In this instructional YouTube video, dating coach John Cordero demonstrates how to safely and effectively escalate physical touch while both people are seated. He reiterates the same safe touch zones used in standing scenarios—shoulder, arms, and upper back—but adapts the approach for a seated context. Cordero explains how to lead the seating logistics (sitting first, inviting the partner to sit closer), maintain animated, engaging conversation, and use verbal cues to invite proximity. He showcases progressive touch techniques: casual shoulder touches, subtly revealing a leg, and later more intimate gestures like push‑pull or a light kiss‑hint. After the demonstration, a second speaker provides feedback, confirming that the interaction felt natural, playful, and comfortable, noting that the coach avoided premature head‑leaning and relied on arm gestures to signal interest. The video concludes with Cordero summarizing the key differences between standing and sitting touch escalation and encouraging viewers to apply the concepts.
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Hey, welcome back to another video, and I just want to show you what touch escalation looks like when we're sitting down because it is a bit different, but it's still the same concepts. Just like with the previous video, safe places to touch will still be the shoulder, the arms, and the upper back. But in the sitting position, you still want to be close, you want to be animated. There's going to be a lot of the times that you're going to be the one to lead and sit down first, and then she's going to sit down, and there's going to be a great chance that she's going to sit down a safe distance away, just Naturally, okay? And so I'm going to act like I sat here first, she sat over there, and all you do is just lead her logistically, okay? I can't touch her from this angle, and I know that in the back of my mind. So something that I'm gonna do with every girl that when we're sitting down at a rooftop lounge or at a house or anything, it's like, hey, hey, come sit closer to me, like, come over here. I don't bite, I promise. Well, at least not at first. Anyways, I'll say something like that. And then I'll just— and then from here, I'm still animated. And it's like, oh man, my day was really crazy. You know, I got lost in traffic and like almost hit somebody. It was like so crazy. And I can just keep the conversation going. I'm animated, I'm still engaging, and it still gives me reasons to touch her shoulder. I could— if I'm further in the interaction, I could— if you can just like reveal your leg a little bit. So like, so like basically it's like, you know, it's like crazy because like I started out here and I had to go all the way across town. It was like so crazy. So you can do stuff like that. It's kind of fun. Like, you kind of just get creative with it. And then once you establish more of attraction towards the girl and you have comfort built up, you can be more like, just touch her on her shoulder or kind of like just bring her in a little bit more. It's like, it's like, I'm thinking about kissing you, but not really. Like, and just kind of like push her away, do like a little push-pull, stuff like that. But so how did that feel for you? Like, did you like everything I did, or was it— did it seem all right, or what?
Everything you did was completely comfortable, natural. Really playful actually, but it didn't feel uncomfortable. The most uncomfortable thing that happens when I'm sitting close to a guy is that they're trying to be playful but they bring their head in, so I think they're leaning in for a kiss, which it might be premature, or I'm uncomfortable. You never brought your head into me in a way that felt uncomfortable. Instead, you used your arms to communicate interest, and I really enjoyed that without feeling, um, like it was too abrasive or aggressive.
That's what I have for you guys for this video. I just wanted to show you just a little difference on sitting down compared to standing, but I'll see you in the next one.
