Short coaching monologue (YouTube) by Danielle Jhiani offering practical guidance for people with anxiety, OCD, or insecure attachment: identify negative/avoidant thoughts and deliberately act anyway (e.g., respond to doubts with "yep, maybe it will, but I'm going to do it anyway") to build comfort over time and prevent life/relationships from shrinking.
A question that I get all the time from people with anxiety and OCD or even insecure attachment styles is what if it doesn't work out or I don't feel better? Your brain is sending you messages to avoid to stay safe. The problem is that the more you listen to these thoughts and act based on them, you're more uncomfortable in all kinds of situations. And so your life starts to shrink, your relationships shrink. You're not able to do the things that you really want to do deep down. What I want you to practice is recognizing when these negative thoughts show up. Start responding with yep, maybe it will, but I'm going to do it anyway. The more consistent you are, the more comfort you're going to build. And over time, these situations become quite comfortable.
