How To Heal Your ROCD & Relationship Anxiety

So before the heal your ROCD program, I was really struggling. I was very lonely too, because I felt like I couldn't talk to anybody about it. Even my therapist didn't really understand what I was saying. She was very empathetic, but it wasn't like she could very well.

Relate to what I was going through.

Where I was at before the ROCD program was probably the best way I can describe is in like an absolute state of panic and just like uncertainty over everything. I went from being like madly in love and happy and carefree to all of a sudden being like, no, like this isn't what you want or like this is not how you feel. But it was just like this uncontrollable fear that I didn't love him anymore, which then spiraled into, oh my God, I don't and why don't I.

I.

Was really, really, really struggling within school with my kids, physical health, all kinds of stuff. I was a bit of a mess.

There's a lot that the heal your ROCD program changed my life and my relationship.

I think the most important thing is I just learned to appreciate my husband in a way that I didn't realize was possible before. There was a lot of things in our relationship that weren't bad but were unrealistic expectations like that we would always be infatuated with each other and things were always going to be easy. And if it's not easy, then it's bad. I'd also say just in general.

I just learned how to be a better partner. Like, I learned how to appreciate his flaws. And, you know, when I noticed his flaws, realized it's not that big of a deal. Everybody has flaws. It doesn't mean anything. It doesn't mean that he's not a good partner. It just means he has a flaw.

It helped me, you know, it definitely helped me with my, you know, relationships. But the biggest thing was just the education pieces. It was pretty mind blowing.

Quite a few times because it was like, oh my God, that's what that is. Like I would have never known, you know, and.

You know, that education piece is humongous and because then from there you'll start to have an understanding. And then from there I was able to be able to actually start identifying when I was feeding into a compulsion or when I was even triggered or, I mean, the list goes on. There's so many tools that helped. That was my starting point of how I could actually start helping myself instead of accidentally making myself sick.

So first and foremost it identified like what was going on which, you know, that in and of itself is so relieving, because then it was like, you know, just good to know that I wasn't going crazy, that other people also experienced something like this. Being able to chat with a few folks that are going through the same thing, we're able to kind of really get to know each other. I'm, like, friends with all you guys on Facebook, so it's kind of nice. We got to see Natalie's wedding pictures, and, you know, that's really good to see. It's like a good support system. You know, we're able to be there for one another and, you know, again, just know that we're not crazy.

I learned that, you know, healthy relationships look several different ways and that you can work through pretty much anything if you're both willing to do it. One of the most important things I learned is what my brain was doing. I learned about, like, compulsions and reassurance seeking and rumination. And I learned what that actually meant in the context of ocd, because a relationship ocd, because pretty much every therapist book, whatever that I talked to about OCD would point immediately to, like, the stereotypic OCD things of washing your hands and cleaning up and all that. I didn't have any of those. So, you know, a lot of my therapists were like, oh, you don't have compulsions then you just have pure O. But, you know, I started realizing I had the ruminations and I had the asking for reassurance all the time, and it helped me get a clearer picture of what was going on so that I could get better.

My life is very different. Like I said, you know, the program was literally. And Danielle, working with her one on one first initially was a huge game changer because the more that we were able to dissect my unique experiences, we were able to identify what's what and how I could even go about it.

You know, a lot of my relationships have improved. My relationship with my fella, my poor boo, who got the. I mean, the most of my rocd, probably out of any relationship that I've been in, it's. I am able to proactively go about things way differently than reactively. And I don't. I just. Our relationship is getting better. We're becoming more friends. I'm being able to take a lot of the pressure off of him and us and this the one. And putting just a lot of changing my beliefs. And really the one thing I can say that I really probably.

Found to be the most beneficial next to the Education piece was all of the beautiful little techniques. And I can't wait to learn more.

To get from the program that I wasn't able to get elsewhere. I think primarily is just that community with the other girls that were in the program with me. It's so nice to know that you're not alone and be able to talk to other people who are going through the same thing. Getting to meet people that are going through the same thing and understand where you're coming from is just. It's pretty much priceless. Like, I really don't think I could find that in any other community.

What was very different about the Danielle's program was she literally can relate to you. She's gone through it.

And my OCD therapist, bless her heart, tried her best, and there was a lot of things that she was able to help me with, but there was still such a huge missing component of.

She just couldn't fully understand it. She couldn't fully empathize with it. And the thing about. With Danielle's program and the group itself was being able to pick up on things that can typically get overlooked, you know, from a program or a person, a therapist who, like I said, who doesn't have it, and, you know, they're overlooking certain symptoms or compulsions or hidden things that only someone who has it or had it, you know, can. Can really help you with on a deeper level, in my opinion.

Absolutely.

And the heal your ROCD program, to anybody who is struggling with relationship ocd, I think that in a lot of ways, it was one of the best things I possibly did besides getting back on medications and going to my therapist, because it helped me understand what was going on with my brain, and it helped me realize I wasn't alone. There wasn't anything that I was doing wrong. I just had gotten into a loop and really needed support.

Anybody who's struggling with relationship anxiety, relationship reality, relationship anxiety, an ROCD having to do with relationships, I think the program is a great start for that education piece.

And there's a lot of support in the group. And having support through times like this is very, very helpful to feel not alone and have other people really be able to relate and understand, but also those more advanced people within the group, like Danielle, who can again train and coach of how to help you, again, stop hurting yourself and not fuel the OCD and all that stuff, and to be able to create more of a resilience, be able to heal.

My experience working with Danielle on one. On one coaching was.

Awesome. I started feeling better almost right away because I was like, oh, my gosh, like somebody else has gone through what I'm going through and is healthy and happy and is making, you know, great decisions and is living this great life. It helped me get on a path that was very helpful, and I definitely thought it was worth it. I think it's a really good investment in yourself, especially if you're not. If you. If you're not sure what's going on with your brain, and you really need somebody that understands what relationship OCD is. I think that that is the best thing that you can do to start you down the path of getting.