Connor BeatonFound of ManTalks | Empowering Men to Build Better Lives, Relationships, and Minds

Build A Greater Purpose Beyond Women

2 Oct 2026 · 1 min

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In this monologue, Connor Beaton argues that men who lack a clear personal purpose or direction often become fixated on women and relationships as a substitute source of meaning. He explains that without a meaningful drive, the mind creates a fantasy where obtaining a woman's attention or a romantic partnership becomes the primary goal, effectively turning the relationship into a purpose in itself. Beaton contends that this substitution is detrimental to the health and vitality of the relationship, as it makes the partnership dependent on an artificial, purpose‑filling role rather than genuine connection.

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When you don't have something that you are trying to build towards or grow towards, what ends up happening is that women become a fixation. In the absence of some type of direction, some type of purpose or meaning in their life, they have become fixated on women either individually or more so as a collective. And this happens because you live in a kind of fantasy Where getting a woman, getting a relationship, getting women's attention becomes your primary purpose. It becomes the only game that your mind tricks you into playing. And in the absence of your life being meaningful or meaning-filled, in the absence of your life having some type of drive or purpose, what many men turn to is making a relationship their purpose, making a woman their purpose. This becomes antithetical to the health and the vitality of the relationship.