How to kiss her

Welcome back to another video, and today I'm going to be talking about kiss close. And it's something to not overthink. Just remember that when you get up to this point, a lot of the times it's going to be on the first date, okay, that you'll probably attempt to kiss. And it's something that's very, very important. Um, one thing to always keep in mind, it will never feel okay. I don't care if there's a nice moonlit backdrop in the background with soft music. You'll never feel like you're ready to kiss the girl, but as a man, you have to create that opportunity, especially if you're reading her and you're feeling— and you guys are feeling each other out and she seems comfortable with your touch and you guys are going and you guys are getting along and you guys are having good conversations. That will be the next step. I often tend to try to kiss a gal on the first date and just go from there. Sometimes the second date, it just depends. But mainly the There's been times where even I've met a gal at, you know, at like a bar and like kissed her that night, but that's really, really rare. And I don't suggest that unless you've really just built up the physical escalation, but it can go that quickly, just letting you know. But anyways, but when you're kissing, when you're about to kiss a gal, it's very important to like— she's already comfortable with your touch, you guys have already had a good conversation, you've already built up comfort. And so one of the main things that I like to do Is just read how she feels. If I feel like she's really feeling me, I might just, just go in for it. And there's a certain way to do that that I'm about to explain. But if I feel like she needs a little bit of heads up on it, so like basically what I'll do is like I'll say something like, I was like, I just, I just want to say like, your lips look really nice right now. Like, and I'll do that and I'll whisper something in her ear. It doesn't matter what the line is, but I'll whisper something in her ear. I'll pull back like this. I'm not that far off. And then what I'll do is I'll just get close. You want to do 60/40, okay? So I go in, but I go very slow to give her time and reaction to back away or go into the kiss. But at this point, when I'm looking deep in her eyes like this, and I just said something like, your lips look, look, you know, just looks so appealing to me, you know what I'm saying? And then I just go 60.

40.

And then she goes 40 like that. So at that point, she's gonna do that, or, uh, do it to where— let's say you're not feeling me, which is impossible, but now I'm just saying.

I was gonna say, you're a tease. You came in 90 and then continued in strong.

Yes. So like, so like, if you can do that, let's say she's not feeling you, this is what it'll look like. So it's like, oh, your lips are still inviting, and then I'm gonna go in, and then you see how she backed away? It was very slight. Some women will back away slowly, or they'll be like a little bit quicker, but They'll let you know. And trust me, guys, if you guys are on a first date, I've had this happen to me and it's, it's not, it's not a big deal where she has not reciprocated that she wants to be kissed and she'll back away. And a lot of the times they'll say, well, not really. And there's some gals that have been religious and stuff like that, and they're just not wanting to kiss on the first date, which is totally cool. But that same girl, right after that was rejected, so to speak, I didn't treat it like a big deal. But she was very physically connecting to me afterwards, almost to like make up for it in a sense. But she was like holding my hand more and we were more engaged and she— we were more hugging each other and stuff like that. And so just so you guys know, if you guys get rejected by the kiss, as a man, you still have to lead and be unfazed because she feels what you're feeling. And if you're feeling frustration or you feel like you're a loser or whatever, then it's going to feel like kiss— kissing—

A loser.

You would be a bad thing. Okay, you don't want to do that. So just be unfazed and be like, all right, well, you know, whatever, and just move it along. Either, you know, she'll either say something about it, or you just kind of just move along the conversation. It's like, all right, well, I guess you're just not ready just yet. It's all right, we'll get there. You know, whatever. Say something like that, acknowledge it, and then just move on. It's not a big deal. And then if you do that, it's gonna go really well. So I just wanted to ask you, Maria, like, what What is your experience like? What did you think about that? Like, where— like, from a woman's perspective, like, as far as like guys going for a kiss, like, what did you think about that?

A lot of things happened for me. So especially on a first date, when a guy doesn't go in for the kiss, especially if I was interested, it communicates to me like not weakness but disinterest. And I always wonder why. So I love that you suggested oftentimes they take the lead at the end of the first date. There are times I'm worried that they are going to go in for the kiss because I wasn't interested, in which case I'll do the same thing. I'll back up a little bit, or I'll turn my head and let them kiss my cheek. Or if they make a comment like, your lips look good, I'll say something like, but you're never gonna know. I make a joke to let them know, like, it's just not something I'm interested in. The most uncomfortable part is if someone doesn't understand these rules, they don't listen, and then they go in for it, in which case I have to then reject them. So just paying attention to a female's body language. I think that all of your tips were Perfect. It felt natural, felt comfortable. You didn't do it so fast that I didn't have an opportunity to give you consent.

Yep, and that's super huge. So again, it's always gonna feel slower than you think because at that point you're so nervous that you might just like go fast. But definitely just like look in her eyes. You could say something flirty or just feel like, you know, I'm just, I'm just really into you. Like, I'll lower my voice, I'll get a little softer, and it's like, I'm just, I just, I'm just really into you. And then I'll just kind of get— you see how slow that was? It was very methodical. It was very just kind of natural. And, and do that again. It gives her time. And to me, I just think it's sexy as hell to just do that.

And when you came in, my body language communicated that you still had the green light. And I'm sure that probably helps a guy who might be nervous.

Yeah, absolutely. 100%. So that's all I have for you guys in this video. I'll see you guys in the next.