A short YouTube advice clip (Anwar White, June 17, 2024) urging plus-sized women — and women generally — to "own their space" in dating and stop shrinking themselves. The speaker advises dating men who are genuinely into you rather than chasing uninterested men, and describes an "Olympic dating" roster strategy (gold/silver/bronze: a reach, a match, and a safety who courts you) so you can experience being pursued and diversify prospects.
Chapters
Tips for plus size dating. You know what the gag is about my plus sized ladies?
The plus size girls are the ones that are shrinking the most.
The plus sized girls are the ones, the ladies that in my experience are playing the smallest, no shade girl. But if you got that size, you better take up that space. Own it. Own the space that you're having, also.
Growing. And this is not just for plus size ladies. These are, this advice is for every lady.
You are going to need to date the men that are obsessed with you, that like you. So many of us are trying to make fetch happen. We're trying to try to get the guy that isn't checking for us. Girl, we got, we got some sort of.
Sadomasochistic something girl right where we just want, we want somebody to reject us. Girl, you got a rejection kink.
Yeah. The guys that aren't taking you seriously, you want to chase them. Don't do that, girl. This is how things become very difficult.
Okay? I'm tired of it and this why I'm speaking up on it, girl. Because a lot of you all are making dating really hard and literally. And this is the gag. And this is what I want you all to know as well, because a lot of the girls aren't telling you this, but this is important if you're going to have your roster.
If you want a chase girl. Okay? So, you know, if you follow me, you know I'm always about Olympic dating, which means that you need to have a gold medalist, a silver medalist and a bronze medalist. One of those guys. It's kind of like, like applying to college. One should be a reach, one should be a reach one. One should be on your level and one should be a safety, not a safety, as in you're settling a safety as a guy that you're obsessed with and you're going to see if things warm up or not. A lot of you all are not giving the safety, the guys that are living for you a chance because.
You'Re not like physically attracted to them right now or you think you're better than them.
Yeah.
You need to literally diversify and talk to all of this. This is how you gain a roster and the roster. It's a game changer. Olympic dating is a game changer. So.
The guy that you feel like, oh, we could kind of be a good match, your stretch.
And then also in your roster, the safety guy, not because you might marry him, but it is important to have that experience of a guy that you don't really like as much because.
It'S important to have the experience of a guy really courting you and doing everything for you and being obsessed with you.
