A concise list of ten common distorted beliefs that undermine romantic relationships, each paired with a short corrective reminder (e.g., "I should always feel in love" → feelings fluctuate; "My partner should never disappoint me" → disappointments happen). The speaker aims to normalize variability in feelings, attraction, sex, certainty, and compatibility and to distinguish intuition from anxiety.
Number one, I should always feel in love. It's not normal to always feel in love. Number two, My partner should never disappoint me. People are going to disappoint us. Number three, the perfect relationship is the one I've envisioned. Practice, acceptance. Number four, I will always be attracted. Just like feelings, attraction is going to go in and out. Number five, Sex should always be good. Sex isn't always going to be perfect. Number six, I should never want to leave people question, especially in long term relationships. Number seven, we need to be extremely compatible to be happy. This is not true. Number eight, a good relationship never has problems. Number nine, I should be 100% sure. Nobody is 100% sure. Number 10, if I get a feeling something is wrong, that means it's true. There's a difference between intuition and anxiety.
