A short YouTube talk (by Danielle Jhiani) about managing emotions within relationships. The speaker emphasizes personal responsibility for regulating emotions and consequent behavior, the need to communicate needs and set boundaries when others behave unhealthily, and how anxiety can push people to either over-expect or under-expect (often leading to silence and failure to ask for needs to be met).
Our emotions should never take over our behavior. If we're not able to manage the emotions and therefore manage our behavior, this is a problem. It is our responsibility to manage what's going on. It's not somebody else's responsibility to fix this for us. Other people in relationships can contribute in an unhealthy way, and then it's our responsibility to communicate our needs and and our boundaries in those situations. If we're not over exaggerating things or have high expectations due to anxiety. Sometimes with anxiety, we don't have enough expectations because we're afraid to speak up. We're afraid to ask for our needs to be met or to set boundaries because we don't want to rock the boat. So knowing where you fall on that spectrum in this individual situation is going to be key.
