Coach John here. So we already went over 2 lessons, and so hopefully you get a good idea of how texting looks like. And so this is gonna put it all together right here. And the main thing I just want you to keep in mind is that just don't overthink it, you know. This is what it is, and, and it's just one of those things where You don't have to just guess at everything, all right?
Another question that tends to come up is, how do I know she's into texting me or not? You can get a good idea based on her response. Again, nothing is set in stone, but if she's responding with emojis and paragraphs, then she's very engaged and interested in whatever you're talking about or what's going on. If she's texting short, vague answers, then that usually means that she's either busy or she's just not into whatever's being talked about at that moment. So you can always change the topic or just try to end on a high note and text her another time. That's gonna come down to your judgment on the given situation. Just think, the longer the response, the better, usually. Another thing to keep in mind is just using the techniques in The Attraction Method. Just make them text-friendly. That always tends to work really well. Also, if you're doing something, try to take a picture. So if you're at a restaurant, take a picture of the food, or if you're at the gym, Make sure you flex real quick before you take that selfie. It's a good way to get her more engaged and gives her something to say that has something to do with the picture and not just what you're texting. So how quickly should you ask for the date? Usually the sooner the better because attraction can fade and distractions go up as time goes on. Also, do not panic if she responds slowly. A slow response doesn't always mean low interest. People get busy and have lives. Stay calm. If the vibe has been good, keep things simple and do not become reactive. The men who lose themselves over texting usually create more damage than the delay itself. So now let's get into the mistakes to avoid. Do not double or triple text out of anxiety. It usually communicates neediness. Just wait for her to respond. Do not text all day. It kills momentum and creates unnecessary back and forth. Texting should support real life, not replace it. Do not over-explain. Keep your texts clean, easy to respond to. Do not wait forever to suggest the date. Dragging it out usually lowers your chances. If she happens to leave you on read, For whatever reason, just know that it happens, and the only thing you can do in this situation is just send one more text, usually something funny or light. Please do not interrogate or question why she didn't respond. It's not attractive, and it probably won't work, and it definitely will not make her want to text you more. If you still don't get a response, then just move on. It's all we can do. So the final thoughts on this is texting is not where you want to spend all of your energy. Texting is just a bridge. It helps you move from meeting her to seeing her again. The less you treat texting like the main event, the better your results usually are. Just let the real attraction build in person. That is the strongest approach that will build real connection, spark interest, and reduce flakiness. Hope you guys enjoyed this video. There's a lot of unique nuggets of wisdom built in this, so review it as you need to, and I'll see you guys in the next video.
