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What's the difference between guilt and shame?

Guilt that you're describing says, you have what I call an inner critic. Something lives inside of you and says, you're not being productive. You should be more productive. It still may feel lousy, but no shame. Here's where shame enters. If you don't know that's a criticism and you're just thinking, what's wrong with me? Why aren't I productive? I should be doing something about that. I should have more coffee. I should sleep better. See, you're trying to correct. If I said, you're an idiot, then you would say, screw you. I'm not an idiot. But if you had shame and I said, you're an idiot, you would think, why am I such an idiot? Can you follow? One would be nasty. You might say, that hurts, David. I don't like when you talk to me that way. No shame, you just don't like me. But if you took it in and believe it, and you start thinking, what did I do wrong? I always do this. Whenever I talk to people, they say this about me. Now you're in a state of mind that's looking for what's wrong with you. You're trying to diagnose yourself. That's shame operating. And you can spend forever in that cycle of, why don't I do this? I should do that. I'm, etc.

Feeling the guilt is not. Is not that bad as feeling the shame. Yeah. The guilt is like, I. I know I have a critic inside of me, and I hear it and I'm feeling guilty.

Yeah.

But the shame is when I believe the critics.

You believe the critic or you don't notice it at all.