how to stop her

Welcome back to another video. One of the most important skills you need to develop is learning how to stop a woman properly when she is walking. This matters because not every woman you want to talk to is going to be standing still. Many of the opportunities will arise when she is moving, so you need to know how to get her attention in a way that feels confident, clear, and socially smooth. The first thing to understand is that when a woman is walking, She's usually in her own world. She may be thinking about where she's going, listening to music, on her phone, or just mentally checked into her day. That means you cannot be passively or overly quiet when you try to stop her. You need to make it easy for her to notice you. Be sure to give her space and visibility. The most important rule is this: make sure there's enough space for her to see you ahead of time. You do not want to appear suddenly out of nowhere. You want her to be able to register that you are there, that you are approaching, and that you are speaking to her. That gives the interaction a much smoother and safer feel. If she is walking in front of you, one of the best things you could do is jog slightly ahead of her, then turn and stop in front of her with enough distance so that she can see you. From there, you can gesture lightly for her to stop as well by putting your hand out with an open palm. This is much better than trying to stop her from behind. By the way, never try to stop her from behind if possible, and definitely do not tap her on the shoulder. That can feel awkward, invasive, startling, and unsafe. Even if your intentions are fine, the way it feels to her matters. You always want stopping her to feel socially calibrated. That is why being slightly ahead of her is usually the best move. Use your voice clearly once you're in position. You need to get her attention with your voice. Do not mumble, do not be timid, and say it loud enough for her to actually hear you. This does not mean yelling aggressively. It means speaking with enough volume and confidence that it cuts through whatever mental state she is already in. Again, remember she is probably in her own world, so if your voice is too soft, she may not She might not even realize that you were talking to her until the moment is already gone. A strong, clear, hey, excuse me, I was just walking by and I just thought you were kinda cute, is often all you need. Now she sees you, she knows you're speaking to her, and the interaction can begin without confusion. A lot of men struggle with approaching not because they don't know what to say, but because they never got the interaction started properly. If you cannot stop her smoothly, then you lose the opportunity before the conversation even begins. This is why stopping is a skill in and of itself. And like any skill, the more you practice it, the easier it becomes. At first it may feel awkward, but once you get comfortable getting ahead of her, giving her space, speaking clearly, gesturing for her to stop, it becomes a lot more natural. And when that becomes natural, you suddenly create far more opportunities for yourself. That's all I have for this video. See you guys in the next.