Mihail Pautovmedic, IC Fundeni · Doctor Mihail - Medic specialist în chirurgie generală, Educator de sănătate

A cere permisiunea arată respect și grijă față de celălalt și e un instrument util în relații.

10 Feb 2025 · 1 min

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This content was created by Mihail Pautov. This content was uploaded by Mihail Pautov. This is a YouTube excerpt (title: "A cere permisiunea arată respect și grijă față de celălalt și e un instrument util în relații.") from 2025-02-10 featuring a short conversational exchange in English about interpersonal communication and permission-seeking in relationships. Participants include a facilitator/therapist-style speaker (labeled SPEAKER A) who explains how asking permission calms the nervous system and improves giving advice, and Mihail Pautov, who reflects on the tendency to feel entitled to comment and suggests self-checking before offering opinions. The clip focuses on practical relational techniques (asking permission, noticing bodily responses, regulating agitation) and appears instructional/therapeutic in context.

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I'm going to ask you a question, you tell me how your body responds. Yeah. Can I share something with you? Yeah. What happened when you said yeah and I asked you that question? I took my fits up. Yeah. And you was there an opening or a closing? Opening. Yeah, exactly. Why? Because I asked you permission. Asking permission is so important, not just in therapy but in relationship. Maybe you do have something valid to share. Because if I ask you permission and you say yes, I've prepared your nervous system to receive something I want to give you, which might be advice. So if you're in relationship with a wife or a child, try that technique. Try it once just to see.
But we somehow feel entitled to comment, like to say what they say.
Exactly. We feel entitled, but it's not a feeling of entitlement. Where is it coming from? Our own agitation and tension. So it's not an entitlement, it's a self protection. It's how do I control this environment by saying what I think and trying to control it with my opinion. And if we're able to sit with that and say, hmm, this is my agitation, my tension, maybe my words might be helpful to this relationship. Let's find out that permission seeking, that kind of communication, that kind of asking and honoring the other person as an equal is so important and it doesn't happen unless we start with the individual practices.
If you feel the need to come with your opinion and to give an advice like take a step back and ask yourself, why do you feel that what is inside your body.