Episode 6 : Mindset

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Good morning. Good morning, Brian.

Good morning Amy. How are you this morning?

I'm just all sunshiny and happy.

I love it. Happy is a good mindset.

Well, you know, even if I wasn't, I'm going to put that out there so that my brain focuses more on focusing on being happy.

You know, there is a little bit, and again, not that you are faking it, but there is a little something to saying fake it till you make it. We don't need to get too far into that. But I am super obsessed with mindset and I'm very excited to talk about mindset and reframing because it is something that has really saved my keister in my life many, many times and is something I live by and it's critical and essential and you have to just know. It is a fun journey and it's something you consistently have to work at to reap the rewards.

Yep. Yeah, mindset. It sounds like it's kind of fixed already. The word itself, your mind is set, right?

I don't like that part. I do agree with that. When you said that the other day when we were talking about this, I'm like, you know what that is? We need to change the word. What do we have to do to change the word mindset to something more fluid?

Well, we have now made reframing intentions and neuroplasticity main word. So even though your mind is set with high focus and purposefulness, intention, dedication, work, you know, not faking it, you can fake it, but you can make it as well. You can force your brain to focus with high attention on something and actually change where your mind is set towards or what your mind is set towards. So maybe we reframe the word mindset being like, oh, isn't there a sporting analogy you can make here about a set?

Yeah, I was thinking actually about volleyball because you hear about set, but a set doesn't say how long. Right. So maybe it's a resting spot for where your mind is at with a specific circumstance or thought process or the way you feel or think about something. But that's why it's important to ask questions. And I think one of the questions that's important to always ask where you are is is this mind frame right for this situation or this feeling or is there another possibility? So I think exploring with that question, I think we need to ask more questions when we're thinking about something to allow for clarity to come through, but also just to question the possibility. What possibilities are there? Or is there a different way of seeing this or thinking about this or whatever and to get you from that pause position or that set position, right.

And, or you know, if you've never had the great wonderful pleasure and adventure of hiking with me and you can set out on a direction or a path, and if you've ever hiked with me, you would know this, your set path often changes and then it becomes an adventure and you learn something new. So you can set out in one direction and decide to change that direction and all of that, like you said, asking questions and looking at your perspective and looking where you're set, where you're at, what direction you're going requires you one of our favorite topics to have great self awareness. So if you don't start with awareness where you're at in the first place, what you're thinking, what you're feeling, what your belief system is, what your perspective is, and then question it, or you can't question it if you're not also, I mean maybe you can just be a questioner without self reflection. But I think there's an aspect where you kind of have to have some deeper thought process happening within yourself to be able to ask questions. Then you can change where your mind is set towards, take some effort, take some work, takes consistency, take some ability to force the brain to refocus on new pathways, new connections and new Understandings so you can change your mindset.

I just need to say something real quick. I'm sorry, I'm just jumping at er. So real quick, before we get too far, it sounds like a. I think we should. I would love to go hiking with you and it would be fun to do a live podcast when we hike. But it sounds like I also need to bring survival gear and a compass.

Yes, yes, absolutely. We have a GPS machine. That would be the best thing. And every. Every one of my friends right now are laughing their ass off. Oh, I mean, their bottom off. Sorry, I don't remember. Is this a clean podcast? I think I have to say it's not a bad.

I'm sure it's only going to be adults listening to things that are good for you. I'm pretty sure when I was a youngster. Wow, that made me sound old. That I would not probably be listening to a podcast called all things Good for you. So I think we're safe.

Okay. I mean, we were talking about hiking and I take donkeys. That's what I was referencing. I've definitely got us lost a few times in the woods by talking Shocker. And not necessarily paying attention to where I was going and just kind of wandering along and then all of a sudden going, hey, I don't think this is the right direction. Where are we? And it's kind of a laughing situation. Cause I'm usually in charge. I'm pretty good with navigation and planning and organizing and reading maps. And I have all this, like, I'm the leader, I will take over. I will do this. And we will go here. And then we end up, you know, chit chatting. And then it's on me that we've gotten off trail, but I can always find us back. I've never been lost. Lost. I always find a way out.

Well, I'm proud of you.

And I know we're going on a small tangent, but hey, people like us.

I was going to say. I was going to say I interrupted you and I took you off the small pass and now how can you find your way back?

You haven't. My favorite new saying is, I'm pretty sure my last words will be, well, that didn't work. But anyway, back to it. So, mindset, staying on path or getting back to a path that you want to be on because you've stopped, you've looked around and you've kind of observed where you're at and how things are going in life. And maybe you're thinking, I need to change my mindset. And we also like to use the word reframing. So let's talk about reframing.

Yeah. So I think in the spirit of the name All Things Good for your, I just want to point out the reason why we're jumping into mindset and reframing. If there's a lack of clarity, to be clear, if you can become the director. If you remember in a previous podcast we talked about the observer and the director kind of roles, the Guardian and the Warrior. So if you haven't heard those, reference some of our previous podcasts, please. But if you can be the director and know you can ask questions and get more clarity and see if there's other possibilities and opportunities in that experience, then it allows you to feel more control and more aliveness and feel more control over your actions versus your reactions and really help to shape your own reality. And so it gives you this amazing power. Now, if you don't mind, Amy, I'm going to jump backwards for a sec. I love talking about this again. And I mentioned earlier, just as we were kicking off here, that it really saved my keister younger in life. And the reason I say that is just like many of us, I'm not saying I think we all have some similar feelings and life experiences, but I definitely had some drops and balls in my younger years and had some big missteps, if you will. And if I wouldn't have reframed and let those empower me to challenge me to look at it from a different perspective and take life on in a different way, my life would be very different than it is right now. So I'm grateful that there was some sort of spark of something at that time that was innate in my knowing when I was younger that just said, I can change this. It doesn't have to be this way. It can be this way. And I turned it into a driver for myself. So it's critical. It's important to know that you can reframe at any time. It doesn't matter how old you are or what your experience is or what's happening. And you can turn situations into drivers and into positive experiences for growth. And that was important to me. And that's the difference between a fixed mindset and a growth mindset. And that was, I think she coined it, if not, certainly, I think, off her research, but from a Stanford University psychologist, Carol Dweck, and I believe you're familiar with.

Yep. I think our original intention was about ability for people's intelligence levels, but it then grew to what we're Using it as now is your mindset in your perspective and changing whether or not you fixed. You have a fixed set mindset meaning that you have a perception that it is what it is. Like the world is the way it is, people are the way they are. Life treats you the way it is. You're kind of destined to be in this way. So failure is this. It has a negative connotation. I don't necessarily think it's fully fixed. Mindset needs to be negative. Maybe you're fixed on everything's wonderful but growth mindset now meaning more of the ability to look at situations and go.

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Or what can I learn from this? How can I grow from this experience and take a more positive aspect out of it, regardless of what scenario you're in?

Yeah. I feel like the fixed mindset from talking with clients over the years and obviously friends and stuff. I feel like there's certain things, there's bigger statements like that's just who I am. I can't change it. You know, they don't want to try because they don't fail or whatever. But then I think that there's more common ones that you hear about, about maybe somebody in a job that they do not love at all and it has a negative effect in their life. But it's, you know, I've been there 15 years. I'm just stuck in this position. Like that's kind of a another fixed mindset or I hate to say this, but with relationships, you know, you tend to, you know, oh, we've been married 20 years. It is interesting because they're going to change, right? I'm not going to change their mind about it. And so that's a fixed mindset from them. But also it's a, you know, obviously they're talking about this other person's fixed mindset too. So it's interesting how you kind of see it show up, you know, in ways like that too. So Growth mindset is just knowing you're consistently evolving and you're work in progress. Right? Like that anything I think may or may not be actually the truth. Who inside of my head is saying it, you know, like, can I see this in a different way? So challenging your self and questioning.

Right. And just having that ability to extrapolate good information, good things out of it. Like Victor Frankel, right? He was. Every time I go to talk about him, I forget the name of his book and it's very frustrating for me.

But, well, I like his last name.

He has a great name.

Mr. Frankel.

Yes, he's very good. I bet you it's a lot of fun. He was in a concentration camp. I mean, he's a pretty well known book and author. And his perspective of how he made it through that horrific experience was by focusing on the potential positives of the future and how he was going to live positively or do these things with his wife. And he focused on happy, positive scenarios and how to make the best of the scenario that he was in. And well, you know, if I was handy and had my phone close by, I would be looking up his information, but I don't. So, Viktor Frankl, learning how to take like as you said, your childhood, which may not have been great, which agreed, that happens for a lot of people. I can also attest to some challenges in my life and my childhood and which the whole maybe never this podcast. So because we can look at, we can look at things from our past and go, I was about to say we can talk about that later, but no, we probably won't. Except to say that you can, even through traumatic experiences, find a way that can help grow you and give you good experiences. The value that you can say, man, I've seen it done this way and, and now I'm going to find a way to do it completely the opposite way or even be able to look at man, something I thought was negative actually became a positive. Like you can look at a failed job or a failure, right? Like we've taken this word failure and made it very scary and awful and defeat us. But there's actually studies that show children who are taught that doing something like a test or a puzzle or an experiment and using it as an experiment and not a. If you don't answer this correctly, you've failed and that determines that you're not smart. That they were able to take the situation and reframe the way they saw the process in more of an experiment that, hey, we're going to try it this way. If this doesn't work, there must be, I'm going to take that data, there must be another way to do that. So I'm going to find a different way to do it. And those children throughout the rest of their life actually developed more ability to cope and be resilient and be successful because they didn't perceive doing something quote unquote wrong as a failure and they didn't take it as a personal definition of who they were. So learning to reframe things that you might see in a negative connotation to what is this data giving me? What is this? Let's look at this as if it was an experiment and what can I do with this information to turn and learn from it?

I love it.

Yeah. I think with everything where mindset is, again, it seems to be that people can live and be more prosperous and more appreciative and fulfilled in life if they are gearing themselves more towards a growth mindset and an awareness of where I am and where I have been is not where I have to be tomorrow and in the future. And that if you're not happy, if you're not feeling good about where you are in life, you have the ability to make an impact and start changing that even in the worst case scenarios. Truly. And you know, one of my favorite geek out podcasts that I listen to is the Huberman Lab and he it's very science oriented and very long. But I was just listening to another one. He talks a lot about brain science. He's a neuroscientist at Stanford as a professor. And he was talking about one of the ways that we make brain changes is by a chemical we all know, epinephrine or adrenaline, when it's coming from the adrenal glands. Epinephrine in the brain and the release of that chemical in the brain highlights the circuits that open, as he said it, the gates for your brain to be available to change. It's not like you have this, that chemical epinephrine release in your brain and boom, you've made this big change your life, change your brain, whatever. It's not that quick. But the release of adrenaline and a high state of alertness helps to formulate new neuron, new connections. And so it all comes back to a concentrated effort of being aware and where you are, where you maybe don't want to be, but more so where you want to be and where we focus on and what you do every day makes a change. So like when we opened and I said, you know, I'm. I'm. I don't remember what I said. So I'm happy, awake and alert. I'm here and happy, and I am like 99% of the time, I'm pretty ridiculously happy person. But by saying I'm a happy person and doing that consistently and then finding ways to say I am happy, and there are tools we can use to reinforce those things, but just the fact of saying I am this type of person, that right there helps change your mindset. And if you need to, you can reframe a situation, right? You can take a situation where you're cranky and you're angry or you're feeling unhappy about whatever and say, you know what? This isn't me. I'm going to reframe the situation because I'm a happy person and I'm a positive person, and I'm going to see the situation in that way, you can reframe a moment to get yourself back into the line and the path that you'd like to be on.

I love everything you just said, and you are a happy person and you're an amazing person. So I appreciate you. And the fact that going back to just all of that is to focus on growth. And so when you catch yourself, again, thinking a certain way, whether it's about somebody in your life in a relationship or a coworker, or you having to get out of bed to go to work or whatever it is, the bigger things are the noise that jump out that you catch yourself thinking about. I mean, you don't have to analyze every little thing think about, but those bigger pit stops that are loud, if you just stop and go, okay, whatever that. When you're having that feeling, you know, say something like Amy just said. Or also just ask yourself, is this thought process a growth focus? Is this a growth process? Or if it's not helping me grow, then let's reframe it. So is this thought process helping me with growth? No. Okay, time to reframe. What else can I see? Or how else can I think about this? Or how else can I do this to put it on the growth track so it's not on the growth track. We want it on the growth track. But just asking that as a question, when you catch yourself in those big pit stop moments is very critical. And if you can develop that awareness of mindset and the skill of reframing, that's one of the biggest tools in life you can have. Hey, guys, it's Brian. I just wanted to take a pause for a moment in the middle of this podcast to thank our sponsors, Ouch, who's helping to make this podcast possible today. Ouch believes everyone should enjoy what life has to offer without enduring pain. They are a pain relief company. Listen guys. I use their products a lot. They're proprietary herbal formulas built on top of a 2000 year old formula. Given it time tested, effective of results and I'm going to listen to that any day of the week. The combination of that with the founder having over 22 years of actual hands on experience treating patients for musculoskeletal pain makes Ouch a very special company. Ouch is made with the highest quality of certified herbs and CBD from organic hemp oil. Their ingredients are extracted with the utmost integrity to ensure the healing properties remain pure and concentrated to promote natural muscle pain relief and other benefits. I gotta tell you, I appreciate that so much. As a consumer, I want to know what I am getting is exactly what's being sold to me. So they take it a step further. They have a certificate of analysis for all their ingredients before it goes into production and after production to ensure that you're getting what you're paying for. Listen here guys. You don't settle for a lesser version of your best self today. When you can feel your best today, check out Ouch Shop that's spelled out for a full line of their products. They're an amazing company. I use their products on a daily basis, so check them out.

Right? And you know, with that again, like we've said, I say that phrase a lot. I've noticed. By the way, this is one thing that this podcast is helping me recognize is repeating phrases and possibly the opportunity to grow my vocabulary. Side note, when we look at like our personalities, like being able to be self aware, you kind of have to recognize where you are as a person. As far as you know, the optimist, the pessimist, the realist, the idealist. I have a pretty good idea of where you are, Brian, but what are you?

I am an eternal optimist. I try to take every situation, there's a story, we don't need to get into it. But the theme of the story turns out to be who's to say what is good fortune and what is bad. So that's kind of a little thing in my life with my family and stuff when something happens where because they know the backdrop of this little fable. But at the end of the day it's like who's to say what is good fortune, what is bad. And so that also helps turn really bad situations into a more positive way, seeing it more positive way. But I'm definitely an eternal optimist. I try to find the best in everything. And the opportunity, you know, something kind of sucks a little bit. I try to find an opportunity to find that beautiful thing in it, the growth thing.

You really do, almost sometimes even irritatingly so. And I thought I was. No, you're wonderful. But there have been moments where you've said something where I'm like, oh, I want to be angry about this. And I'm like, no, we will find the good in it because Brian said this. Okay, fine. Optimists, right? I think pretty much anybody knows what these means. Optimists mean that you're always seeing the positive side and how something could be good in this situation. And then pessimism has a negative connotation as well. But it's more of the skeptical analytical maybe see all the potential ways it could go bad. And being in either one of those states into the extreme can be not healthy in the long run. Right. That can be very fixed mindset where you need to be able to jump back and forth. And I find myself more in what I consider to be the ever hopeful realist. So I lean towards optimistic. But I tend to look at a situation and see all the ways it could go wrong and all the ways it could go good. And then I just usually pick to focus on the good. So yeah, I'm the ever hopeful realist.

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Drive and keeping your feet in both or surrounding yourself with people who are on both is really important. And being aware that of where you are in those places like if you're. If you tend to be a pessimist and you tend to always think that things are going to go wrong or it's going to be negative or it's going to be the bad situation, or the world's working against me, or those red lights stopped because the world hates me. You know, hundred other people that are in the red lights with you. But having the ability to have other people interject positive things in your life or again, just being aware if you're in those states often, maybe there's an opportunity to set up some tools and some keys throughout your day, some ways you can refocus and bring yourself back to a more growth opportunity. Mindset. We love our homework, our tools, and there are some ways we can interact in our days to help ourselves get to a mindset that we want. Right? We can design ourselves, we can design our lives.

Hey, Amy, can I just mention one thing? I just gotta get out of my head that I think is just interesting?

Yes. I love this.

I hope everybody else thinks it's interesting too. So real quick, before we jump into that homework, there is. I think it's good we're just talking about asking questions. So I think it's good to ask questions to bring up the clarity, but it's also good to question who's the questioner and what I mean, question. Here's the question. So.

Hey, I have a question. Yes, yes. Sorry, I just.

Who's questioning right now?

I'm not sure what it is. I just know I have one. Okay, go ahead.

Yes. By the way, so there's a gentleman, Shahzard Shamin, who wrote a book called Positive Intelligence. It was a New York Times bestseller and he's got a really cool website. So I'm not plugging. There's no paid to plug. He's not paying me to plug him. But you should check out his website. There's a free little test you can take on there. But, you know, again, our goal is to bring awareness and let you have fun and explore. So take this for what it is. But he brings out what's called nine saboteurs. And so you have these different saboteurs, if you will, that are epigenetic. And so going back again to some conversations we have, you have genetic and you have epigenetic. Epigenetic is. And this is where mindsets, you know, are developed from, is from experiences in life, from social, economic situations, from your environment, from family, from people in your lives repeatedly telling you certain things. So it's all of this experience from life. And so you tend to develop these filters on how you see life and how you experience life. And that gets into some of the five elements stuff we Talked about before, I'm deviating a little bit here, but he has his own kind of map, if you will, of these saboteurs. And so when you're asking a question, especially from the ego mind, which is that kind of conditioned mind and that seeing life through the filters, you have to be careful who's asking it to see like what is. Is there an opportunity for you to even change that filter to kind of disengage with that potential saboteur and find more balance within the other things he talks about, the sage and the saboteur. So I don't want to sound all negative, but I'm just going to read a little link from his website. But mental fitness is a measure of strength of your positive mental muscles. The sage versus the negative. The saboteur. Saboteurs react to challenges in ways that generate negative emotions such as stress, disappointment, self doubt, regret, anger, shame, guilt or worry. Your sage handles challenges through positive emotions like empathy, gratitude, curiosity, creativity, self confidence and calm, clear headed, laser focused action. So a little alpha state. The relative strength of your positive sage versus negative saboteurs is called PQ or positive intelligence. So just asking again a question, is this putting me on a growth mindset or allowing for growth or not allowing for growth? And then with thinking about that, what potential saboteur is happening and is there a possibility to bring out a little bit of that sage so you can dig deeper into that stuff? But I think just to drill down to see if can I remove a certain filter that is from my epigenetic or conditioned life. To therefore see it from a different filter gives us a lot more possibility for even more growth. So kind of taking it to that next level. Okay, thoughts out of my head. All you, Amy. Go, go, go.

That is, I'm, I'm going to totally geek out on that. I love that stuff and I love like personality tests. I'm obsessed with them. But I have to admit, so you know, sometimes my brain wanders while we're talking and I'm laughing because we do the same thing. Like we both are going on our own little tangent. So I'm just imagining while I'm listening to you, us on an adventure, on a hike, we definitely need a GPS machine because I just had this whole thing of like, oh my gosh, not only do we have to have a gps, but we're going to need to have like a filming crew or on our phones and it could be like a combination of Blair Witch Project meets Jackass meets Naked and Afraid and we'd be out in the woods. Although I am not losing my clothes. That's. That's one thing I make sure not to have happen when I'm out in the woods.

Yeah, there's a lot that we can extrapolate from all of what you just said. So I'm going to turn that GPS on and get back over here for a minute anyway.

So that's what happens in my brain. So take us back, Brian.

I love it. All right, back on the path real quick. So reframing when you're getting into your homework. So we're going to give you some homework to do. And also there's going to be a link to, like, 25 different tips that Amy's gonna put on the notes on the podcast that actually came from another great website, but it'll link you there. So I don't keep going over that stuff. But there's two critical things I feel like is important when you're reframing to take into your homework, and one is intention. So when you start to reframe, okay, here's my situation. Either here's the way I'm thinking about a person, or the way I'm thinking about an experience, or the way I'm even thinking about my. When you get up and you're in alpha state, or you get into theta and alpha state and your brain's got your flow on and you're visualizing what you want your day to look like, or before you go into an experience, you're visualizing what you want this experience to be like. I want you to think about what you want it to look like, what you want it to feel like, get as much visceral sense to it as much as possible and really build a strong foundation into what that intention is, is because the more detailed you are with that, the more reframing and the more change and the more growth mindset you're going to develop. So I think it's a huge mental task, if you will, or activity to really think about that intention and really dive deep into that when you're reframing. And then the second one that ties right into that is strategy. And I guess strategy and intention, they're right there together. But I tend to. I have a personal high performance coach. I shouldn't say a personal high performance coach, but I got a coach that helps me out with some stuff for sure, because it takes the team. And one thing I realized is I don't spend as much time with strategy, and that's just really putting it down, thinking about it. Putting it on paper, look at the moving parts. So you can spend some time with this. But strategy and intention I think is very important to build into these homework exercises.

Yep. And strategize away, but also get out there and do it. So I like that you have so much good stuff, Brian. Like, I love that. You know, being a coach of some sorts. Right. I appreciate there are people recognizing today how many opportunities there are for growth and to develop bigger, better and just get the morrow out of the life. You know, get this last bit of fabulous juices from this lovely grape of life that we're in. And whether it's a white wine or red wine.

I want some grape juice. I love that metaphor.

Yes. I love it. I think that could be my symbol. Right. Just a smashed grape and that would be awesome.

Okay, I have an idea for you. Okay, I got it.

Okay, we'll talk about that. And speaking of mindset differences, Right. You like using words like homework and tasks. And I'm going to say let's everybody who got a cringe somewhere way down deep inside when he said those words. This is your opportunity to work on your mindset. It's not homework. It's the opportunity for growth. And we're weaponizing you. We're. And if that offends you, okay, we're going to do it a different way. We're going to give you some bonuses. Right. Some things to like, swag. We're going to leave you with some swag. Some mental swag, Some mental life development swag. Here we go. So as you said, you have to have an intention. Right. So if you can sit down and be aware of where you are, where you've been and where you'd like to go and observing how you perceive things and what your reactions are, your self talk and making note of those things. So keeping a journal or even just a little note section on your phone, you can do your vocal notes to yourself. Just start being aware of how you're performing, what you're thinking and what you're feeling throughout the day and then ask why. No, I love that question. You need to ask yourself why. And usually it takes about five whys to get to the reason why. It's really there, whatever that feeling is or that perception. But setting an intention of what you want your life to look like, taking some time to be grateful for what is good in your life. Right. So just like with Viktor Frankl, he was able to find happiness in the worst situations. We had a chat the other day about the fires that are happening and blowing into Colorado. And it's a very unfortunate thing situation. And thank you to our firemen for helping and protecting us. But it also makes the sunset extremely beautiful, you know, and I like those little ironic moments that you can say, man, this is something I could be very negative about. But we can still extrapolate goodness and have gratitude for it and thanks for the fact that we have the sunrise, whatever. It really can be that simple. And there's tons of research out there that shows just doing three things a day that you're grateful for, just making note of those and keeping a list really affects the positivity of your life and helps bring out actually this neurochemistry in your body that helps relax, relax you, make you happy as well. So lots of science behind that visualization, looking and really closing your eyes and whether it's a meditation process or what have you, but just seeing how like you had said, Brian, envision how you want. Maybe you envision how the scenario could go. Whether it's a meeting or an interaction or something you're doing, you could visualize how it could go and you can visualize how you want it to go and how you're going to show up in those scenarios. So you can kind of pre plan the type of person you want to be or the type of day you want to have and how you want to respond to that day by doing some visualization and planning ahead. And it doesn't have to be a long process. You don't have to do an hour of meditation. It can be just a very quick few seconds to a couple minutes using your environment.

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Drive and what you participate in. So if you find yourself in a lot of negative talk or angry talk and certainly a lot of things we can do today to talk about frustrating situations that bring us down and not to ignore those situations, not to ignore the things that are happening in life that are perceived as negative or frustrating, but to not dwell on them. Not to stay in there, not to Stay in hate gossip, not to stay in hate situations and negative places. Surround yourself with people who bring you up and help you see a positive side of things. Surround yourself with people who help you grow and inspire you. Then kindness and service. It's tons of research that shows that doing just one nice thing can make your life happier. So just buying a co worker a cup of coffee, really complimenting somebody, honestly, like I am definitely the person's walking down the street and if I see something I like on somebody, I just say it. It's usually men's shoes. But I don't hesitate to tell somebody that I like this about you or I like this that you're wearing or just give them a compliment like wow, you're just, you radiate happiness. Or you know, there's. It's so nice on both sides to just be kind to other people. So adding that into your day, then asking yourself fact over fiction, is it 100% true? Like if it's a daunting situation or a negative situation that's happening, I don't care how bad it is, like is it 100% true that it is going to be this negative situation and is it 100% true for everybody in the world? Because if it's different for somebody in the world, it's probably could be different for you. And then listen to yourself, how are your self talks going and how are you talking about other people? And then you know, a little achievements like appreciate the moments in your life where you do something. Well, like literally if you can't find anything else to be happy about in the world, you gotta brush your teeth, you woke up, you breathed and you got to have coffee or you got to do something. You know, yay, I woke up and put my pants on. You know, it's like, it's celebrate those small movements. If that's all you've got, that's a good place to start. And then we've talked about the actual active things like practicing breathings, different types of breathing methods, meditation, exercise in itself, just pushing that circulation in your brain. Even if it's just a quick set of squats or marching in place or going for a long walk or just the breathing and then your nutrition paying attention to the quality of the food that we put into our body and what that nutrition does actually affects our psyche as well. So there is a long list. Your homework is to pick any one of those or all of them. Do them all at once.

You know, you know I have to add, you know, I have to add Just a couple more, right?

Oh, yes, please do.

Yeah. I mean, that. That was a very thorough list. Absolutely. And it's probably in there. But just keep challenging those limiting beliefs. I think it's very important. And sometimes those limiting beliefs are fears you might have to lean into a little bit, too. And I know some of the biggest things that, like, just a small example, I used to, you know, I love to work out, but the idea, when I would see somebody doing, like, a hit class or something, I was like, oh, that's horrible. That's bad for this, or da, da, da, da. And so I had this, like, mindset around it, and then I realized I'm like, I really need to, like, try that and just stop, like, having this talk about it in my mind in a, you know, way. So I ended up doing it, and sure enough, it's one of the things I love the most. It's one of the things that's helped my body the most. And so I changed this limiting belief and leaned into something that I was a little afraid of. And turns out it's one of the best things ever. And so you can do that, whether it's, you know, again, somebody maybe who you didn't want to talk to because you had this thought about them and this fear, and it's like, okay, no, I can go talk to that person and just, you know, break that barrier is important. So challenges limiting beliefs lean into the fears. And then again with one thing Amy said is surround yourself. Buy things that help support growth. And again, you know, sometimes it's bringing on a personal development coach to help. I'm going to plug Brendon Burchard for sure. He's one of my favorite people to listen to, and he has a great app out called Growth Day. So it's an awesome app where there's guest speakers and they break it up into different categories, whether it's leadership or love or whatever. There's all these different categories and great speakers.

So.

And then a variety of podcasts out there, you know, jump on Sharad Shamim's website, do your, you know, your little quiz there and see what happens. But, you know, when I work out, I listen to podcasts. A lot of stuff that has to do with personal development and things when I'm. You just constantly, constantly just surround yourself by people and tools in your life that help support growth, and you're going to enjoy the journey and rock it out.

Absolutely. And don't overwhelm. You can literally just do one positive thing in your day to make A good impact in the long run. It's consistency over time, right? Not to go into another thing, but. Yeah, the whole fact of what you had said, what did you just say? Something about. Oh, a lot of times when there is this friction, this little burr in the saddle or this irritation negativity that comes up like this, I've learned in the last several years especially to be like, okay, that's bothering me why I just thought a negative thought about that person or the situation, and I just made a kind of a harsh judgment on something, and then I kind of learned to stop and go, okay, I think there's something inside me that might need to be unpacking here. So what's coming up and why do I see that that way? And what is there? This is an opportunity to learn something, because this is a signal. This is data of your life and your body giving you information. So when you get those things that set you off, maybe that's a little flag, like a little white flag from your body saying, hey, pay attention to this or your life. You might be actually to learn something that's going to enhance and make your life better.

I love that. That's like a little telltale or a little. We call them in Chinese medicine, hallelujah symptoms. So it's like that little burr or whatever. Yeah, I love that analogy. So good job. And if you think you're doing this stuff, because I know we all. There's books that we read and there's all the stuff that we do, but I think doing it and, you know, having read a journal about it or reading a book or whatever is super helpful. But I think that make sure, like, put the spotlight on this a little bit and see if we really are doing this as much as we should. I mean, I'm 47 years old and I got exposed to some of this stuff in my early 20s, and I still am just practicing and working. And you're going to have moments where you drop the ball and you react in a way you didn't want to, but you got to keep doing it, and it's going to give you so much more joy and aliveness and happy people die all the time that are doing this stuff, but they don't regret how they lived. So just keep challenging it. And I just want to say, if you love what you're hearing today, and if you love some of our previous podcasts, please share this with 3 of your friends or family members and help them get on this mindset and help them to change the way they're kind of seeing things like it's great for a spouse to listen to, right?

Yep, yep. And the more people that we share this with and download us and do all that good stuff, the more likelihood that we get to do this deeper, longer and reach more people and make more impact. So that would be wonderful. Download us. Give us a hey. Encourage with your friends. Oh hey. All right.

Thank you guys. We appreciate your time, appreciate you listening and appreciate you sharing. And Amy, as always, love talking with you. Thank you so much.

Thank you Brian. We appreciate you a lot.

Bye guys.

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