Danielle Jhiani explains retroactive jealousy, an anxiety that fixates on a partner's past relationships and sexual history. Common signs include repeatedly asking about exes, avoiding places tied to them, and obsessively checking their social media. She argues that a partner's past doesn't define your current relationship and offers steps to stop the obsessing.
Today we're going to talk about retroactive jealousy. This is extremely unhealthy, and it is a form of either anxiety or ocd. You might find yourself asking your partner about what they did, what that other person was like, what the relationship was like. You might find yourself wanting to avoid any place or item that that other person has been in touch with. You might find yourself constantly checking your partner's social media, and this behavior could become very unhealthy for for your relationship. We all have a past, but it means nothing about my relationship right now. So in order to eliminate this unhealthy issue, which will eventually sabotage your relationships, you have to stop obsessing about their past. I know it sounds easier said than done, but there are very specific things that you can do to get to the point where your partner having an ex, or other intimate experiences can no longer bother you.
