teasing overview

Hey guys, welcome back to another video. Coach John here, and today I want to talk and just kind of give a little bit of overview and story about teasing because it is helpful. And without it, a lot of you guys, and including me, will just fall into the trap of just being nice guy, and it'll just come across as too many positive things to say. Even if you run a good interaction and you're conversating with her good and you guys vibe, it just brings in a nice element and it helps everything work out So well. So I remember when I was first learning pickup or dating dynamics and things like that, and I was so afraid to tease the girl, man. I was I was just now getting to the point where I can even tell her that she's pretty or cute. You know I'm saying? And so so I was I was just thinking in my head, man. If I say something that's negative-ish, you know, like a tease, then it's like. Oh man, she's just gonna like flip out or she's gonna, you know, do this or do that. So I, my coach is like, okay, just, just try it. I'm like, okay. So I tried it, ended up being the opposite. It was like she ended up laughing more. She ended up contributing to the conversation more. And that's not just one girl. It's like it was like multiple. And so I was like, oh man, like this is crazy. And so a lot of women, you know, want to be talked to, you know, in a way that is like fun, almost like you're their, their A friend in a sense, but don't make it like don't send friend vibes per se. But at the same time, give them a little shit. You know they like it. They'll give you shit back. Some of them will, and that's what makes this super fun. You do that, and a lot of the times you have that back and forth banter, and it's game over. Like you know things go even more. Like me getting a number after that, if there's a back and forth banter, got it. It's it's a wrap. So it's, it's great, man. So don't be afraid of teasing. It's gonna be good. It'll be one of those things where, you know, you just got to try it. It's intimidating for some of you guys when I've been coaching some of you guys and you guys either forget to say it altogether or you just don't do it enough. Maybe like it's that one time and it's like a baby tease. You know, it's like, oh man, it's like it— you guys have bad weather over there, right, in that state you used to live? Like Something along those lines. It's like a baby tease, you know? So it's like, uh, you guys can go more bold with it a little bit. Just don't go super crazy. Um, if for whatever reason the tease goes a little overboard, uh, just be like, relax, I'm just kidding, okay? Like, like, you know, just kind of like affirm it, uh, acknowledge that you went a little bit overboard to some degree, or just own it, you know what I'm saying? It's like, hey, I'm just joking, we're just talking, it's all good. And if you do that, she'll fall into your frame. And things get a lot easier from there. But I just wanted to give you guys an overview and a little story of my mindset when I first learned teasing. Hopefully this helps. If this does, leave a comment in the school community. Love to hear it. And that's all I have for this video. See you guys in the next.