Two people discuss why losing a romantic partner hurts so much: it's not the romance you miss, but the friendship. A partner becomes your confidant for everything, from daily wins to creative projects. When that bond breaks, it feels like losing a piece of yourself.
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But I think for me, when I break up with somebody, which granted, like I've only been in a couple serious relationships, right? But when I break up with somebody, even if it's like, you know, we're just getting to know each other, we're dating, what hurts me more is not losing a man, is losing a friend. Oh my God. When I lose a friend, somebody who was a part of my life, somebody who I was just like, you know, like I built a studio, like let me call you, tell you how excited I am. Like, uh, you know, I had my, my, my episode did numbers. Let me call you and share, or, you know, like I'm making this or I'm doing this. just let me call you and share those things. Somebody who you can just talk to.
And a lot of times, like, we have female best friends, but let's be honest, sometimes your partner become— they, they're higher up than your girl best friend. Like, this is the person you, you talk to every day, you know, you're with them on an intimate level, you sleep with them every night. And I don't mean say— I mean, you're literally in bed cuddled with them. You don't do that with your girlfriends. So it's like, you can get a closer bond with your person, and then for them to be snatched out of your life, it's like, damn, I really lost a piece of me.
That's— yeah, that was tough. It's, it's not, it's not even losing a man. Fuck yeah, because there's gonna be another man that's gonna— right? It's not even like losing that attention yet. Yeah, like, it's tough, but I value that emotional connection more than, you know, the, the romantic connection. Because that, like, that— and I feel like romantic is gonna go up and down, up and down, because, like, sometimes, you know, Just kind of like not in the mood for it. Sometimes you are in the mood for it. It's kind of like, you know, we're women, we just go back and forth with all this shit. But when you lose a friend, especially somebody who was like a real fucking friend, and then I sit back and think, was I even a friend to you? Yeah. And that's when it's like, damn, you're just gonna let me go like that as a friend, man? That's what I kept telling my ex.
