passing the crap test final

Hey, what's up guys, and welcome back to another video. Today we're going to talk about how to handle them shit tests, and a lot of guys struggle with this, and it's really not that bad. So the reason that we need to get into this and the answer to the shit test is understanding why do we even get shit tested to begin with. So we get shit tested because women are trying to feel us out as men. They're looking for 2 things, and they're not even realizing that they're doing this because they're doing it more on a subconscious level, not even a conscious level, but it's Still helps them feel and assess who we are as a man. So they're looking for, one, how emotionally mature are we, you know what I'm saying? Because if we're emotionally mature and we pass the shit test, then we're not going to react in a negative or a weird way that will make her feel different towards us. Now, another thing they're going to look for is, are we emotionally stable? Are we actually stable mentally? Can we actually handle the shit test? Because if we're not and we're reactive, if the guy's being reactive, or getting in his feelings or getting pissed off or being very defensive, that is not only unattractive, but it also tells her that you can't handle her. And that is the quickest way for her to not be attracted to you, even if you have this amazing look that she just loves, okay? Because every girl at the end of the day wants to feel secure and wants to be with a guy that is emotionally stable and emotionally mature. So those are the 2 Main reasons why women shit test. Again, they do this on a subconscious level to feel us out, literally. And so it's important that we pass it. So how do we pass the shit test? We pass it in two ways. Either one, we just don't act fazed by it. You know what I'm saying? So it just doesn't matter what it is. So they're shit testing us on. It's like, hey, like let's say if I was like five foot five and I'm short, okay? Don't be like, oh well, it's all right. Like I make up for it in other ways and like go into this unexpressed. He's like, he's like. You can be like, yeah, I know I'm short, but I'm still more than what you can handle. You know what I'm saying? Whatever you can say that's positive or reinforcing, it doesn't matter. One of the shit tests that guys come to me about is age, right? So let's say you're 30 and she's 23, and you're like, damn, it's like, what do I do? I'm 30, I feel old, whatever. Or maybe you're 35 and she's 25. You know what I'm saying? There's a 10-year difference, okay? And it's like, how do you go about that? It's like, damn, I'm almost 30, and I'm close to 40, and she's close to 20. It's like, this is crazy. Um, one of those things. So what you do in that situation is you simply just acknowledge it. You don't do anything crazy. You could even joke about it and go in the opposite. So with the age thing, you could be like, uh, if she asks, how old are you? And you're, let's say you're 35. It's like, well, I'm, I'm, I'm 45. It's like, so I just carry good for my age. And, and she's like, just give her a little bit. And it's like, wait. And then she's like, nuh-uh. And then it kind of buffers it a little bit and be like, okay, no, I'm actually 35. And, um, but it's all good. So it's like, how old are you? You know, and you can bring it back on her. Or let's say she already gave the age, and then you just kind of go from there and just kind of go on. But just whatever it is, don't be fazed by it. Now, what would be harmful in that situation, and that particular example, is that you ask like this is like a big deal. If you treat a shit test like a big deal, you will fail every time. So if it's like, hey, look, You asked me how old I am. I'm sorry I have to tell you this, but I'm 35. If you do that, and I'm telling you, she will actually feel that and she will make that into a big deal. But if you don't make it a big deal, then guess what? She doesn't feel like it's a big deal, and she's— it's not a big deal. Women are used to dating older men. It's okay, you know what I'm saying? If it's like some freakish gap, let her decide if that's too much, you know what I'm saying? Hopefully you don't go super crazy gap, but that's a whole nother topic. But basically It's just something to keep in mind. It doesn't matter what the shit test is, you know what I'm saying? It's like, oh, it's like, you don't have a, you know, you don't have a really high-paying job. What's up with that? You know what I'm saying? Or, uh, why don't you have any kids? Or why do you have any kids? It doesn't matter what it is. It's always going to be a shit test and she's just trying to fill you out. Just own your situation. If you have kids, don't hide them. Don't lie. Don't be like, oh man, I, I have kids. Oh man. And, and just go about it. And it's like, I know it's a lot to deal with, you know, dealing with a dad and with the baby mama. They don't need to go through all that. They don't need to hear all that. You actually fail it by going into that. So the big thing is just own it. He's like, yeah, I love my kids and they're just a part of my life. And, you know, maybe you'll be lucky to meet them someday. And if you say it like that, you pass the test. Okay? It doesn't matter what it is. You do it by not being fazed or you do it by owning the situation if it's a good thing to be associated with. And especially things that we can't control, they tend to shit test that the most. So just own it. You know what I'm saying? If you're short, own that you're short. Sure, and just prove it in other ways. It doesn't matter, but don't actually try to prove it to her. But, you know, demonstrate that you're okay, you're emotionally mature, you're not gonna freak out on her, you're stable as a guy mentally, and you're not going to lash out in anger or be super insecure, because that's what they're looking for too. If you're confident about it, it'll work. If you're not, then yeesh, that's gonna be bad for you. So something to keep in mind. That's how you pass the shit test every single time. Very important. It's always going to come up randomly. It always comes in usually the first 2 conversations almost every time, and it just comes in different forms. And you can almost view anything as a shit test, but try not to. But at the end of the day, it doesn't matter. Just show that you're confident as a person, and that just comes from reps and being comfortable with your skin and own it, whatever it is, and move on. You know what I'm saying? If it's something ridiculous, then laugh it off. You know what I'm saying? Sometimes I won't even acknowledge the shit test, and it was like, yeah, I'm not even gonna bring that. I'm not even gonna talk about it. You wanna say like, like, I'll let you know in a little bit how I feel about that. And just whatever it is, just don't take it seriously. Whatever it is, it's totally fine. You know what I'm saying? And just, just go with the flow. And you can't go wrong with being confident and just not being fazed because that's what she's looking for at the end of the day. And that's how you pass the shit test. So hope you guys find value in this. I'll see you guys in the next video.