How people justify cheating

Often having an affair requires a victim mentality. You have to believe that you're suffering. The person that you're with is not doing anything right in the bedroom. They're stupid, they're lazy, they don't even listen to you. They're constantly never ever meeting up to your standard when the truth is those are all justifications for the behavior and the acting out that you're already planning to do. So the number one reason that people act out is because they've made their spouse, their partner, The villain of their own story, and now to rescue themselves, they cheat. This is Dr. Monique Thompson. Follow me for more tips on how to understand infidelity and what to do about it. Sometimes when you've justified it in your mind, you realize you're villainizing someone else. The real step you want to take is a pause, a pause to look inward and to figure out why you really are the villain in your own story. How are you the villain? If you cannot rescue yourself, From a situation, that means that you are in fact incompetent, inept, unable to take care of yourself. Now we know that's not true, but if you believe your own lie, believe that you're the villain of your own story, then you require rescue through escape. Don't do that. Pause. Rescue yourself by changing inwardly. Choose to be someone you can trust. Choose to be trustworthy. Trust me, this works out better. See you soon.