JCJohn CorderoI am a dating coach that teach single men to date better

how to talk to women and make them want you

19 Apr 2026 · 1 min

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In this short monologue, John Cordero presents a dating strategy he calls "dangling the string." He likens women to cats that will repeatedly try to catch a moving string, but will lose interest once the string is handed over. To apply this, he advises men to approach women with a neutral, non‑complimentary attitude, positioning the woman as the one who must impress the man. He suggests using a provocative opening line such as, "I was just coming over here to see if you are interesting or not," which is intended to make the woman wonder why the man isn’t complimenting her and to trigger her to chase him. The overall claim is that reverse‑psychology and teasing create desire and pursuit.

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The way you talk to women and make them want you is by dangling the string. Let me explain. Women are like cats, and if you dangle the string in front of them, they will reach out and try to claw at it as many times as they can. But if you give them the string, they will only paw at it once and then walk away. So to have this effect work for you, you just have to reverse what normally happens. And when you go up to the girl, appear neutral and that she is the one that needs to impress you. You can say something like, I was just coming over here to see if you are interesting or not. Saying that is going to make her wonder why you're not complimenting her like the other guys, especially if she's hot, and it will get her chasing you.