Watch this if you're having a hard time

Every once in a while I would find myself in a rut or just flat out having a hard time. I used to lay in bed for 14, 15, 16 hours a day. I would, by the time I'd get out of bed, the day was already over and the sun would be going down. Or if I had work or school, I would go to school and it feels like I would get up out of bed, go to school, the day would pass by, I get home, I had basically no energy. Maybe I'd play some video games, I'd do doom scroll a little bit and then I'd go back to sleep. And weeks, months would pass by. And it got to the point where I just felt like, ugh, I feel icky, I felt disgusted. And enough was enough. And the reason why I'm making this video here today is because first of all, I went and was on a walk earlier today here in Europe. I'm out in Luxembourg currently and I was watching this beautiful majestic castles. There was a little slight rain and I was looking at bridges with trains going by. It was perfect fall day. And I'm thinking to myself, wow, like, I am living the most best day of my life. Like every day is an incredible day. I have so much gratitude. I'm on country number four on this little like three month Europe trip that I'm on. I've made millions of dollars in my life. I have more purpose than ever before. I, I have an incredible relationship with my girlfriend of almost like four years now. I love my family, my family's incredible. I get so much love and support online, on social media all day. I have an incredible company and employees and people that I work with. And I'm thinking to myself, like, my life is incredible. While I was on this walk though, I was like, it's so easy to get lost when life is so good that just like in the moment of like, everything is so well. But it took a time of gratitude and appreciation and, and realize that like my life was not like this for most of it. And in fact most of it's like how I described straight up out of the beginning of this video. And so this video is for those of you that want to do more, that want to like get out of first of all this rut in this funk and then also on how to actually change your life to not feel the way that you do. Because the worst part of it all is just the feeling. The worst part is like the feeling of a feeling like crap. And so I'll read you with this quote because I think this is like the scariest part of it all, which is when the soul is impoverished, the ego is easily seduced. And it's in these times when we feel at our weakest, it's very easy to slip up and grab like, easy solutions, easy solutions to our. To our happiness or to our lack of happiness. Easy solutions to our lack of fulfillment. Easy solutions to the way that we feel. And this is where we start to pick up some bad addictions. This is where we start to doom scroll all day. This is where we start to watch a bunch of meaningless content. This is where we start to resort to nicotine addictions. This is where we resort to bad relationships. We seek vices that don't ever actually solve or fix the problem, but instead just prolong the problem. But it makes it in that short term, feel better. And so I'm going to tell you guys a little bit of a story about how I hit rock bottom. And this is just. I figured this is for the people that like really want to make changes in their life and are tired of having a hard time. So this, this, this can happen to you. Like hitting this hard time can happen to you even after one of the biggest wins of your life, even after you've made millions of dollars, even after you've had massive amounts of success or if you don't feel like you've achieved anything. But I, I got to the point where I hit rock bottom. My life started to fall apart. So I was in a relationship at the time for about four years and my girlfriend left me. We were more disconnected than ever before. And so after she left, I had this big, huge house, I had nice cars. I had some success in business. I was making like $30,000 a month, $50,000 a month. I partied all the time. Then I started to have a bunch of meaningless relationships. And then I got my heart hurt because I wanted to treat these meaningless relationships like something that was long term. And I ended up getting cheated on. I ended up running out of all the money that I had made. I ended up picking a few up a few different addictions. And to make it all worse, it's like my sisters were at a time, my family and my younger sisters were at a time where they were looking up to me because I was this like, accomplished person. And yet I was a terrible, like, I just was very unproud of myself and the person that I was and were looking up to me while I was in this period of my life. And it got to the point where I was so disgusted of my life. It got to a point where I, like, all the parties five days a week, just so many people in my house and people in my life that just shouldn't have been there that it got to the point where there was like literally like a cross and a porno DVD that were just on the wall of my. Of my house. And how they got there, I don't really know. Maybe one of the parties, you know, people bringing and doing weird stuff in my house. And I was just looking at this like, what is my life gotten to? What. What is the point of all this? I realized just how purposeless my life was to make things, like, even worse. I'm not like, people were not wanting to live anymore that were in my house and nobody, Nothing ever happened, which I'm glad. But it was like, it was getting to a point where I was like, okay, do I, like, do I look at the signs and do something about my life, or do I make change and actually do something for my life? And then this is when I was so disgusted, I kicked everybody out of my house. I said, nobody can be at my house anymore. And instead it was just me in this big, huge house all by myself. And this is when I fell into like one of the deepest slumps that I ever have in my life. I never wanted to get out of bed. I would literally lay in bed all day until, let's say like 5pm and then I would get up, the sun was already going down and I didn't even get to experience day. My life was literally only ever darkness. By the time I'd get out of bed, the sun was going down. I'd maybe get an hour of sun and it was just me, myself, and I. This is when I entered one of the loneliest times in my life. And I had nothing. I had no hobbies, I had no passions, I had no pursuits. My companies were in shambles. I had a client at the time, he ended up, his business fell apart and then he backed out. And a lot of. A lot, like my income went out. I ended up racking up more credit card debt than ever before. I got to the point where I had like 80, $90,000 in credit card debt. Then I got a nice car and then that basically I couldn't make the car payments. I ended up having a car get repoed. I got the car back eventually, and I never got like the repo on my record, but ended up having to just sell it. And I was able to profit on selling it. But yeah, this was Definitely like the lowest of the lows of times. And so this principles that I'm going to be talking about inside of this video are what got me out of like that rut, that funk, and now into this life that I get to live now these days, living an incredible life, living like the most gratitude that I could ever have. I don't know how to share it with you in this video. My lack of vocabulary sometimes shows, which is just like I am so grateful, so eternally grateful for the person that I am, for my current relationships, for the current life circumstances. I get my day to day life and what that looks like is forever changed. And so this is what I did. And then my goal is, I know some of this may be a little bit advanced, some of it may be a little bit intense, some of it may be a little bit much. And so my goal is to like reflecting on the past, give you something that's actionable, to start making progress so that way you can start to change your life. And I love this quote by Isaac Newton, which is that a body that is in motion stays in motion, even if it's slow, it will stay in motion. So my goal inside of here is to put you in motion, is to get you something even if it's slow, even if it's minutes, that is progress that can then have a huge exponential effect to completely change your life. Because now my day to day life, it is exponentially better, more fulfilled, more deeply purposeful than it was during those times. Exponentially. I can't even give like a magnitude a thousand x, a million X compared to what it was then. And that's why I live in so much gratitude, is because my life is so good, it's so good now. So, and maybe you yourself in this video, this is made for two people. In these times right now you feel like you have a broken life, you, your family is in shambles, your health setback, maybe that you have. My girlfriend just had her appendix burst actually while we got to Amsterdam. And I can relate to that. It's been like a month and a half now of recovery. It was one of the worst. There's complications with the surgery. It has been one of the roughest times of recovering. And so it's kind of partially my, my relatability inside of this video is like I didn't realize how hard it can be with a health implication and some of us getting set back in life. Maybe you've been laid off, maybe you're going through a divorce or maybe it's not like necessarily a broken life. But you're not amounting to the goals that you set for yourself or you're feeling the pressure of having to be a good enough. It feels very performative, especially with holidays, especially with times of going back to see your family, especially with like the amount of self reflection we have as the weather gets colder in a lot of different places, we feel a bit, we have a bit more time to reflect. And when we confront those reflections, we realize we set all these big ambitious goals for ourselves and we fell short. And so last but not least, maybe things feel out of control that steered you off course. So these are the tools that have changed my life, that have gotten me to get out of this rut, to get out of feeling stuck. And these are the things that like built me this momentum that got me so much motion that now I'm living my best life, making multiple six figures a month, having more purpose, more talent, more skill sets, more fun, more fulfilling life than ever before. So the first one is that you have to realize that it is always a system that is happening. So how systems work is you have an input, you then have the function of the system. So what does the input reflect of the system then then becomes the output. So then, then the output just feeds back into the inputs and then it goes back through as a cycle. And so if you never change the system, if you never change the frame that you view things, if you never change the tools that you are using, you will never see change in your life. And so the reason why I have to describe that is because if you have a bunch of bad inputs and bad systems, with those inputs, you will consistently have the cycle relapse over and over and over again. And even if things get better, you go back into a bad environment, a bad system, and then it's like a light switch, your brain just goes back into this old self and this old function. And so some bad inputs that can happen is your phone. If you're on your phone regularly, you are open to the whatever your phone wants to give you. It is literally a lottery. Like whatever you scroll and see next is going to dictate what you'll see next after that. And if you have a bad system, like you don't, if you watch a video for too long, if you, if you watch something that's disgusting, like if you ever watch something that's disgusting and you watch it for too long and you like it, or engage with it, open up the comments, you'll start getting a lot more of that. And so you have to like get that out of your feed entirely or just get off your phone entirely. If you use things like nicotine or weed or alcohol to try to impair like to that impairs you in any of your ability is going to have dramatic effects. If you listen to bad music, like if you listen to most music, 98% of music is going to program you a certain way. And so if you have these bad inputs, the simplest thing that you can do is to eliminate the inputs entirely and instead release, replace it with good sleep, responsibility and good inputs like books, podcasts, pieces of information that will actually get you to, that'll just naturally like unclog the the system. It's like you have a bunch of bad gas in your tank. If you have a bunch of bad gas in your tank, the the engine is going to cease up and it's going to stop it operating because the pistons can no longer fire versus if you have you add fresh fuel into it or there's even mixtures that you can add that makes the fuel even cleaner that's in your gasoline. By cleaning up the gas that you have in your engine, it can run smoother on a higher octane and it can perform a lot better. That's why race cars have to have a much higher octane than an average Honda Civic. A Honda Civic can just have garbage gas and it can still run pretty well versus a Ferrari needs the highest quality of gas that's inside of it. And so if you remove just the bad gas it will immediately make the system just run a lot smoother. And so here's some different tools is to log your progress. So take photos of the things that you're doing on a regular basis. I found one of the best tools that I've had of seeing the growth that I've had and the progress that I've had and to build more momentum in my life is by just simply documenting my day to day life. Now that I have done so much in my life, I go to my camera roll and I'll see like oh look, I saw a castle here. Or oh, I went on a walk on a beach here and then oh, here. It was like a really tough day but I had like an amazing steak dinner that night. When you have the pictures you can be reminded of the different emotions and it can track the progress. So one of the things that I've been doing over the past couple years now is for one like last six months I've been posting on TikTok every single day. I'll post at least five times a day, typically like three on a very slow day, but five to 20 times a day on TikTok, which is kind of extreme. But even just posting once a day, I could go back and scroll and see like every single day that I posted and realize like, wow, I've been insanely consistent. And by just me scrolling and seeing my progress on a timeline and, and being like, oh, this was a day ago, this is two days ago, three days ago, four days ago, five days ago, a week ago, a month ago, three months ago. And I can see that I keep, I have been consistent and constantly posting. I can track that progress. That like, oh, that was a hard day. And I posted, oh, that was a great day. And I love this video. And it is a constant reminder of the progress that you've actually made. And it's, it can show you that you showed up even when it's tough. And it's a reminder in your face that you did it even when it was hard. So you can do this with gym pictures. You can do this like taking your shirt off, you can, you can do this with making videos. Like I've done it on YouTube many times where I would post once a week or even once a day and then I would go back and be like, wow, like I can't believe I recorded this video on that day when I had nothing to talk about and I still didn't, I still showed up and this is where I was in that day. You can do it by journaling, if you have a journal and you can write down and document your progress or like just what's going on inside of your head that day. You just need something to get you out of your head because your head is, is your mind can be your biggest enemy. In an instance, as soon as it starts to have these doubts, these fears, these concerns, these shame, guilt concerns, these other emotions and feelings that other people put onto you or especially social media puts onto or bad music puts on to you, that becomes that thing that is your weapon, your sword that you have as a human being, as a man or a woman then is used against you. Because it's a double edged sword. If it starts to, if it starts to have all these negative inputs, you start to think that you're the problem. When in reality, if you document everything, if you're, if you're tracking everything, if you're looking at the steps on your phone and you're like tracking how many steps that you hit every single day, you can see like everyone has like this health app where it will automatically track your steps. I can be like, oh wow. Like today I hit 6,000 steps. And then yesterday was a pretty good day. I hit about 10,000 steps. I don't know if that showed through the correct way, but you need something that tracks the progress. Okay, so log your progress. The next thing is movement is an antidepressant. So moving, doing anything is going to help get you out of whatever funk that you're in. So if you're laying in bed, you're doing whatever. Go on a walk. The simplest thing is just go on a walk. You saw how many steps that I hit every single day lately get at least 4 or 5,000. And part of it's because my girlfriend can't walk too much. So I don't go on walks as much instead of spending more time with her, but when she's better and she's healthy, we're hitting 10, 15, 20,000 steps a day. If I go back like a week or two ago or like I guess longer than a week or two ago, like a month ago when she was better, you can see actually that I was hitting on average like 10,000 steps a day. And we were going on walks pretty much every single day for long periods of time. And so that's going to the gym, riding a bike, even if you have none of these accessible to you, it's too cold. Outside is just doing pushups, doing sit ups, crunches, and just log it inside of your phone every single day. How many push ups that you did, how many sit ups that you did. Because when you log it and you can go back and see what you did, take pictures, you can go back and see how much progress that you made. Because by a day, by a week, by a month, you realize, wow, I've been insanely consistent. So the next one is to change your environment. This is one of the easiest things to get out of your funk now. It is one of like the most you have to like go and actually do something out of this entire process, but is to like change your, change your environment. So a lot of times I'll just go on like a week long excursion to some new place that I've never been to before. Over the past like three years now, I've gone to some new place at least once a month. And then over the past year I've gone to some new place about every week, sometimes every three days, sometimes every two weeks at max. But I'm always constantly going to a new place. Now that is me, like I'm I'm. I have the financial capability to do that. I can book first class plane tickets everywhere I go. I stay at five star hotels like I am now and I'm always able to stay in incredible places. Now that's not for most people. Like you just can't. You just don't have the means to be able to do that at the beginning. So at first it's just like even just going to a place that you haven't been to before. Go to a coffee shop that you've never been to before in town, go to another part of town that you've never been to, go find a lake to go get more connected with nature, go to, go on a drive to some place that you've never been to before. Do something to get out of your environment and especially go into a place that you've never been to before. But because every time you go into a new place, it'll give you a new life perspective. I have never been depressed by seeing new places and going and doing new things. It gives new neurons for more data for my brain to consume and for it to operate out of. And because I'm getting all of this new data, it's easy to reprogram my brain. It's easy to change the direction of my life. It's easy to, it's easy to set a goal, have a vision and make it happen. Because first of all, the act of having a place that you're going to is just that you have a vision of where you want to go and you actually go there. But then it's also it, it changes your perspective of the world by going and doing something new. I have never regretted going somewhere. I've never regretted going on a trip. I've never regretted going on like to some new thing. What I have regretted is when I did absolutely nothing. When I have regretted is saying no to things I have regretted not taking action on things I have regretted me holding myself back in life because I, my, my ego gets on the way that I'm like, oh, I don't need to go do that experience. Like I've already watched the videos about it and then robbing myself of actually physically going there. Nothing is better than actually being to the place, than just seeing the pictures of the place. Anytime that I go to some place now or travel to some new country, I'm always like, this is way better in person than in the pictures. I can't say I've ever had a place I was like or a thing that I've done Where I'm like, oh yeah, the picture was way better than the. Than the actual experience. Even if I had a terrible time, even if the weather was bad, even if there was something that went wrong on the trip, it's the growth that I had in those unexpecting moments and that randomness that was invited into my life that grew me as a person and it allowed me to grow more. And then that comes over to the next point, which is to have more output. So it's to talk more, to write more, to record more, and to even paint or do something that is more artistic. Me recording this video right now is a form of pouring out what is stuck inside of my head and getting it out there. It's a form of growth, of learning how to articulate better and to take the ideas and the thoughts and the feelings that I have and to share it with the world and to get better at that skill set because. But it is also a form of taking what is in my head and getting it out there. Because we all know that if we consume too many calories and we don't move, we'll get fat. But what is less commonly talked about is the more that we consume, the more we scroll, the more we watch, the more we read, the more TV that we watch or movies, the more stimulation that we are receiving. And the more if we don't do anything with this information, the more fat our head is getting and then the fatter that it gets, the less that it wants to move and the less it wants to move. And then it just becomes this never ending cycle of us having this mind that just works against us, this ugly mind, this disgusting mind, this one that just comes up with terrible ideas and just does nothing with its life and then just builds a lot of regret, shame and guilt that doesn't serve you at all in life. And so you need to have some sort of output. Whether it's to talk on camera, whether it's to talk with a friend. You could even call your dad or your mom on a regular basis or some sort of family member or a friend even, that helps out to write and to journal with yourself, to record videos like I am now. Even if you never post them, you can also post them and that also helps as well. It can be on TikTok, it can be on YouTube, it can be on Instagram, it could be a secret page that nobody even knows about and that could just be your little diary or your log. It could be to paint or to draw or to do something artistically you just need some form of output on a regular basis. Because again, if you consume too much, you will get fat. And when you get too fat, you have other health implications that come with it. The next one is to connect with others. And this one's more so just to be present in life. I'll go on walks as you. As I talked about earlier all the time. And as I'm walking, I'll run into all sorts of different people. And I found there's two types of people. There is the happiest person that I will ever see in the world. They always like, they acknowledge you this. They may even stop and say hello. Especially when you're in like a small town or someplace where there's less people. You'll see people that. You'll have like the most random conversations with people that you've ever met. The most depressed people I ever see are the ones when I go into a city. And then they don't ever acknowledge you. They won't even make eye contact with you. They won't even have a conversation with you. They're inhuman. They won't even smile at you, nod at you, acknowledge you. You're nothing to them. You're absolutely nothing to them. And anytime that you. And I've tried this myself, anytime that I never acknowledge any, anyone, I'm acknowledging a part of myself. I'm acknowledging a version of myself. I am excusing myself from the human existence and putting myself into a class of, Of. Of nothing, of, of. Of a meaningless, soulless person. And so by simply just acknowledging people, simply by just saying like, hello, howdy, how do you do? Bonjour. Some little thing like that. Hola. By saying that goes a long ways. It's just a presence thing. It's you being human. It's. It's you being a part of the human experience. So many people, they self isolate themselves in dead public. You'll be at a grocery store, they won't even say excuse me. They'll just go up and grab the chips and then just move on with their day. While you're sitting in traffic, they honk the horn at you and they flip you off as they drive by and they go around you. I was in an Uber the other day in Amsterdam and this guy was honking crazy road rage. Get out of the way. There's this car driving slow in front of him. He's like going crazy, honking the horn for like three minutes straight. And then we finally go. He has a time to go around the car because if you're ever in Amsterdam, the roads are really tiny. And so finally there's an opening. We go around the the car that was in front of us. As we drive by, I look off and see the man in my right. The man was 80 years old, maybe 70s. He was just an older man. And here was this guy just being a total D bag, just slamming on the horn bad. You lose her, get out of the way, get off the road. And it was. This man was just trying to probably get to his destination. He probably doesn't even live in the city. He probably had to go there to go pick up some pastries or something like that. And he was forced to go there out of his way or he was going to meet up with an old friend, probably didn't live in town and probably lived from like in the farms or something. And he had to go into the city. And you got this guy just being a total D bag, trying to race to his spot. So he saves an extra 30 seconds dropping off the customer, making our ride less enjoyable and making me want to leave the guy a bad review. I didn't leave a bad review, but, you know, the thought was definitely there. All because the guy was impatient, the guy was selfish, and the guy couldn't see have compassion of the human that was next to him. And when you lose compassion of other people, you are losing compassion of yourself. Your heart becomes hard, your soul starts to become impoverished, it stops getting fed. And when you stop feeding your soul, so comes the light, or so comes the darkness, and the light fades away inside of yourself. And so that brings me over to the next point, which is to stretch your mind. Stretch your mind, do things that challenge you like. For me, recording this video was a bit challenging, to be honest. I had a lot that was inside of my head. I spent about a good hour and a half writing multiple pages of notes. I wrote it up on my computer, consulted with different people on some of the different ideas I listened to, found a bunch of quotes that I liked and compiled them all into here. I even then wrote them all down into a journal to really cement it in. I had some conversations with myself. I meditated on this. And then here I am recording this video in efforts to become more articulate, in efforts to connect better with you watching this video and to build a relationship with you strangers that I love so much on the Internet. And to just become better at this gift of talking and to do so many other benefits for me in my life. And the best thing I can give you is to stretch your mind. Do something that's tough because we'll talk about it in a moment. But overwhelm means that you're learning. And if you have nothing that's hard in your life, you will find things that are hard in your life. I remember I parked one day outside of this lady's house, and she came out yelling at me. She's like, get out of here. Like, my family's going to park right there in that spot. Like, you're in my spot. There was, like, wide open street, all these different parking spots, and it was just the one that was closest to my friend's house, but. And there was another spot right next to my car. Came out yelling at me, saying she was going to call the cops, that she was going to, like, sue me. And I was just like, this awful, terrible person, and I needed to go park somewhere else. And while, yeah, maybe there was some, like, compassion to be there on my end of. Like, okay, yeah, maybe she had a family member that was disabled or something, you know, whatever. But that being said, that is all that that lady had to worry about all. All her life. She was in a nice neighborhood, in a nice place, and her life was so good that she had nothing that was a problem. And whenever you have no problems in your life, you come up with the dumbest things as problems. Like, that's the thing about, like, a lot of these Karens is their lives are just so good, they're so taken care of that they don't even have to have a purpose anymore. And their purpose is literally just to come up with problems out of thin air that doesn't even matter anymore. And so if you have things that stretch your mind on a regular basis, it will calm you down, it will give you more purpose in your life. It'll. It'll stretch your mind to actually overcome any sort of challenges that you face or anything that you have that comes in your way in life. And it'll just overall make you a better person. And so here's a list of some of the things that I did in this times that were so dark for me. And then even some of the things that I've picked up recently. So I'll actually. Recently. Well, in those times I was dark, I went to take salsa classes, Funny enough. I started going to the gym and getting stronger and trying to, like, go move up in weights. And then I started actually doing jiu jitsu classes. And that's when I started, like, those three or four things that I started doing started to just improve not only my skill Sets. But it also improved my mental health. And it was something to like overcome because you start going out in salsa dancing and you realize, wow, that person's been doing this for a decade. And they compete in championships like all over the world. That person is insanely good. And it gives you something to strive towards. It gives you like, it gives you socially something to want to become better at. As I'm like, you know, move my hips and my shoulders like I'm dancing right now. And then other things I picked up over time is playing chess, learning history, learning success principles, trying to remember different things, learning new languages. Like I've been learning some Spanish, some, some French, some German, reading different books on success. And just like things like reading books above my normal reading level to develop my ability to articulate, give myself a better vocabulary. And these things that are like kind of hard, that like don't really need to be hard. It, it, it forces me to get better at life. Oh. One that I was thinking too is yoga. I started doing yoga classes. So stretching the mind, doing things that you haven't done before, doing things that make you feel a little bit uncomfortable in the moment are the things that are best, best for your mind and for your growth. And then last but not least is having a bias towards action. It is, it is moving when you need, when you have an idea inside of your head. If there's anything that called to you in your soul, into your inspiration inside this video, take action on it. That like, that is like the best thing I could give you out of any of this. I'll jump into some reframes inside of here into how you can reframe some of these different things that might happen that turn your, your mind against you. But at the end of the day, if you just take action on things, if you move, if you go, if you run, if you sprint, if you walk, if you crawl, that will be the best thing for you, is crawling towards your goals, towards your purpose, towards anything. Even if just doing five push ups, you'll feel better about yourself. So here's a few reframes is that first of all, overwhelm means that you're learning. If you ever feel overwhelmed, if you ever feel like there's a lot going on in your life, if you're going through a divorce, if you're overcoming an addiction, if you're overcoming some challenges in your life, if you're called to do more in your life and you're just like a little bit overwhelmed by all of it, that's good. That's a gift. That means you're learning. That means growth is on your on your side. Overwhelm is the best thing for you. The next one is that growth is invisible. Most of the work that you're going to do is never going to see the light of day. And it is the acknowledgment of that. What people are seeing, what you are seeing, the highlight reels on Instagram, what you are seeing as the highlights of people's lives is just that is the highlights. You're not seeing the countless amounts of invisible progress that most people are seeing. You may think I may be quite articulate in this video, or you may have gotten a lot out of this video, but what you haven't seen is 2,000 videos that I've recorded on YouTube. The almost 2,000 videos now I've recorded on Tik Tok. The 500,000 coaching calls that I've done, I've done this year. Almost 30 live events where I've talked for three hours straight. The amount of crazy amount of listens that I've gone through, the the hundred times that I hit the overdraft feature in my bank account, the times that I kept going when it was hard, the amount of emails I've written, whatever it is you haven't seen, you're just seeing this video. You're just seeing the highlights. You're just seeing the millions of dollars I make. You're just seeing the $50,000 watch that I wear. You're just seeing the highlights, not the reps. I try to make the reps public, but you're going to go through growth and they're going to be invisible as well. And so always track reps, not the outcome. Track the amount of sales calls that you make, don't track the amount of closes that you made. Track the amount of push ups you do, not how you look in the gym, look in the mirror. You can track it like in the grand scheme of things, but more importantly track how many push ups that you do. And then also focus on like annual things, your annual goals, not just your monthly, just your weekly or just your daily. Because when you look at the grand scheme of things over the past 12 months, a lot of times we've come a long way. Over the past five years, we've come a tremendously wrong long way. But if we look at the week, we can feel like we're moving backwards. If we look at the month, we can feel like we're moving backwards. But when you track things in longer periods of time, in Longer time horizons, you can see a huge difference. A lot of that's because a lot of our current situations and circumstances that we are facing are from the actions and the decisions that we made six months ago or even two years ago, or even three years ago. The money that I make now is because of the decisions that I made three years ago and the actions that I made three years ago. And even how it works in the month to month basis is dictated upon how things planned out six months ago and the initiatives that I started and the work that I didn't do and the work that I did do is what's happening today. Think in decades, not days. The next is to control the controllables. The job isn't the outcome, it's how you show up. There's only so many finite things that we can control. Focus on those, focus on how you show up. Focus on your ability to constantly show up on a regular basis. Focus on your skill sets getting better. Focus on the invisible progress and just control what you can control. There's things that are going to happen that are out of your control. The weather outside, what happens in your industry, you know, what's going on in your health, life. Sometimes you can just have some freak thing like your appendix burst. Now, there's things that you can do to stay healthier. There's things that you can do to recover faster so that way, or stay in a better health so that way you can recover faster. Or to minimize the amount of these things that just happen in your life. But things happen. I think this year I had like three funerals I went to. I had so many different challenges. We had some financial issues that happened this year. We had my girlfriend with her appendix. I had. Those are just to name a few off the quick top of my head. But every single year I have stuff going on. Every single year you have stuff going on. What you do with those circumstances dictates everything. If things feel hard, I pay attention to the inputs. And so if my life starts to get really difficult just out of nowhere, I then start to question, okay, what have I been inputting? And more. So when I say, say what's been hard, I look at my emotions. It's like, have I been listening to bad music? Have I been doom scrolling more lately? Have I been drinking more? Have I been, you know, a lot of nicotine or things that are like just vices that don't actually help me make me feel any better? Am I watching a lot of stupid content? Am I consuming just meaningless stuff? Am I not Am I losing sight of my purpose? Then I realized that I need to start changing my inputs. I start going to church more, I start reading better books, I start listening to better music, I start surrounding myself with better people. And at the end of the day, if it's hard to overcome, if you have things that are extremely challenging that you're facing, you'll simply be ahead of most by just overcoming these circumstances that you have been dealt with. Because most people will give up on it. Most people will have to be like, hey, I have to go record a video. And then they give up before they even record the video. Because it's so tough or so challenging to articulate the video, the video in a way that they feel like is going to serve people, is to going to move people, is going to provide value by simply me. Recording this video puts me ahead of 99.99% of people. Because most people, they have an idea in their head and they don't do anything with it. You're going to come overcome most people by just doing something with some of the stuff that I gave you in this video. 99.99% of people that are feeling stuck, feeling lost or not growing in life and are in this rut aren't going to do anything. They're not going to move. By you simply moving and you simply doing something is going to put you far, far ahead of everybody else. And this is the last point out of all of this I will leave you with is at the end of the day, you need a purpose. You need a purpose that's bigger than you. A purpose that gets you out of bed every single day. A purpose that feels just on the edge of impossibility, but so close to impossibility that it feels possible, but not too easy, that feels unmotivating once you achieve it, but something that makes you feel fulfilled on a regular basis. Because if you give a man responsibility, you'll never hear him question his direction ever again. The more purpose that I have, the more responsibility that I have in my life, the more purpose that I have. And the more purpose that I have, the less of a rut that I get into. When my girlfriend was going through this hard times this past month and a half, I had to be there for her even when I didn't want to be, even when I was tired. Had to help her put her socks on, her shoes on, some of the most basic stuff, making sure that she ate. That was my mission for the day. When I have team members and employees and payroll, I have to Make I don't get to sit around and think, oh, you know, like I'm so depressed or I want to lay in bed all day, or like I feel stuck. No, I have to go make the payroll. When I have people that look up to me and feel inspired by me, I have to have better morals and values and lead with them. When I have a family that needs me to be there for them. When they're going through stuff in life, me as a man, I have to go do that for them. And so if you want to have a purpose and you want all this to go away, take on more responsibilities, then you can start to question, are those responsibilities really worth it for you? And maybe you can say no to some stuff and say yes to things that are more aligned with your longer term purpose that you want to have in life. But responsibilities aren't a bad thing, they're a good thing. But be intentional with the responsibilities that you acquire because somebody who takes on a bunch of dumb responsibilities that aren't really meant for them, then you're living your life that's pretty meaningless or pretty unexciting and pretty boring in life. And then, you know, you kind of end up stuck in this cycle. So anyways, I make these videos. This is very hard for me to share some of the stuff inside of this video, but I do it in efforts to help change your guys's lives. I make this channel to do it as a little bit of a podcast and to just kind of document the things that have gone through and changed my life and to, to give you the gratitude that I've seen on the other side of everything because my life is so incredible now these days. And I remember what it was like to be in a situation that you may be facing that's talent, challenging or tough. And maybe I might have to rewatch this video in the future if I'm going through some stuff. And so I love you all. I appreciate you all so much for watching this video. And if you made it to this far, I appreciate you guys. So anyways, look forward to seeing you in other videos and let's get you out of this little rut. Let's get you unstuck, go take action on something inside of this video and you'll feel the progress. Just do a little bit more every single day. Stay in motion. See you guys.