John Cordero explains why texting in dating should maintain momentum toward meeting in person, not build attraction through messages alone. Excessive texting risks the friend zone, kills mystery, and signals over-availability. A strong ten-minute face-to-face encounter gives her enough to go on, so keep texts light and goal-oriented.
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Hey, what's up guys? Today we're going to be talking about texting. A lot of guys struggle to implement texting. They think texting is where attraction is supposed to be built, where endless conversations should happen, and where they need to constantly keep a woman entertained. That is the wrong mindset. The main purpose of texting is to maintain momentum, reinforce the vibe, and move things towards the date, period. Anything more than this And you're doing too much. If you understand that, texting becomes much easier and much less stressful. Keeping constant conversation going over text is a mistake because it's a form of communication that is from a distance, so she is not seeing you or getting a real good sample size of your personality. At best, she can get an idea of your personality, but attraction is always better built in person. There is this dynamic in texting that if you keep texting back and forth a lot, it's either going to feel too friendly and it's going to land you in the friend zone, Or you are coming on too strong with flirty lines back to back, and you can also overinvest before a real date even happens. So what is texting good for, and how do you use it to max out your chances of not getting left on read? So many people don't realize it, but here's the truth: the texting experience that the girl is going to go off of is the experience she had with you in person. So this is another reason why we encourage you to have a decently long interaction, at least 10 minutes or more if possible, so that she has a good sample size of your personality. And the vibe hopefully got built up between the both of you guys. That way she gets an idea of what she can look forward to in the future. Also remember about seeding the date. This comes in handy because you're not just trying to set up the date through text, you're reminding her about any date idea or things that you guys have talked about previously in the interaction. So that way it becomes the natural next step to just remind her rather than setting up the date. But sometimes you have to set up the date in text, and that does work as well. It's just not ideal. Be careful about texting too much because it can lower mystery, kill momentum, create unnecessary mistakes, and make you look too available. Texting should support the connection, not replace it. Use texting to get her on the date, because if you can get her on the date, then you can continue to physically escalate, logistically lead her around, and build a connection, and even kiss closer. Now all of a sudden you guys have spent a good 2 to 3 hours for her to get a really great experience from you and gives you the opportunity to advance things even more. You want to keep the vibe positive, keep it light, and move towards meeting up. That usually gets the best results because attraction fades over time, and what she felt in the moment of your first interaction with her can fade with just worrying about stuff that she has going on in her life. I don't want you to be rigid on this idea, but it is important, and it is okay to have a little back-and-forth conversation that is flirty. Nothing is guaranteed, but that alone will help. Alright guys, that's all I have for this video. See you guys in the next.
