Mihail Pautovmedic, IC Fundeni · Doctor Mihail - Medic specialist în chirurgie generală, Educator de sănătate

Substanțele sau comportamentele adictive oferă o alinare temporară a unei probleme. Tu știai asta?

16 Mar 2025 · 1 min

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A short YouTube monologue by Mihail Pautov reflecting on pornography and addictive behaviours as temporary solutions to unmet emotional needs. The speaker describes porn as a coping strategy used to avoid painful vulnerability, criticizes stigma and self-judgment for perpetuating the behaviour, and recommends exploring and integrating the underlying pain and developing emotional skills to remove the need for the behaviour.

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Porn is not the reason why you didn't know how to express your needs. When you have a problem and instead of solving it, you go to porn. Right, Exactly. That's so important. Porn wasn't the problem, it was the solution. It was how I avoided the pain of, of my needs not being met. Instead of knowing, instead of having a vulnerable conversation which might be painful and uncomfortable, I didn't know how to have that. I didn't have that skill set. I didn't know what an emotion even was. Then I could passive aggressively go and find the connection that I, that I needed through porn. Porn was the solution. And when I started treating porn as the solution rather than the problem is when it disappeared because I stopped judging him. Because that's the stigma. The stigma is on the behavior. There's something wrong with this. There's something wrong with this. You shouldn't do this. This is so bad. This is disgusting. Whatever it may be, that's what perpetuates it. When I started realizing, holy shit, porn has been helping me solve a problem for a really long time. Let's go find out what that problem was. So let's go find out the pain that this porn was attempting to help me avoid. And when I was able to integrate and explore that pain, well, why do I need the protection anymore?