A short YouTube #shorts by Danielle Jhiani (Feb 13, 2024) offering five quick tips for people with relationship OCD (ROCD) on navigating Valentine’s Day: 1) let go of expectations, 2) minimize rumination and stay present, 3) don’t judge feelings—act despite them, 4) set mutual goals/expectations with your partner, and 5) accept and appreciate what is to find peace.
How to navigate Valentine's Day when you struggle with relationship ocd. Number one is letting go of expectations. When the brain is anxious, it thinks that if things can look a certain way, that means we're safe. So allow yourself to let go of expectations and just see what is. Number two, keep rumination at a minimum, it becomes unhealthy and ineffective. Stay in the present moment. Get out of your head. Number three is not judging your feelings, but acting despite your feelings. You're learning not to act on the discomfort, whether that's anxiety or avoidance. Number four is setting mutual goals and expectations. Have a conversation with your partner and come to a mutual agreement on what you both want. Number five is accepting and appreciating. When we can accept what is versus what isn't. You're going to find peace.
