Monique ThompsonLicensed Professional Counselor-Supervisor & Infidelity Recovery Specialist

Trying to calm down during heartbreak

12 Oct 2026 · 1 min

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In this brief coaching video, Dr. Monique Thompson, a therapist who specializes in helping couples recover from infidelity, guides viewers through a walking exercise designed to reduce emotional distress and gain clarity after a breakup or betrayal. She explains that while walking, viewers should pose two mutually exclusive (polar opposite) questions to themselves—such as “Am I okay? / Am I not okay?” or “Do I love them? / Do I not love them?”—and continue walking for at least two minutes (ideally up to fifteen) until an internal answer emerges. The purpose of the exercise is to move beyond uncertainty and help the individual decide whether to stay in or leave the relationship. Dr. Thompson concludes by inviting viewers to reach out for further support and to follow her on Instagram and YouTube for more infidelity‑management tips.

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You're outside, you're walking, and you're trying to calm down. Why? Because maybe you've got some questions that your partner hasn't explained, hasn't, hasn't told you what they mean by this or what they meant by that. They haven't explained why they did what they did, and you're walking and you're trying to calm down. Here's what I want you to do while you're walking, while you're trying to calm down. I'm Dr. Monique Thompson. I help couples recover from infidelity. And when you take a walk, there are some powerful things you can do during your walk that will help you take things a little bit further towards deciding whether to stay, whether to leave, Kind of getting out of uncertainty. You want to give yourself 2 polar opposite questions. You can ask yourself, am I okay? Am I not okay? You can ask yourself, do I feel good today? Do I feel bad today? Opposite questions. Do I love them? Do I not love them? Do I love myself? Do I not love myself? Opposite questions. And gently walk. 2 minutes minimum, 15 minutes optimal. Or as long as you can until you hear an answer come from inside of yourself. This is Dr. Monique Thompson. I'm here to help you walk through this. Reach out to me if you want. Follow me on Instagram, follow me on YouTube for more tips on how to manage through infidelity for couples.