Mihail Pautovmedic, IC Fundeni · Doctor Mihail - Medic specialist în chirurgie generală, Educator de sănătate

Când mănânci din stres, plictiseală sau tristețe, nu e foame, e emoție. Tu cum gestionezi poftele?

28 Feb 2025 · 1 min

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A speaker describes a technique for handling cravings (illustrated with porn use): stay with the craving without reacting, identify the underlying emotion or unmet need (anger, sadness, stress, avoidance), and shift focus from trying to stop the behavior to understanding why it occurs. By resolving the underlying need the behavior often disappears without relying on willpower.

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When I began asking myself those kinds of questions, what am I feeling right now that's making me want to want this consumption? What am I angry about? What am I sad about? What am I not confronting? What am I stressed about? What happened was two things. Firstly, I was able to stay with the craving without reacting to it, which is very important so that the craving can pass. But then what I always found was a sensation or an emotion that triggered some kind of release. Then, and this is the most important thing, I stopped focusing on stopping to watch porn. Because when I was focusing on stopping, I was still focusing on it. It was still a dominant narrative in my mind. I was still saying, not this instead of this, this, this. It was not this, not this, not this. But it was still there in my mind. When I brought my focus to the circumstances beneath the surface of the behavior, all of a sudden, the behavior didn't matter. It's like, well, that's not important. What's important is why I'm going there. And focusing on the why empowered me to surrender to something that was beyond the behavior. And as I was able to solve the need that the behavior was fulfilling, guess what happened to the behavior? It vanished. It vanished without trying. There was no willpower. Zero. It just stopped.